To My Lifelong Best Friend, The Thank-You You've Always Deserved

To My Lifelong Best Friend, The Thank-You You've Always Deserved

If there ever comes a day when we can't be together, keep me in your heart, I'll stay there forever.

To my best friend,

My heart is full as I reflect on the sweetest memories of our friendship, and the wonderful, undeserved blessing that you've been to me. We have been through so much together: from the awkward middle school phase and terribly stressful high school years, to standing up to awful teachers and wondering how we would survive without each other. We simply did everything together. We have supported each other through every trial and celebrated together with every accomplishment. Finally, on the day we had been long anticipating, we gave our graduation speech together, celebrated together, and then after a summer that went by too fast, we prepared to go our separate ways.

Even though it is not easy being apart from the person who has been my partner-in-crime (both figuratively and for homecoming spirit week), it is a beautiful thing to grow as individuals on our own. And even as we are living this phase of our lives apart from each other, our friendship doesn’t keep count of miles or minutes.

Thank you for always making time for me, despite the fact that we both have busy schedules. I am so glad to know that you are just one phone call away when I need to laugh, or rant, or cry, or simply catch up after not talking for a while. You hear all of my struggles and all of my triumphs, both big and small.Thank you for caring about me enough to keep up with my life, even when you are not here to experience life with me.

Growing up is difficult at times, but it is easier because I know that I have a friend who has been constant through every change, every obstacle, and every blessing that life brings.

Thank you for not forgetting about me. Thank you for taking on adulthood with me, even when we aren't together. Despite the distance, we have grown closer instead of growing apart, and I will forever be grateful for that.

College has been made better with you in my life, even though I'm no longer able to spend every day with you.

I can only hope that our friendship will continue even beyond college as we start our own lives and may continue to be apart from each other. I hope that our friendship will continue to be a constant that we can rely on whenever we need the support of a true friend.

I wish that everyone would everyone would be blessed with a friend so fun, so caring, so committed. I am grateful that we are both sure that a friendship as beautiful as ours is worth cherishing, no matter what life throws at us.


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To The Dad Who Didn't Want Me, It's Mutual Now

Thank you for leaving me because I am happy.

Thank you, for leaving me.

Thank you, for leaving me when I was little.

Thank you, for not putting me through the pain of watching you leave.

Thank you, for leaving me with the best mother a daughter could ask for.

I no longer resent you. I no longer feel anger towards you. I wondered for so long who I was. I thought that because I didn't know half of my blood that I was somehow missing something. I thought that who you were defined me. I was wrong. I am my own person. I am strong and capable and you have nothing to do with that. So thank you for leaving me.

In my most vulnerable of times, I struggled with the fact that you didn't want me. You could have watched me grow into the person that I have become, but you didn't. You had a choice to be in my life. I thought that the fact that my own father didn't want me spoke to my own worth. I was wrong. I am so worthy. I am deserving, and you have nothing to do with that. So thank you for leaving me.

You have missed so much. From my first dance to my first day of college, and you'll continue to miss everything. You won't see me graduate, you won't walk me down the aisle, and you won't get to see me follow my dreams. You'll never get that back, but I don't care anymore. What I have been through, and the struggles that I have faced have brought me to where I am today, and I can't complain. I go to a beautiful school, I have the best of friends, I have an amazing family, and that's all I really need.

Whoever you are, I hope you read this. I hope you understand that you have missed out on one of the best opportunities in your life. I could've been your daughter. I could have been your little girl. Now I am neither, nor will I ever be.

So thank you for leaving me because I am happy. I understand my self-worth, and I understand that you don't define me. You have made me stronger. You have helped make me who I am without even knowing it.

So, thank you for leaving me.

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How To Cope With A Best Friend Breakup

Breaking up with a boyfriend is one thing, but breaking up with your best friend is a whole new level of heartbreak.


We all know breakups can be tough, but when that breakup happens to be between you and your best friend, things reach a new level of heartbreak. I met my best friend junior year of high school after our Spanish teacher randomly assigned us to be partners; we struggled so much in that class but in the end, we truly became inseparable. When senior year rolled around we were still close as ever; people would often joke that we were sisters because we looked and acted so much alike. We would go on little dates together, go to parties together, and were always the first person we called when something "major happened."

When my best friend's boyfriend of four years cheated on her while we were spring breaking in Europe, it became my duty to make her feel better; I would randomly drop off flowers and little notes to her house, spend countless hours just listening to her cry and vent, and even stopped talking to people associated with her boyfriend so as to show my "support." All of these things were no big deal to me considering I loved this girl like a sister; whatever she needed I was there to give that to her.

Things soon took a sharp turn when we entered not only the same college but the same sorority. While I was struggling with the social aspect of FSU, my best friend soon found new best friends. When I started having major issues with my boyfriend, I would automatically text/call my best friend as she did with me, but instead of support, I got the sense that she was passive and uninterested. Our little dates and goofy inside jokes disappeared and reappeared between her and her new friends, and my comfortableness around her soon turned into insecurity.

Coming to terms with the fact that the girl I knew everything about is now basically a stranger was a hard one to overcome; I didn't want to accept the fact that my best friend decided it was time to find new ones. It's heartbreaking knowing that the special things you shared with a person are now being shared with others, and it's hard to accept the fact that you aren't wanted or needed by the one person you thought would be by your side forever.

Since school has ended I think I have accepted the fact that we're no longer what we used to be. Of course, it still stings when I see social media posts with her new, college friends, but I just have to remind myself that this is part of life and I just have to move on. I will forever cherish the memories I made with her, but it's time to acknowledge that they were made with someone in my past, not with someone in my present.

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