To My Mother, Who Gave Up Her Career For Me

To My Mother, Who Gave Up Her Career For Me

My mom’s sacrifice and honest hard work have motivated me to respect women in general and fight for gender equality.

Since the U.S. Congress designated March as National Women’s History (NWH) Month and International Women’s Day on March 8, I want to dedicate this article to a Wonder Woman of my life. The NWH month has given an exceptional opportunity in our society, schools, and workplaces, to appreciate and honor the tangible accomplishments of women which have frequently been disregarded, or even altered out of history. I believe that every human being should do their best to end the discrimination against women and girls. Also, we should have a gender-neutral society, workplaces, and schools. I am so lucky and fortunate to have my mom in my life. She has not just raised me to become a good human being, but she also taught me to respect women. She often says, “man can only succeed in his life if he respects a woman.”

My mom grew up in the typical middle-class family where woman's duty is to take care of her children and her family even though she is educated. She wanted to pursue her career in social sciences, but she had lack of support from her family. One might have observed from the history that many women have been discouraged to get further education or pursue their dreams due to typical gender norms. In fact, society has assigned women as the weaker sex who need men’s support. Here, this myth constrained people to believe women cannot handle the similar task as men since they are 'women.' In other words, one is disrespecting a woman indirectly by misjudging her capabilities. My mom’s capabilities also have been misjudged by her family. Her family did not stop her pursuing her dream, but they did not encourage her and expected her to take care of their home. She sacrificed her life and decided to further move on in her life as a housewife because her parents were happy that she is married now. Her family became her most priority.

I have seen my mom spending most of her time in the kitchen, cooking food for us. Sometimes I thought my mom is a MasterChef because she was the best at what she was doing with a smile on her face. When I asked her, how can you cook so fast for that many of people (about 10)? She replied, she learned from experience. Yes, she had more than ten years of experience. As you might have heard, “A Light Cannot Be Hidden,” the time has arrived when we moved to the U.S. four years ago. To provide financial support to me and my sister, my father and mother both had to work. She got an opportunity to prove herself that she has been waiting for years. She was excited to work in the U.S. but had so many questions in her mind. However, after tons of ups and downs, she succeeds wherever she worked in last four years through her abilities to learn new things without any hesitation. Her work was appreciated by her colleagues which made her proud of herself and us. She had faith in herself, and thus she is achieving it all.

Many women have faced gender discrimination either indirectly or directly but they should never chose to give up on their dreams. I always want to express my gratitude to her, to what she has done for us beyond her limit like most of the mothers do on this planet. I have seen her struggle, a loss of confidence along with disappointment throughout my childhood but I have learned a lot from it. My mom’s sacrifice and honest hard work have motivated me to respect women in general and fight for gender equality. You and I can observe this gender gap, but often we disregard it. Maybe you want to do something about gender inequality but you don’t know where to start. I would like to tell you that you can share your story to the world with #HerStoryOurStory which will motivate other people to make gender neutral nation. All in all, I want to see a gender neutral society instead of male or female dominated one because there should exist a balance in between to have equal opportunities for both sexes. See you next week!

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Austin Alexander Burridge, Volunteer Advocate, Shares 3 Great Reasons to Volunteer and Help Others

Austin Alexander Burridge is an avid academic who studies Environmental Science at Winona State University and believes that work in the service of others is a key pillar to personal development.


Sometimes it's easy for someone to adopt a "me, me, me" attitude. While focusing on oneself, a person may feel nice in the moment, but serving and helping others will bring lasting benefits. While there are many great reasons to serve and help others, there are three universal truths that resonate with volunteers around the globe.

Austin Alexander Burridge's 3 Reasons to Volunteer:

1. Accomplishment

Often, people fall into a trap of focusing on themselves when they are feeling down. Maybe someone did not get a job they wanted. Or perhaps a person gets dumped by an expected lifelong companion. Maybe someone feels they have underachieved after looking at Facebook and seeing great things a high school classmate has accomplished. When feeling down, helping others is a proven way to improve one's mood and attitude, and it can provide a sense of pride and accomplishment. The act of giving to those in need is an inherently good action and leaves people with a wonderful feeling of joy.

2. Gratitude

One can become more appreciative of life by serving others that have less. Whether volunteering at a soup kitchen, visiting the elderly at an assisted living center, or helping families after a natural disaster, service enables people to be grateful for what they have. Seeing people who have fewer advantages, especially those who are spirited and thankful for small things, allows one to realize just how fortunate he/she is in life.

3. Friendships

Volunteering is a great way to build meaningful friendships, not only with other volunteers but also with those who are served. One of the most profound and fascinating aspects of these relationships is how volunteers will learn from those served and vice versa. As these special bonds are built, they lead to impactful connections that last for years to come.

Of course, these are just a few reasons to volunteer and serve others. One can never go wrong by helping others as opposed to merely focusing on oneself. Volunteering invariably and inevitably contributes to personal growth, development, and satisfaction.

About Austin Alexander Burridge: Helping others has been of paramount importance to Austin, and as a part of the Fellowship of Christian Athletes (FCA), Austin gave back to the community around him. He also has participated in annual peanut butter drives, The Minnesota Sandwich Project for the Homeless and collected canned goods for local food shelters. Additionally, Austin has a passion for the environment, which he pursued when visiting the Galapagos Islands, Ecuador, and the Amazon Rain Forest while studying at the School of Environment Studies, which investigates ecological systems and their sustainability

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Supporting Late-Term Abortion Is Actually The Opposite Of Feminism

Feminism is about gender equality and women supporting women- so shouldn't we support the unborn women of tomorrow?


Before you read this, if you are someone who feels strongly that abortions are the "right" choice and that supporting late-term abortions is a step for woman anywhere, I do not suggest you read this article. However, I do want to write that I support conditional abortions- situations where the birth can kill the mother or where conception occurred because of rape. If someone rapes you, that is not okay by any means, and a baby conceived of rape can be terminated by the mother to avoid PTSD, anxiety, depression, panic attacks, and any other mental health diagnoses. Of course, if a woman can bring a baby into the world to keep or give up for adoption, even if it was the product of rape, she should seek life for the innocent child rather than death. And what a rape victim chooses to do is neither here nor there- and it damn well is not anyone else's business.

So why should it be my business (or anyone's) if women have late-term abortions? Agreeing to murder out of convenience should not be societally accepted as okay. When the law passed in New York for late-term abortions, I did not picture 39-week pregnant women rushing to Planned Parenthood to abort their child because they got cold feet. I highly doubt that is the exact scenario for which the law went into effect for, and that was more so intended for women who did not realize they were pregnant and missed the time period to get a legal abortion.

Not that I support early-term abortion, because all abortion is the same regardless of when it happens during the pregnancy. Killing someone sooner rather than later does not make it less worse.

Excuses about how women are not ready to be mothers, do not have the financial means, would ruin their futures, they would get kicked out, lose their bodies, etc. are just that- excuses. Carrying a child for nine months might be an inconvenience, but killing someone will be on your conscience forever. If murders pleaded their motives to police as a way to justify what they did (excluding self-defense), what difference is it if a woman kills her unborn child?

Planned Parenthood might be taboo and have a stigma attached to it, but it does so much more than kill babies. Planned Parenthood is a place where girls can go to see OB/GYNO, get birth control, and learn about safe sex, protection, STDs, etc. Instead of stigmatizing it, young women should be encouraged to go to this institution for woman and feminism. Let high school health classes plan field trips there so that everyone becomes more educated on female health (boys included!). Female health education is very limited, especially in school, and many women feel that an abortion is their only way out, however, it's not. By becoming more educated, the rate of teen pregnancies can go down, as well as the need for abortions. Women educating other women should be the goal of Planned Parenthood, and abortions should be reserved for those who got raped or whose pregnancy cause death, health complications, etc.

Abortion might be giving women a choice- but who is giving the unborn babies a choice?

And of course the only way to 100% prevent pregnancy is abstinence, and if that is your choice then good for you, and if you choose to have sexual intercourse, good for you too. Be safe. No slut shaming here. Women need to continue supporting other women, regardless of their sex life. Women who have abortions are not "whores" and should not be labeled as such- they are just people whose biology reacted to another person's biology.

If you truly do not want to have a baby, please please please give it up for adoption and do not kill it. It did nothing wrong, and yeah, it might be a little inconvenient to be pregnant, especially if you are in school, but there are hundreds of thousands of people that would love nothing more than to raise your baby. Be a woman supporting other woman and give the gift of motherhood.

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