When you have any kind of surgery, odds are you are going to have a scar after. It will not go away while you are recovering, a reminder of what was and what is today. Surgery is the process of using manual and instrumental techniques to treat a disease or injury. There is no denying you will have a scar after surgery due to the incisions your doctor makes.
Some people have tattoos in order to cover their scars, but from a surgical standpoint why would you? I love tattoos, but why would you want to cover the reason you are alive today?
I understand if you have been abused, however, you should not be embarrassed about your surgery scars. I have a huge scar on my chest from when I had open heart surgery before I was two years old. Every day I look at it in the mirror and it reminds me of where I have been.
Some people are not so lucky. They have been abused or assaulted, but what the physical scars do not cover are the ones dealing with mental and emotional trauma. You can cover up a physical scar just fine no matter where it is but the mental and emotional ones are not so easy to just put a band-aid on.
There is a certain beauty in a scar. Where you have had a heart surgery, a mastectomy, or a caesarean section, it is there with you until you die. On hospital television shows when the doctors warn their patients about significant scarring, the patient says no to the surgery, even if it could save their lives.
I think, "how selfish?"
How vain do you have to be the the melanoma eating away your cheek will eventually spread throughout your body killing you. Is a little scar worth having to go through numerous amounts of chemo and radiation therapy?
Scars are different. Like I said, emotional scars are a lot harder to cover. There are healthy and not so healthy ways to deal with them. You have therapy, talking to your doctor, reading, writing, eating and being healthier, exercising, and no so healthy ways such as drugs, alcohol, and the internet (pornography or too much social media).
Choosing a way to deal and cope with your scars emotionally and mentally is strictly your business, but I would recommend the healthier options. Drugs, alcohol, and the internet can become addictive, and I am sure no one wants to be dependent on another substance or object when they are just getting out of a toxic relationship of whatever or whomever.
The beauty of scars is it shows where you have been and where you are going now. It proves that you have had a disease, condition, or injury and it has been healed thanks to the doctors and surgeons who practice the art of surgery every day.