As a single guy, I wonder a lot about who my future significant other is, what she looks like when it will be, etc. I have up-and-down moments where I'm always thinking about having a girlfriend, and other times I don't think about it at all.
I enjoy reading Thought Catalog and Elite Daily, especially the articles that are focused on dating and relationships, and some of their best authors like Holly Riordan and Melanie Berliet absolutely enjoy solo dates. Those two are some of the warmest-hearted individuals and certainly, know how to love themselves.
I try to love myself as much as possible because God does. It's important to do so because part of that includes recognizing what gifts I'm blessed with and being able to use them.
I've gone out on many solo dates (where most of them pertain to going out to eat), and I love it for several reasons.
I can choose how I want to dress for it (while still respecting the environment that I'll be entering).
I can choose where I want to go without having to go back and forth about what to do.
I'll pick up the entire check so I'm still going on a date.
I'll learn about what I really like and don't like and then be able to share that when I feel willing enough to open up.
I don't need to worry about fulfilling anyone's needs but my own.
I won't care about what others are doing since I'm focusing on myself, but they'll see that I'm enjoying myself. Should they feel motivated to join me, I'd happily let them when the time is right.
I can run into friends and still have a blast.
I can grow as a person.
I can make new friends.
I might fall in love while I'm on a solo date.
SEE ALSO: The Importance Of Going On A Date With Yourself
I'm not sorry that I go on solo dates. Solo dates are just as important as actual dates since it's important to really know who you are as a person and what your identity is. Since solo dates can be used to grow, it might take awhile to realize that identity since it changes. But for that significant other you date long-term and have a serious relationship with, you will grow with her. I know that I can say so for whomever I call my significant other.
Going on solo dates helps ease any worries I have about not having a girlfriend, and helps me realize that it is PERFECTLY OK to be single. Being single is a gift. Being in a relationship is a gift. That includes being in a relationship with God and being in a relationship with myself. Going on solo dates allows me to be assertive and enjoy myself. It shows others that I'm enjoying myself. It teaches me about my interests and abilities, and anything can happen when I go on a solo date.
I can be the one that takes care of the check without having to worry about another person wanting to be in control of me or about splitting the check. I'd enjoy being able to look after myself when it comes to eating out. I'm dating myself through it. I'm growing as a person. And for that, I'm not sorry.
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