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Let's Talk About Toxicity

Sometimes you'll find that the toxic person in the relationship is you.

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I find that one of the biggest issues when it comes to removing negativity from one's life people begin this process with the idea that negativity is an external force, when it is also an internal one.

If we are truly going to rid ourselves of the negativity in our lives, we must first work from the inside out.

Its easy to blocks somebody's number or ignore their calls.

But can you actually say you're a more positive person for it, if you're still throwing shots at people on social media?

It's not easy to look within yourself and admit that you're wrong or that maybe, just maybe, you've been looking at things in the wrong way.

I'd say that the first thing you should do when you decide to remove toxicity or negativity is to self-reflect.

It's about more than just a deleting a number, it's about looking within yourself, seeing the parts of you that could be better and then working on it. Continuously.

There is no shortcut to removing toxic behavior or negative thoughts. This is something that, if done right, will always be worked on.

The second thing you should do is block people.

Because if you have taken the time to self-reflect and better yourself, you will be in a better and stronger position to move forward.

I know its easier to block people at first but not everyone is truly toxic.

Sometimes you just don't mesh together, which doesn't really mean much. But personally, I don't think that's a good reason to cut them out completely.

Another reason you should wait for self-reflection is that sometimes you'll find that the toxic person in the relationship is you.

I'm sorry to tell you that continuous shade and bringing up the hard time's people have gone through, does not make you funny, it makes you an asshole.

You shouldn't cut them off, you should put in the work to make things better or at least apologize.

Not everyone is going to be on your level, or even near it.

Change doesn't happen overnight, and all we can do is have patience and take things one day at a time.

Deciding to remove toxicity from your life is not easy, 1% is making the decision to do it, 50% is self-reflection, 40% is action and only 9% is the external part of pressing the block button.

Don't let that 9% distract you from your goal, which is to make yourself a better person while working to achieve a better life.

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