To My Husband: A Day In My Eyes

To My Husband: A Day In My Eyes

A letter to all the husbands who downplay the day to day life of stay at home moms.
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Day after day, I see post after post from fellow moms who are complaining about their husbands. The complaint usually goes along the lines of their husbands not appreciating anything they do. My husband is generally a very helpful husband, but if my husband keeps skipping his few tasks that I ask of him, WWIII is about to go down. I’m a writer, so really he’ll be coming home to a letter, and it will go something like this.

Dear husband,

Thank you for being so understanding. Today I changed four impressive poopy diapers. I also scrubbed the wall down where a said diaper was thrown out of the crib and said poop was smeared along the wall. Oh, and I totally sanitized the floor in the bathroom from a completely separate poop incident. I definitely used a color towel to bleach the floor. My bad.

Thank you for being so understanding. I loaded and unloaded the dishwasher twice today. You see, there was a problem with the red sippy cup, even though that was the perfect sippy cup yesterday. I can’t quite explain it because I’m not entirely sure what happened, but I can explain that we went through ten sippy cups before we got the right one today. Not to mention the spoons and their issues.

Thank you for being so understanding. Our bed was made at some point. Actually, it was made four times. For some reason it became a fort at some point with the kids plotting their demise against me. And then the floor was lava. Oh, and I was a monster with a vacuum cleaner today too so our kids hid under the blanket. Who knew that I was a master of all trades?

Thank you for being so understanding. Dinner is not finished. Something magical happened today. The kids learned to share. They decided that the ground beef I had laying on the counter needed to be fed to the dog. The dog thought she had won some kind of prize and went along with it, so no need to feed her tonight. However, a trip to the vet in the very near future might be necessary just to make sure she passes all the plastic.

Thank you for being so understanding. I didn’t do a load of your work clothes today. There was a mud incident yesterday that ended up messing up two baskets full of clothes. Somehow even my clothes were filthy, smothered in mud and I didn’t even play in the mud! Also, there was a crayon that got melted in the dryer, so be thankful none of your shirts are pink. These kids are seriously awesome.

Thank you for being so understanding. I’m probably passed out right now in our bed with no chance of waking up anytime soon. I was up at six am to start breakfast for kids who had nothing better to do than argue over who had more eggs on their plate. Then after sitting through two episodes of Paw Patrol that seemed longer than any Stephen King movie, we attempted to play outside before it started raining. That led to a complete and utter melt down from our kid who has major issues with change. Then lunch happened and you clearly should be able to see how that didn’t go according to plan.

Thank you for being so understanding.

XOXO,

Your wife

PS – I really wouldn’t suggest snuggling with me because I haven’t showered in a week. I like to dream of long, hot showers by myself. Maybe one day.

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Dear Mom, I Hope You Know

I hope you know that I am here for you--until the very end.
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Dear Mom,

I hope you know that I appreciate you.

You are the hardest working woman I know, continuously putting your family before yourself. Thank you for doing all of the tedious jobs that no one wants to do like keeping the house in order, cooking the food, and doing the laundry. Thank you for constantly putting up with my siblings and I. Thank you for always supporting us in our interests and hobbies. Thank you for investing in our daily lives and listening to our minor problems. Thank you for always loving us unconditionally.

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I hope you know I'm sorry.

I know I can be a big pain in the butt sometimes, and for that I'm sorry. I'm sorry for yelling at you, arguing with you, not listening to you, and making dumb decisions at times, but thank you for loving me anyways. Thank you for helping me stand back up, teaching me right from wrong, and pushing me to be the very best version of me.

I hope you know your love inspires me.

You live your life with a love that is contagious. Whether its nurturing love, tough love, friendly love, or romantic love, you have it all and you show it daily. The love you and Dad share is something I hope to find one day and the love you have for your family is evident in the way you constantly put us first.

I hope you know that you are my biggest role model and hero.

Ever since I was a little girl, you have been the person I have looked to in my life. You are strong, independent, confident, loving, supportive, and nurturing-- everything I strive to be as a woman and as a future mother. You give the best advice, even when I don't always take it. Though, I should know better by now because mothers always know best. Without you in my life, I honestly don't know where I'd be.

I hope you know that you are my best friend.

Not only are you my biggest cheerleader supporting me in everything I do, you are the person I talk to about everything, whether it's good or bad. I'm honestly so thankful for the relationship we share because I've had countless screwups and you literally give the best advice. Seriously, thank you for being the person I can count on at all times, at any time of the day or even night to just talk with. I mean we really do have some of the best conversations, best laughs, best cries (when needed), and the most fun watching cheesy chick flicks together or going on crazy shopping adventures.

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I hope you know that I am here for you--until the very end.

I don't mean to make you cry or anything -- even though you probably already are, but I want you to know that when the time comes, I'm going to be there for you just like all of these years you've been here for me. I will be there to support you, talk with you, laugh with you, cry with you, and love you for all of my life.

Honestly, I can't really imagine my life without you -- but it doesn't matter because I wouldn't be here without you, so here's to you.

Thank you for being you.

Love you lots!

Your daughter.

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That Boy Won’t Cure Your Loneliness Or Fix All Your Problems— So Please Stop Expecting Him To

You need to find yourself first and really fall in love with that self before you can find your person and fall in love with him.

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The biggest misconception I had about love is that it would fix all the problems in my life. I inevitably thought love would give me a lifelong soulmate so I wouldn't feel so goddamn lonely all the time.

That happily ever after. A forever ride or die.

Once we fall in love with someone, we experience that euphoric feeling of passion and admiration. It's a great feeling, isn't it? That there's that boy who's all about you, just as you, are heads-over-heels about him. The world seems to be spinning in the right direction, and you suddenly believe that perhaps this boy was your lucky charm, a special omen brought exclusively from the heavens.

This boy knows all your tiny little secrets, calls you beautiful and stares at you lovingly when you walk alongside each other, hand in hand. With him, you feel as if you aren't lonely anymore. That you won't be that sad pathetic girl alone at a New Year's Eve Party anymore. That you'll have this boy to lean onto no matter what.

He says he's all yours, anyway. He puts your number in as "Babygirl" on his phone. He never misses the chance to text you good morning and be the last one to end a conversation before you drift off to sleep.

Let me get real with you, ladies. But this boy probably won't cure your sad loneliness or fix all the problems in your life. He won't become your soulmate, but instead, he's going to be a distraction. He's going to be a lesson, whether he breaks your heart or not.

Because once you start fully depending on this boy for emotional and moral support, he's going to start becoming distant. He's most likely not going to be there for you when shit happens, for one reason or another. He's not going to know what to say when you start crying other than a simple "It's going to be okay". Don't necessarily blame him for that. I guarantee that you're going to start blaming yourself about his behavior. And the more you start blaming yourself for how he's changed, it's only going to distract you from actually realizing the true reasons behind your problems and acting on them.

I know this all sounds a bit startling.

Try flipping the tables and think of it this way:

You just met this amazing guy. He's good looking, educated, passionate and respectful, etc. You have so much fun around him, and you come to fall in love with all his imperfections. But as time drags on, he begins to rant about how miserable school/work is and how much he hates these littlest of things you find a bit ridiculous. Imagine how confused and overwhelmed you would feel if he begins piling that stress onto you, telling you "But dating you is going to make me feel better about _____ since you're going to be here with me through it, right?"

I don't know about you but after hearing that, I would be running away at full tilt.

Now I'm not saying you have to be happy and bubbly around a boy 24/7. I'm not promoting some type of relationship where everything is perfect—of course, you'll come to find differences, have arguments and lean on each other during tough times.

I guess what I'm saying is that you shouldn't have to depend on someone in order to find your way through life or to feel less lonely.

Why should you feel that only a man would have the capabilities to change your problems? We're strong independent women, after all.

In most situations, you will only have yourself to lean on since not everyone's going to be there for you.

A boy isn't willing to fix all the problems in your life by licking your wounds and bandaging them up. Sure, he might be around to express sympathy and hold you when all you want to do is cry. But he's mainly going to be a part of your life to support you. He'll support your decisions and support you for how well you handle yourself. He'll love you for your independence, not how dependent you are. He fell in love with that free spirit from the beginning.

And if he left your life, he may have done so because *news flash* men aren't good with all that emotional baggage. Simple as that. So erase all those crazy thoughts about him secretly cheating on you or being a dick for wanting to end things.

My mom once told me this about love: "You need to find yourself first and really fall in love with that self before you can find your person and fall in love with him."

So, my friends, if you haven't found a boy yet, don't lose hope—he's going to come along.

But you need to find yourself first.

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