solo dates
Start writing a post
Dating

I'm A Guy Who Enjoys Solo Dates, And I'll Never Apologize For Enjoying My Own Company

I'd pick up the entire check anyway, so I'm still going on a date.

521
I'm A Guy Who Enjoys Solo Dates, And I'll Never Apologize For Enjoying My Own Company
Paul Shen

As a single guy, I wonder a lot about who my future significant other is, what she looks like when it will be, etc. I have up-and-down moments where I'm always thinking about having a girlfriend, and other times I don't think about it at all.

I enjoy reading Thought Catalog and Elite Daily, especially the articles that are focused on dating and relationships, and some of their best authors like Holly Riordan and Melanie Berliet absolutely enjoy solo dates. Those two are some of the warmest-hearted individuals and certainly, know how to love themselves.

I try to love myself as much as possible because God does. It's important to do so because part of that includes recognizing what gifts I'm blessed with and being able to use them.

I've gone out on many solo dates (where most of them pertain to going out to eat), and I love it for several reasons.

I can choose how I want to dress for it (while still respecting the environment that I'll be entering).

I can choose where I want to go without having to go back and forth about what to do.

I'll pick up the entire check so I'm still going on a date.

I'll learn about what I really like and don't like and then be able to share that when I feel willing enough to open up.

I don't need to worry about fulfilling anyone's needs but my own.

I won't care about what others are doing since I'm focusing on myself, but they'll see that I'm enjoying myself. Should they feel motivated to join me, I'd happily let them when the time is right.

I can run into friends and still have a blast.

I can grow as a person.

I can make new friends.

I might fall in love while I'm on a solo date.

SEE ALSO: The Importance Of Going On A Date With Yourself

I'm not sorry that I go on solo dates. Solo dates are just as important as actual dates since it's important to really know who you are as a person and what your identity is. Since solo dates can be used to grow, it might take awhile to realize that identity since it changes. But for that significant other you date long-term and have a serious relationship with, you will grow with her. I know that I can say so for whomever I call my significant other.

Going on solo dates helps ease any worries I have about not having a girlfriend, and helps me realize that it is PERFECTLY OK to be single. Being single is a gift. Being in a relationship is a gift. That includes being in a relationship with God and being in a relationship with myself. Going on solo dates allows me to be assertive and enjoy myself. It shows others that I'm enjoying myself. It teaches me about my interests and abilities, and anything can happen when I go on a solo date.

I can be the one that takes care of the check without having to worry about another person wanting to be in control of me or about splitting the check. I'd enjoy being able to look after myself when it comes to eating out. I'm dating myself through it. I'm growing as a person. And for that, I'm not sorry.

Report this Content
This article has not been reviewed by Odyssey HQ and solely reflects the ideas and opinions of the creator.
Student Life

Waitlisted for a College Class? Here's What to Do!

Dealing with the inevitable realities of college life.

53898
college students waiting in a long line in the hallway
StableDiffusion

Course registration at college can be a big hassle and is almost never talked about. Classes you want to take fill up before you get a chance to register. You might change your mind about a class you want to take and must struggle to find another class to fit in the same time period. You also have to make sure no classes clash by time. Like I said, it's a big hassle.

This semester, I was waitlisted for two classes. Most people in this situation, especially first years, freak out because they don't know what to do. Here is what you should do when this happens.

Keep Reading...Show less
a man and a woman sitting on the beach in front of the sunset

Whether you met your new love interest online, through mutual friends, or another way entirely, you'll definitely want to know what you're getting into. I mean, really, what's the point in entering a relationship with someone if you don't know whether or not you're compatible on a very basic level?

Consider these 21 questions to ask in the talking stage when getting to know that new guy or girl you just started talking to:

Keep Reading...Show less
Lifestyle

Challah vs. Easter Bread: A Delicious Dilemma

Is there really such a difference in Challah bread or Easter Bread?

34705
loaves of challah and easter bread stacked up aside each other, an abundance of food in baskets
StableDiffusion

Ever since I could remember, it was a treat to receive Easter Bread made by my grandmother. We would only have it once a year and the wait was excruciating. Now that my grandmother has gotten older, she has stopped baking a lot of her recipes that require a lot of hand usage--her traditional Italian baking means no machines. So for the past few years, I have missed enjoying my Easter Bread.

Keep Reading...Show less
Adulting

Unlocking Lake People's Secrets: 15 Must-Knows!

There's no other place you'd rather be in the summer.

957109
Group of joyful friends sitting in a boat
Haley Harvey

The people that spend their summers at the lake are a unique group of people.

Whether you grew up going to the lake, have only recently started going, or have only been once or twice, you know it takes a certain kind of person to be a lake person. To the long-time lake people, the lake holds a special place in your heart, no matter how dirty the water may look.

Keep Reading...Show less
Student Life

Top 10 Reasons My School Rocks!

Why I Chose a Small School Over a Big University.

181772
man in black long sleeve shirt and black pants walking on white concrete pathway

I was asked so many times why I wanted to go to a small school when a big university is so much better. Don't get me wrong, I'm sure a big university is great but I absolutely love going to a small school. I know that I miss out on big sporting events and having people actually know where it is. I can't even count how many times I've been asked where it is and I know they won't know so I just say "somewhere in the middle of Wisconsin." But, I get to know most people at my school and I know my professors very well. Not to mention, being able to walk to the other side of campus in 5 minutes at a casual walking pace. I am so happy I made the decision to go to school where I did. I love my school and these are just a few reasons why.

Keep Reading...Show less

Subscribe to Our Newsletter

Facebook Comments