When it comes to being a girl there are a lot of insecurities involved. I am not the type of girl to constantly worry about impressing others but I do sympathize with the ones who do. This is my advice to the girl who needs an extra confidence boost in the morning.
1. WEAR WHAT YOU WANT TO WEAR.
Okay, so Jenny has those brand new Michael Kors boots and now you want them because Jenny is the coolest girl in school. Maybe if you had those boots that would make you cool. Screw Jenny. You do not need to impress other women in order to be considered ‘cool’ or ‘popular’. Wear that dress that you really like that is hanging in your closet. Wear the converse with it. I think personality it is cool and I think someone with their own style is refreshing.
2. YOU DON’T HAVE TO WEAR MAKEUP.
Makeup enhances your natural beauty. Sure it does. Honestly, I hate wearing makeup. It takes forever to do and it is so expensive. If you are the kind of girl that loves to do her makeup, then I consider you talented. I can not do it. Embrace what you like. If you like blue eyeshadow: wear it. If you like pink eyeliner: wear it. If you like contouring: do it. If you do not then be free. A first impression is more than what is on the outside.
3. BE SILLY.
I am not exactly shy and I’m not exactly outgoing. I love to be silly and most of the time I am awkward. I have learned to embrace it. I think who I am is who I am meant to be. I have friends that are shy and friends that are extremely outgoing. They are all super cool people. I do not think that girls should worry so much as how their personality is perceived. It doesn’t matter. Who you are is who you are supposed to be.
4. BOYS.
Boys suck. I met my boyfriend two years ago and he is probably the epitome of what a boyfriend should be. If the guy does not support you: get rid of him. If the guy pressures you: get rid of him. If you are smarter and have better goals than the guy you are pursuing: it will end up in divorce, leave him now. I am just being honest. Girls will lower their standards and self-esteem just for a guy’s attention and it is heart breaking. You are more than a man’s love or lust. If he lets you be you and if he can take care of you then maybe, he is worth all the effort. If you are yourself, the right boy will come your way. Trust me.
5. MEAN GIRLS.
Do not be a mean girl. Do not associate with a mean girl. There is no reason for a girl to put down another girl. We are all dealing with the same bullarky so be respectful. I have seen so many of my friends be put down by mean girls and then become friends with those same mean girls. This is so irritating to me. How can you be buddy-buddy with someone who used to make you cry every night? Honestly respect yourself and do not give those people the time of day. Five or less close, good, trusting friends are all you need in life. Don’t give those spots to people who don’t deserve them.
Look girlfriend, go boost someone’s confidence today. Tell that girl in your lab class that you love her hair. Tell your friend that wears no makeup that she looks so good naturally it makes you jealous. Be kind and strengthen other people’s self-esteem. While you are at it respect yourself. Protect yourself from those who will hurt you but love unconditionally. Be the change you wish to see.
