My 'Boyfriend Standards' List Hasn't Changed Since I Was 14, And Thank God For That
And I found a man that matches every one of them.
When I was a freshman in high school, I bought my first journal and the first thing I did in it was write down a pretty extensive list of everything a man who wanted to date me had to possess.
Call me picky, call me extra, but I'd say it was one of the smartest things I did as a fourteen year old. Not only did it make me sit down and actually think about what I desired in a partner but it also made me acknowledge what my time, love, and attention was worth. Throughout high school I didn't date a single guy.
First year of college I met a guy, we were best friends, everyone convinced us we'd be so cute together, so we dated.
But not for long. He met a couple of my standards but definitely not all of them. I was really just an excited freshman who said, "why not go for it? We're already best friends!?" After we broke up, I dug out my now 4 year old journal and opened up to the first page. I read down the list and realized how none of those desires changed and how far he was from the list as a whole. I decided to stick to the list until I came across a man who embodied every bullet point.
- Christian/Catholic
- Sense of Humor
- Cares about personal appearance and hygiene
- Caring and selfless
- Athletic
- Smart
- Responsible
- Someone I'm able to completely open up to
- Chaste
- Sweet and loving
- Someone who treats me like the best and most precious gift from God
- Someone who never fails to make me laugh, smile, and enjoy life.
- Someone who prays with me
- Someone who never fails to amaze me with the way he cares for others and teaches others
- Someone who leads me closer to God
- Goofy
- Understanding
- Pursues me every day
Kinda well thought out huh? Kinda also really long huh? Like there's no way someone could match all of my boyfriend requirements right? Wrong. When you hold to your worth and demand nothing less, when you cling to Christ and pray that He reads your hearts desires, and when you let Him take control, he'll prove His perfect plan and providence in unlikely ways.
I found a man who is God fearing and a truth seeker.
A man who has the goofiest most dad-joke sense of humor ever. Someone who always looks presentable (maybe that's the Marines in him). A man who is so caring and selfless time and time again. Someone who is athletic and who I can compete with at the gym. Someone who has wisdom and is smart and responsible. I found a man who I can open up to and let all of my guards down. Someone who seeks a chaste life and relationship with me. A man who is sweet and loving and who respects me and holds me up as a daughter of the King. Someone who makes me laugh the most, even in inappropriate scenarios. A man that will pray with me and for me. I found a man who constantly looks out for others, lends a helping hand, and wills to educate those he can.
He leads me closer to Christ daily, understands me better than anyone, and pursues me day in and day out.
I didn't know this man existed almost 8 years ago when I first wrote out this list. But my standards didn't waiver, and if they did, the relationship failed. Holding to this list made me hold onto hope that the desires in my heart were not only mine, they were Christ's for me as well.
Beyonce No GIF - Find & Share on GIPHY
Schitts Creek No GIF by CBC - Find & Share on GIPHY
No Way Smh GIF - Find & Share on GIPHY
That'S All Folks No GIF by Lil Yachty - Find & Share on GIPHY
