Thanksgiving Makes You Feel Different When You Can't Go Home

Thanksgiving Makes You Feel Different When You Can't Go Home

It really makes you think of how thankful you truly are.

Thanksgiving is usually a time where most of us look back over the past year or even our whole lives and think about what they are thankful for. This year is a little different for me. I will not be at any of my family's Thanksgiving celebration. I will not be seeing my aunts, uncles, cousins or grandparents. And seeing it written down makes it even weirder. But in a way, it almost makes me more thankful.

My whole life I have had this strong support system, otherwise known as my family. I have the type of family who doesn’t want to see you fail and even if they do not quite agree with what you are doing, they are still going to support you all the way. Not many times in my life has my family not agreed with what I have done, which is kind of nice. So, any given year I am thankful for having just about the best family in the world.

But this year I am thankful for not only that but for my family still being the best as I am 800 miles away from home. Every year I see people that go very far away for college or are in one of the branches of the military and they cannot make it home for Thanksgiving. I always felt bad for them, especially since they are missing time with their families. This year, I cannot go home because of the military. But I also have friends that go to school out of state that won’t make it home this year.

This year I am also more thankful for the time I have got to spend with my family. It has been 5 or more months since I have seen my family. Which for me, is completely out of the ordinary. But I am thankful that from January to June I got to spend the time that I did with them. I know that when I see them next I will be extremely thankful for that time as well.

This year I am more thankful than I ever have been for technology. While this time last year I was so happy for Skype so I could talk to my now husband, I am thankful that almost everyone in my family has some sort of Apple Product. This means I can ‘see’ just about everyone with one annoying dinging dialing noise away. Facetime means that my parents and brother cannot lose me that easy. But it also allows having ‘family time’ even if I am forever and a half away.

This year I am thankful for my husband who is here with me. I know some of my college friends that are out of state are not lucky enough to have their significant other, but having a friend there makes it better. While I am going to miss my family a lot on Thanksgiving Day, I know that I will get to cook a meal for us two, to my best ability. Also, I know that we can do traditions that I grew up with. Like we are going to watch the parade and put up the tree either that night or first thing the next morning. Once again, I will be thankful for that technology to be able to Facetime home and ‘see’ everyone.

This year I am also thankful for my friends. When you move this far away from home you find out who your friends are really quickly. Most drop you, but the good ones check in and make a point to remember you. I am also thankful for my new friends, while most of them have been through my online schooling, and my fellow Odyssey community writers, I am still beyond grateful.

I think that not being able to go home this year gives me some perspective on how lucky I really am. Some people are not fortunate enough to have a supportive and just all-around kind family like I do, same with my friends, and same with my amazing husband.

Not being able to go home for Thanksgiving makes you feel a different way, and it is called more thankful for what you have.

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5 Reasons We Should Ignore The Haters When They Bring Up Our Long-Distance Relationships

Absence makes the heart grow fonder, right?

We see it all the time: two people who are madly in love with each other but choose to go their separate ways because they live hundreds of miles apart.

When I chose to come to the University of Kentucky, I also chose to be in a long-distance relationship. Constantly, people would criticize me saying there was no way my boyfriend and I would survive the distance while we went to two different colleges. In reality, the distance between us has only made us stronger.

We have learned to appreciate one another on a whole new level, making our bond stronger than most. Here are some reasons why I think long-distance relationships can actually be a GOOD thing.

1. “Absence makes the heart grow fonder” is a true statement

Whoever coined this phrase, you’re a genius. When you and your significant other spend hundreds of aching minutes away from each other, those minutes you get to spend together every once in a while are that much more valuable.

2. You get to go on a lot of cool dates

Haven’t seen each other in a month? Time to celebrate by trying out a new trendy restaurant in the city or visiting a fancy art museum! Going out on dates is a great way to keep your relationship strong, despite the time you have to endure apart.

3. The distance from your significant other gives you a chance to be independent

You all know that one girl that can absolutely not function without her boyfriend. Long distance relationships give you a chance to avoid being “that girl”. It’s an opportunity to make your own friends, chase your own dreams, and still be committed to the one you love.

4. You don’t have to look your best

Don’t feel like shaving your legs? That’s fine because you won’t see your boyfriend for another two weeks. Don’t want to brush your hair? No problem, your girlfriend will never know because she’s three states away.

5. It tests your level of commitment

In today’s society, loyalty is rare. If you and your significant other can thrive in a long distance relationship, you two can take on just about anything life throws at you.

Yes, a long distance relationship is not all sunshine and rainbows, but it does have its benefits. You learn to cherish the limited time you spend together. You appreciate each other’s efforts to make time to see each other. In a perfect world, it’d be great to live in the same place as your significant other. But what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, right? If you two can make it through the distance, you can make it through it all.

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Happy Birthday To My Long Distance Best Friend

I Love You, J.

Dear best friend,

Thank you. Thank you for supporting me and loving me regardless of the miles. Thank you being on the phone while I cry about late night studying for my test the next day. Thank you for maintaining our Snapchat streak. Thank you for being you.

I know it's hard to get together and spend time together when we are both so far from each other. I know it's hard when both your boyfriend and I are gone. I know you feel lonely when we aren't home. However, you need to know that you will never be alone.

You are such an incredible person and I know you will accomplish so much. With school and starting a new job, I feel so blessed that you make time to facetime me every single night. We haven't seen each other in so long but in some ways, it's like we haven't been separated. You've been here through it all.

I'm writing you this so that I can express just how much I appreciate your existence. You sit on the phone while I cry and you know I do the same for you. I call you with drama and gossip as we talk for hours throughout the night. You are loved and cherished so please don't forget how much you mean to me.

I admire your dedication and your motivation. You work so hard to accomplish your dreams. Once you put your mind to something you don't let it go. Never forget just how strong you are, it will take you so far in life. I admire your love for your family and friends, the loyalty you have to them is beyond anyone else I know.

You may get stressed out and feel anxiety about certain things, but I will always be here to listen and have your back. Hopefully you already know this but it is nice to have those reminders from people who care. Remember to take care of your self mentally and emotionally. It's important to both of us. I should remember this too.

School may have separated us but we have managed to keep our friendship as strong as before I left. I never thought my summer job would bring me such a wonderful and inspiring person, a friend I will have for life. I can't imagine not having a friend like you. I may not survive.

I see you in my wedding, at my kid's birthday parties, visiting for cookouts and everything else life has to offer. I truly believe I have made a friend who is here for a lifetime and I am so glad that that person is you.

You have helped me through hard times and celebrated with me through good times. You listen to me complain, thank you for being so patient. I appreciate everything you are and everything you will be. Keep working towards your dreams and never forget who you are. You are so important to me and many others.

Happy Birthday J, I love you so much.


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