The Benefit of the Doubt

The Benefit of the Doubt

When enough is enough.


I was a doormat for most of my middle and high school life, and in retrospect I pity myself. It was instilled in me from a young age that I needed to be nice to everyone, no matter how badly they treated me in return. I was, and still am, a strong believer in giving second and even third chances, but as I began college and started living in the real world, I came to this realization that second chances should only be given to those who deserve your forgiveness and your respect. If someone has consistently taken advantage of you and made you unhappy, there is no reason for you to keep letting them back in. History shows that they will continue their behavior once again. At one point or another giving someone "the benefit of the doubt" becomes a way for you to enable their behavior and enable them to infringe upon our own happiness.

You need to ask yourself, why am I holding on to this person if all they do Is hurt me over and over again? You might have religious reasons, you might be childhood friends, or maybe you're just too nice. Holding on to someone who tears you down, doesn't show you respect, and takes advantage of you is not someone who should have a place in your life. The vicious cycle of them hurting you will only continue, tearing you down in the process, and using up all your mental energy to figure out what you might have done wrong to make them mad this time. Why should their happiness come at the expense of yours? No matter if you've known them for 10 years or 10 days, there's a point at which enough is enough. You need to let them go, and let them find happiness within themselves. To give the benefit of the doubt does not mean you should let them stomp all over you and then treat them like royalty in return. It means treating them with the respect they give you, and when they make a mistake, giving them a second chance, only as long as they deserve it. In the real world, employers, coworkers, and partners won't be as forgiving because the consequences have higher stakes. To better yourself, you need to surround yourself with people who treat you how you deserve to be treated so that you can do the same to others in return.

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10 Things To Do If You Are In The D.C. Area This Holiday Season

There's nothing like Christmas in the Nation's Capital.


Looking for something fun to do during the holidays? Well, if you're in the D.C. area this holiday season, here are 10 fun things to do to get in the Christmas spirit!

Go see the National Christmas Tree.

The National Christmas Tree

A beloved tradition, the National Christmas Tree in Washington gathers spectators from all across the nation, and is truly a marvelous sight.

Visit the National Zoo at night to see the festive event, ZooLights.

The ZooLights

After many of the animals have gone to sleep, the zoo comes to life for the holiday season, with light displays sure to evoke that true spirit of Christmas.

Attend a Capitals game.

A Capitals Game

After last season's win of the Stanley Cup, the Washington Capitals have contagious energy that brings spirit to both the season and the game.

Go to a performance of The Nutcracker at the Warner Theater.

The Nutcracker

Witness Clara's journey with an American twist, as George Washington takes the role of the famous Nutcracker.

See the holiday display at the Botanical Gardens.

The Botanical Gardens

Enjoy festive floral displays, filled with poinsettias galore!

Visit the National Harbor to see the Gaylord’s ICE exhibit.

ICE at The Gaylord

Sculptures of ice make art a part of the holiday season at the Gaylord in the National Harbor. This year's focus on Rudolph is sure to excite all onlookers!

Stroll through the Downtown Holiday Market.

The Holiday Market

Open noon to eight daily from November 23rd to December 23rd, the Holiday Market, which is located on F Street between 7th and 9th and across from the National Portrait Gallery, has tons of gifts made by local artisans and small business owners.

Go ice skating at The National Gallery of Art.

Ice Skating at the National Gallery

Located in the National Gallery of Art's Sculpture Garden, the ice skating rink makes for some good holiday fun in downtown D.C.

Walk through the D.C. City Center.

D.C. City Center

The City Center, which is home to many shops and restaurants as well as decorations that change every season, is a great place to experience some holiday lights and snag some great holiday photo opportunities.

See the holiday train display at Union Station.

Union Station Train Display

The wreathes and train displays in Union Station bring travelers and spectators alike Christmas cheer, with beautiful flowers and Christmas trees littering the station!

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