Luke P. Is The Definition Of A Man That Every Girl Should Watch Out For
Looking for love is hard, but it is not hard to see why these type of men are ones to avoid.
If you are anything like me, you watched Tuesday's episode of The Bachelorette screaming at your television screen as Hannah continuously gave Luke P. chance after chance after chance.
At first, I did not have much against this man. He seemed like he could be the typical villain type—the Demi, Corrine, or Arie of Hannah's season, if you will. But, I did not really see it as too possible. He was a man who found Jesus and had a little too much confidence in himself. Good for him. Typical.
However, the more I watched Hannah's season and the more I got to know Luke P., the more I began to see that this man isn't just some dude with a bit of a superiority complex. He's a dude with more red flags than beaches when a hurricane hits, and he is what every girl needs to avoid when on the hunt for Mr. Right.
Watch any episode where Luke P. speaks, and you will find out really fast that this dude is very into himself. Too into himself. He sees himself as someone who can do no wrong and who every woman should absolutely adore. It is not wrong to love yourself, but at the level Luke P. exhibits, things get problematic. He uses this lack of humbleness to boast about himself. To Hannah, he not only said he is someone who everyone ever outside of the setting of The Bachelorette has liked, but he has played innocent and refused to admit he has messed up. Any time something could look bad on him, he hides it. He only admits mistakes once others, or Hannah in this instance, calls him out for them directly. This is extremely confusing, not to mention annoying, for any girl to navigate.
Add onto this the fact that no one likes him. At all. I have not seen one man or woman on this franchise so disliked by the fellow contestants, and some people really have made themselves unlikable on the show. Like Hannah said last night, typically you look for someone who is liked by those around them. It is an indication that the person is well-liked, kind, and a good person. The fact that Luke P. has not had a single man side with him is a major red flag, and it should be any girl's red flag in her own relationships. One or two enemies might be a coincidence. A whole group of diverse individuals serving as enemies? That might be something wrong and in need of inspection.
Another red flag Luke P. has brought to the table is the shifting of blame onto others. As I mentioned before, he does not like to be called out. One way he hides his guilt is by twisting each situation onto the other person involved with him. For example, as soon as Luke S. called him out for body slamming him to the ground for no reason, Luke P. made it his mission to slander his name and ensure Hannah gained doubt in Luke S. He could not have Luke S. breaking the illusion of him being a good person, so he quickly got rid of him through lies and shifting the blame. He did not body slam Luke S. No, the smaller and more timid Luke S. called him names and made a fist and scared Luke P. into needing to use self-defense mechanisms. Thanks to the way he framed the situation to Hannah, she trusted him—for reasons I still cannot understand—and essentially sent Luke S. down the path of leaving.
He did this once more to Hannah herself, blaming her "not being the old Hannah" for her sudden disinterest in him. Not only is that emotionally abusive and something we do not have enough time to unpack, but it is also such a cop-out. Any person who does this and is unwilling to accept that they stepped into the wrong is not worth anyone's time. It certainly was not worth a rose over John Paul Jones—rip my chicken nugget loving friend—or whoever else was sent home in the past weeks over him.
This is only the tip of the iceberg for Luke P.'s red flags. I could talk about the fact he wanted to follow Hannah into her dressing room, or how he is so possessive of her that he gives every man who kisses her or goes on a date with her the most serial-killer like look I've ever seen on TV. That would go way past any word count I would be willing to hit. Ultimately, his behavior has made me worried for any girl he will encounter in his future, and very worried for Hannah on the show (since he seems to be sticking around after not getting a rose—the gift that keeps on giving).
Hot guys are out there. However, no hot guy or any guy for that matter is worth facing this kind of emotionally manipulating behavior. I highly encourage any girl who reads this to not settle for a man who treats you this way. Take watching Hannah's situation with Luke P. as a cautionary tale. You deserve someone who does not control you and owns up to their faults.
I genuinely hope Hannah finds love, and I hope that Luke P. gets some guidance on how to be a better man and learns from watching his experience back.
Ladies, Plastic Surgery ISN'T Worth The Boost In Self-Esteem And Here's Why
Plastic surgery is just as risky as other types of surgery.
Plastic surgery has been a trend for a while now, but lately, we've been seeing a lot more celebrities come out and talk about the work they've had done. YouTuber and singer, Queen Naija, made two videos about her recent tummy tuck and Brazilian butt lift. Many fans appreciated her honesty and transparency, but others criticized her for sending a bad message to her young and impressionable fans, as well as for going under the knife too soon after giving birth (her son is only three months old).
An even bigger controversy comes from Cardi B, who had to cancel one of her shows due to complications from her recent liposuction procedure. Many of her fans are worried about her health, while others are angered and disappointed that she foolishly had a major procedure so close to one of her performance dates.
Any way you slice it — pun fullyintended — both ladies, and all who decide to have plastic surgery, are taking a major toll on their bodies and health. Celebrities get so much work done that they speak about it as if it is something as nonchalant as buying new furniture.
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But here's the thing... it's not.
Of course, it's always better for celebrities to be transparent about their procedures. It reminds women and young girls that the "ideal body type" is usually unnatural and unattainable. However, with each celebrity that comes forward, plastic surgery is more normalized and seen as desirable, harmless, and natural, although in reality, plastic surgery carries as many risks as other forms of surgery, and requires extensive post-op care and rest and recovery time, something that many celebrities conveniently leave out of their discussions about their procedures.
R&B artist, K Michelle, removed her butt implants after experiencing major complications. In an interview with The Real, K Michelle says, "I did butt, I did hips... and now it's affecting my health... My butt is so big that my legs are not holding it. People don't talk about it. I've gone to doctors who don't want to touch it. I've found one doctor who is going to do it for me, [but] imagine if you don't have the money to get it out?"
Not only that, but a Florida woman died after experiencing a fat embolism (when fat enters the bloodstream) as a result of her Brazilian butt lift. Another Florida woman suffered permanent brain damage after experiencing a lack of oxygen while undergoing breast augmentation surgery. These may seem like outliers, but is the risk really worth it? People who have medical-related surgeries are going under the knife because they need to. They don't get to have a choice in the matter because it's necessary for their health. Women and young girls are putting their health at risk voluntarily. Is it really worth it to risk your life over appearances?
An even more significant part that celebrities omit about plastic surgery is that it isn't guaranteed to make you look better. Sometimes, you actually end up looking worse. Ayesha Curry — restaurant owner, professional chef, and pro-basketball player Steph Curry's wife — recently opened up about her "botched boob job." She states, "I came out with these bigger boobs I didn't want. I got the most botched boob job on the face of the planet. They're worse now than they were before... I would never do anything like that again."
"Botched" surgeries are more common than we tend to think — if they weren't, could there really be a whole TV show about it?
So many women and young girls tend to idealize plastic surgery. They think it will be a quick, magical "fix" to their insecurities and/or bring them more opportunities. However, dozens of women later come out to say that they regret their surgeries, either because it doesn't look good or it didn't accomplish what they wanted it to. Many women end up "botched" or dead because some plastic surgeons trick their patients into thinking they're board-certified when they're not, putting the patient's health and appearance at risk.
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When we spin this narrative around plastic surgery, making it out to be just like any other type of beauty enhancement — or worse, some type of "empowering" action that will fix our problems — we're neglecting to realize how major of a decision deciding to go under the knife actually is. And worse, we're sending the message that to be beautiful and desirable you have to look just one way.
Surgery is meant to correct or prevent a problem — the way you naturally look is never a problem.
Ladies, always remember this: you don't need to look like every other IG model to feel good. And you damn sure don't have to endanger your health (and burn a hole in your pocket), trying to fit into an outdated and ridiculous beauty standard.