Obviously, everyone has their own idea on what a booty call means to them, but the majority can agree that it means getting laid. The vast majority connect this term with a sudden desire to engage in sexual relations, where you know just the person to call and who will most likely be accessible to fulfill your itch. A booty call can be a mature beneficial understanding between two people, where if your wants are in a state of harmony, and nobody is fulfilling the itch at the moment, you invite the person to satisfy your sudden urge. Nowadays, you don’t usually call the person up like before, but text or use a form of social media to connect with someone.

Finding a booty call isn't a science exactly, and can take experimentation before you arrive on a potential partner who checks all the boxes. You can start by the contact list you have on your phone, it is a good start. Booty calls are not quite the same as one night stands, in light of the fact that there is frequently some sort of history or pre-built up relationship - kinship, companions of companions, met a month ago - with the person you are reaching. Perhaps it's the young lady you went on one date with a few weeks prior who you were totally not into, yet had a slamming body. Or a man who just wasn’t appealing to you, but he had the muscles of great sex toy. Then again, it can be an old school companion you stay in contact with irregularly. How have other people met their booty calls companion? Happy you inquired.

Social media has as much power as the government has, which is quite scary. Creating a Tinder profile can be a start for a booty call relationship. This can be a waste of time if you aren’t patient to find the perfect booty call match. There are very few girls who would meet a complete stranger from a dating app and have sex with them. You can use the dating app as an advantage, but just remember you do have to meet up with this person and establish a connection. If you do go on that route, you can put that you are not looking for anything serious on your profile.

Meeting the guy or girl is the hard part. Especially if s/he is a complete stranger to you. There has to be boundaries established on the first encounter. The ground rules that this is just purely a sexual relationship and nothing more. So now you have found your potential booty call. For it to work out, the next step is to remember that this relationship is strictly sex and not a real relationship, which I find the the most difficult part of having the booty call relationship.

It is great to know and make sure you and your booty call are on the same page in the terms of what is requested of the relationship. For example, maybe getting tested for an STI and sharing the status, using protection against it and making sure nobody ends up pregnant.

Booty calls should never be used as a piece of a coercive path or as an assurance for maybe something later on. In case you are both consenting adults open to examining this sort of 'sex on demand' lifestyle, I say put everything hanging in the balance. Lay out the standard strategies and wants you both have of this agreement and make sure there is an understanding of it. If s/he turns your booty call down, don't push the issue either. In case you offer a booty call to someone and they say no, it closes there. No one adores the drawn out, 'Come on baby, I'm so horny,' or sending a dick pic with a caption stating - , 'See how hard I am for you’. Be a grown-up and respect their boundaries.

Talking about other points is also good to include, like if spending the night is OK or who will be supplying condoms or what you’re into during sex. Talk about needs, desire and fantasies so in order that the experience is worthwhile.

I shall delve even deeper in my research and see what others think about this topic! Until next week.

XOXO - J