We Need To Normalize Not Dating In Teenage Years, It's Actually The Smarter Choice

We Need To Normalize Not Dating In Teenage Years, It's Actually The Smarter Choice

It doesn't mean something's wrong with you. Quite the opposite.

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The title of this article may sound misleading, as if I'm saying teenagers shouldn't date, but that's not it at all. I'm saying people shouldn't have to feel weird, alone, or bad about themselves if they're young and still haven't been in a relationship yet. We shouldn't get strange looks for being 17, 18, 19 years old, and having yet to have a first kiss.

I'm 18 years old, a freshman in college, and have never been in a real, committed relationship. I've managed to avoid all the burden and heartbreak throughout all four years of high school. I never thought I was weird or incapable of attracting anyone. I never thought I was too immature to handle a relationship. I never posted those "I wish I was boo'd up" memes on my social media, letting everyone know I hated being single. And I never hated being single, period.

Don't get me wrong, this doesn't mean I'm "anti-relationship" or whatever. Thinking relationships are nothing but setting yourself up for heartbreak, that true love isn't real, is a pessimistic outlook. I've had fun flings and been on dates, so in a way, I understand the gist of the positive side of relationships. So honestly, I'm excited for the day I finally tell a guy I'll be his girlfriend - it's just not something I'm prioritizing or want really bad. It's all about waiting until you meet the right one at the right time.

I know, I know, very cliché. You hear this idea everywhere, said by almost everyone, that you might even doubt the existence of "the one" or a "soulmate." It shouldn't be stigmatized as corny, but in fact, a mature and ideal mindset. The reason why I haven't been in a relationship is for a number of reasons - the timing was off, I couldn't tolerate long distance, and simply, no one sparked my interest in high school. Some things happen (or don't happen) for a reason.

Not everyone is meant to have their first boyfriend/girlfriend in middle school.

My point is, people should get into relationships when the timing is right and when they're ready. There shouldn't be an age limit or age expectations for this aspect of your life. Those who believe they should've already had a relationship by now or simply just hate being single tend to settle for less than they deserve, someone who doesn't fulfill all their relationship needs in a partner.

Embracing singleness during your teenage years doesn't mean accepting the fact that no one will fall in love with you and you'll be alone forever (which, by the way, is absolutely NOT true), it means to understand that it will happen when it's meant to happen.

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To The Boy Who Made Me Love Again

Thank you for loving me and showing me how to love myself.

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To the boy who made me love again:

From the very beginning of our relationship, you showed me you were different. You showed me how I should be treated.

After dating someone for three years, falling in love was the last thing I wanted to do again. I did not want to grow close to anyone and fall in love with every little aspect of someone, but with you, it was so much different. You were different from other guys I had talked to. You have done small things for me that make me so happy. From offering to order me pizzas while I'm working to ordering me a key chain that says "drive safe," it's the little things you've done to make me love you.

During my previous relationship, I had come to a custom of pulling out my card to pay for dates and thought it was okay to accept the fact that good morning text did not exist. Every morning since we started dating, you never forget to text me good morning. We almost fight over who is going to pay, because I can't expect you to pay for every date. You have shown me what to expect in a relationship.

You never fail to make me happy. Whenever I say I'm hungry, you get me Mexican. When I want to watch Netflix, you immediately put on The Office. I can mention one thing I want and you buy it because you know it will make me happy. You give me forehead kisses and it puts a smile on my face. Whenever I am upset, you won't get off the phone until you figure out what is wrong and make sure everything is okay.

You make me feel beautiful. I can come over in leggings and socks and Birkenstocks or I can come over in a nice shirt and booties, but either way, you tell me I'm beautiful. Whenever I just wake up and look a hot mess, you look me in my eyes and tell me I'm beautiful.

You always tell me to be careful whenever I'm driving and you make sure to tell me you love me every night before you go to bed. You remind me of things I know I'll forget and you literally read my mind. You motivate me with my schooling and tell me how proud you are of me when I make a good grade.

I never wanted to date again and I especially did not want to fall in love; however, you are everything I dreamed of wanting. I am so blessed to have met you and fallen in love with you. So to the boy who made me want to love again, I love you and thank you for everything.

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31 Things That Are True When You Date A Guy Who Loves His Car Just As Much As He Loves You

If you know, you know.

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When you date a guy who loves cars, your relationship is NOT a normal relationship. It is always filled with adventure, and there is never a dull moment. This is what happens when the person you love, loves cars just as much as he loves you.

1. You drive everywhere.

Robert Keck

Down the street? Drive. Day trips for the hell of it? He'll be the one driving. Even if it is your car, you're probably going to be sitting bitch.

2. Car meets are a thing.

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Robert Keck

Did anyone know this was a thing? Because before I started dating my boyfriend, I had no idea this was a thing (and it happens often). Yes, all these people just park their cars and everyone talks. It is a sight to see.

3. He will go out of his way to look at someone else's car.

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He will take an extra turn just to see a car. Any dinner reservations you have better account for the 15-30 minutes out-of-the-way driving.

4. There are a lot of late nights.

Hannah Porter

Whether it is holding the flashlight, or just keeping company, be prepared to be outside for a while. Always bring a coat.

5. There are more pictures of his cars/trucks than you.

Robert Keck

Don't get your panties in a bunch. I honestly have no problem with it. He still has pictures of me, so who cares?

6. He has two loves in his life.

Samantha Wylesol

You, and his car(s).

7. Every other sentence has the word "engine" in it.

Hannah Porter

Do you know how many different types of engines there are? Because I did not. Be prepared to learn about every single one.

8. An absurd amount of money is spent on car parts.

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Theres nothing more I can say on this matter. Just know it is an absurd amount.

9. You'll drive hours away for a good deal from Facebook Marketplace or Craigslist.

Hannah Porter

One day, we drove three hours for an engine at 9pm at night. It is always something.

10.  "I just need to fix this one thing" does not mean he'll be done in 10 minutes.

Robert Keck

Nothing ever takes 10 minutes. It's a trick.

11.  He'll be the first on the scene when you fuck up.

Hannah Porter

Yea, that happened. Guess who showed up first?

12. You will hear him arrive. Or, you will hear him a few roads down.

Robert Keck

Just wait until he fucks up the exhaust.

13.  There is always something to fix. Nothing is ever done.

Robert Keck

You don't even want to know what is happening here.

14. You will be doing a lot of flat towing and rescues.

Yes, we break down. It happens. You know damn well that he fixes it within the next few days. I have to give him credit, I could never do what he does. I can't wrap my head around it.

15.  Prepare to get "The look" if you drop food in the car.

Cary Porter

Don't risk it.

16.  You learn a ton of new terms.

Hannah Porter

I once did not understand something (actually about the above TransAm), and he pulled out a BLUEPRINT of the car. I still don't know what he talks about half the time.

17. You have your own personal mechanic

Hannah Porter

Guess who learned how to do their own oil and brakes? Anything after that he's going to have to handle. He constantly plugs my tires because I somehow find every nail on the road in Philadelphia.

18.  He holds more knowledge of cars than any other topic

Robert Keck

He is able to see a car and rattle off the make, model, year, engine, and all the other shit that goes along with that. He is able to do that with almost every car...how do you hold all that knowledge?

19.  If he is on his phone, it is guaranteed that he is either on Facebook Marketplace, Youtube looking at car videos, or Instagram looking at car profiles.

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Plus: he won't be liking other girl's pictures, unless theres a truck in the background.

20.  Whatever you do, DON'T SLAM THE DOOR.

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I learned this very fast.

21.  Prepare for a lecture if your feet are on the dash.

Hannah Porter

The whole outside of the truck can be muddy, but god forbid there's some dirt on the dash.

22. Cleaning out the car is not just taking the trash out of it.

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Trash out, tools organized, car washed and waxed, tire shine, carpet vacuumed and shampooed, all seats moved, etc. It is a whole ordeal.

23.  Tools are everywhere.

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Whatever you need, it will be there in large quantities. Also, let this go along with the ABSURD amount of money that is spent on car stuff. That ratchet in the middle can cost over $150!

24.  Don't open the garage.

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Just...don't.

25.  He won't go through a car wash.

Robert Keck

Hand wash only. Do not go through the tunnel. It will leave scratches in the paint (obviously).

26. There is always a "project car"...or cars. 

Hannah Porter

My boyfriend at all times has at least 2 project cars, I swear.

27.  Yes, that car has been sitting there for over a year.

Robert Keck

It will be worked on...eventually.

28.  He is a pro-negotiator

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No one knows money better than your car guy. When it comes to negotiating prices, he is the one you want to bring with you.

29.  Most of his friends are car people, too.

Robert Keck and Jake Ryan

All the car parts, car talk, car pictures, and all the shit that goes with it is doubled or tripled. Wait untill there is a car full of them.

30. He'll do some stupid shit.

Hannah Porter

He'll be fine. You learn not to ask questions anymore.

31.  No matter how much he loves his car, he will always make you a priority and love you unconditionally.

Hannah Porter

I must say, all of this stuff can be a lot to deal with. But when you have the right person in your life, you will enjoy every moment of it. I have never laughed so hard in my life than I have with my car-loving boy. Do not let this discourage you. Date a car guy. It will be one of the best decisions you will make.

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