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If You Were Expecting Me To Wait For You, It's Not Going To Happen
Some guys want to cherish your time, and others want to waste it.
01 November 2018
94
I'm not a top priority for anyone except family and maybe some friends. To the guys that play these games, I'm done. I know myself and I know my worth, but if you don't know it, then we were done before we could ever get started. If someone can go all day without sending one text or talking to you at all, then they clearly don't care and it's time to wait and find someone that does. I'm exhausted trying to keep a guy around who just wants to play games and play with my emotions. I have waited and waited for you to finally start showing me that you're different and not like all the rest, yet here we are.
You turned out to be exactly what you said you would never be. So, forgive me if I'm not exactly jumping up and down when you text me anymore. I have simply become a convenience for you and I am never seen as a top priority. Never should I have to beg for someone to care about me enough to even talk to me. It's simple. If you're going to be busy all day, just tell me so that I don't sit here wondering what I did wrong and why you don't care anymore. It has been well over 24 hours at this point and I'm ready to give up.
You have to understand why because I look stupid waiting for someone to care about me even half as much as I care about you. By now, it has been two weeks since we last hung out and now our communication has slowly died. This is it, this is me giving up because I don't know what to do anymore.
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Building Your Social Media Awareness Is Important, Here's Where To Start
Three quick tips to help you post for success.
24 September 2018
259
Social media is a very important factor of many of our daily lives. It gives us the amazing opportunity to connect with many people and allows us to keep up with trends, friends, news, and sources of inspiration. We have to be cautious of what we are putting online because this media often can't be permanently deleted. Once media is shared, it's quite easy to trace back to you.
So, when considering what to post, ask yourself these three questions:
1. Is this how you want to showcase yourself?
We are all creating a personal brand or image of ourselves when posting online. It's important to realize that your social media accounts share a lot of information about who you are. This isn't a bad thing, however, accounts are checked so often today that it is important that your online media showcases you putting your best foot forward.
2. Is this post a classic or will you later regret it?
Would you be OK with having a teacher, parent, grandparent, child, and friend all see this image? Also, would you be OK with seeing this picture or having it following you for the next ten years? If not, I would be wary of posting. There is no way of making a post 110% private. I'm sure a lot of us have that little privacy box checked but, you have to remember that pictures can be screenshotted, reposted, forwarded, saved, emailed and DMed so easily. If you aren't comfortable with everyone seeing it, I wouldn't risk posting it.
3. Is this post sharing information that is too personal/inappropriate?
Be wary when giving information out that is personal. I would NOT include these things ever in your post or captions:
-Your address
-Your social security number
-Your phone number Say that you are on vacation... You are just asking for a home robbery
-Inappropriate language
-Post pictures of you or friends that are intoxicated
-Party pictures, that contain alcohol... especially if you are a minor
-Pictures with drugs or illegal substances
-Captions that are insulting or would hurt other reputation
-Captions that discuss drama'
-Captions that are have misspelled words or that use slang
-Political issues, that are controversial
Many of these may seem obvious, however, so often I see people making these mistakes. Your future self will thank you later so, just think before you post! So, there it is, three easy tips to think about prior to posting. I guarantee this will only help you to uphold a positive social image.
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I'm The Millennial Girl Who Ghosted Snapchat, And I Have No Regrets
"You got Snap?"
11 September 2018
2054
Consider yourself ghosted, Snapchat.
With Snapchat comes a lot of unnecessary drama, and honestly, I don't miss it. I don't even feel a desire to know how many Snaps I've missed, who has Snapped me, and what any of the Snaps have said. It's one less distraction.
What begins as sending videos and messages, quickly turns into caption-less selfies. Suddenly, communication comes to a screeching halt.
Gone are the days of "Come here often?" and "Can I get your number?"
In today's social media dominated world, Snapchat is the go-to communication app. It's easy, convenient, and takes virtually no effort.
However, what started as a new way to communicate with those around us, has actually stunted our communication and therefore our relationships.
You are no longer an individual, but rather a "streak", and that's if things are going well.
There have been times when I have been Snapchatting a guy and things seem to be going great when they just decide they don't want to talk anymore. This leaves me questioning myself and what I possibly did wrong. To make matters worse, the guy will typically send me another generalized Snap a few months later just to keep me hanging on.
It goes both ways. My good guy friend was getting to know a girl and they were in the middle of a conversation on Snapchat when suddenly, she just stopped responding. Better yet, she didn't even open his Snap for nine months. He still wonders what happened. Luckily, he has a sense of humor and can joke about it. But for others, something like this may have long-lasting effects.
Not only has Snapchat had an impact on romantic relationships, but social life in general.
I had a false sense of who my real friends were. Snapchat made me feel like I was so much closer to people who I rarely spoke to in person. Many of my relationships were merely surface level, and I didn't even realize it until I deleted the app altogether. I figured those who were really my friends and wanted to continue to have a relationship had my phone number, and we could FaceTime, talk on the phone, or even text.
I also felt like I constantly had to be doing something. If I was doing something, I was often more focused on putting it on my snapchat story than actually living in the moment.
"Hold on, let me put this on my story," was a phrase I used all too often.
I'm sure the next time someone asks me, "You got Snap?" and I say no, I'll get funny looks and questioning remarks.
But I'll take the real-life interaction over a streak any day.
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A Sport Is Never 'Just A Game,' And 9 Other Things Brothers Teach Their Sisters
No matter if they are older or younger, having brothers always makes life interesting.
19 July 2018
402
Corrine Harding
Having brothers aren't always like the movies, but you do gain a lot from them, besides their hoodies and flannels. They teach you life lessons and give you a unique perspective on life, and here are the ten things brothers teach you.
1. You have to be tough
GiphySince I can remember, being the youngest of two older brothers I had to learn quickly to have thick skin and toughen up. Whether it was about their jokes towards me or during our many wrestling matches when we were all younger, my brothers very quickly. Over the years, I have gained countless bruises and spent many hours running from their pranks. You need to be tough sometimes because you will be knocked down in life, whether physically or emotionally. You have to get back, wipe yourself off, and keep moving.
2. You have to be creative
GiphyI remember sneaking into one of my brother's room to borrow some of his GI Joes when I was younger because I liked them better than Ken dolls when I played with my Barbies. Having older brothers makes you think creatively about what to do in your spare time when you are younger. They never really played Barbies with me, but we spent countless hours pretending we were outdoor explorers and playing a fishing game to see who was the strongest. Brothers make you think outside of the box and utilize your imagination throughout your life.
3. You tend to be one of the guys
GiphyOut of my seven cousins, six of them are guys and then add onto the fact that I only have two older brothers, I have grown up around guys my entire life. Because of this, I tend to do be one of the guys wherever I go. I spent a year living with four boys in hotel rooms, and that experience showed that I was totally okay with spending time with only guys instead of girls. Being one of the guys is when you are okay spending time to play video games, you laugh at crude jokes, and tag along with the crazy adventures the group comes up with without even batting an eye.
4. You appreciate girl time, though
GiphyBeing around guys can wear you out, so you always can appreciate the time you spend with your gal pals where you can have more civilized conversations, have a spa night, and embrace your girly side.
5. You are brutally honest sometimes
GiphyYou never have to wonder if your brothers are being honest to you, because in the end they have no filter. Because of this, you have slowly have lost your own filter and are honest with everyone around you, sometimes it can be brutal though.
6. Sports aren't "just a game"
GiphyMany years have passed, but my grandma always talks about when I was in 3rd grade I would tell the football moms and grandmas about what was going on throughout the game. They then would ask how I knew all of this, and I would say proudly, "Madden." Since my brothers started football, they let me play and watch their Madden games, and they took time to teach me the hands-on skills like how to throw a spiral and learned hands on what it felt like to be tackled by someone over 200 pounds. My brothers taught me the love and passion towards sports, especially football, where I end up looking like Sheryl Yoast from Remember the Titans when I sit in the bleachers, no matter when I was in 3rd grade or now at college football games.
7. You have life long security
GiphyYour brothers own an imaginary badge stating they are your security for the rest of your life, whether they know it or not. Even though your brothers may pick on you from time to time, they will always protect you from danger outside of their control. The only people who can hurt their siblings are themselves, no one else. I have always felt safe around my brothers, and I know when the going gets tough, they will make sure I am okay.
8. You can't be grossed out by everything
GiphyHaving brothers mean sometimes gross things happen, whether it is farts, burps, or odd smells coming from them, you have learned that you cannot be grossed out by everything they do or by much in general. You tend to find fart jokes funny and are immune to nasty smells now.
9. Oversized hoodies and flannels are the best
GiphyI don't know about you, but having extra large flannels and hoodies are the best during the cold months of the year. I never had hand-me-downs from sisters, but I did get these items once they became too small for my brothers. Being comfortable is greater than anything.
10. You have each other's backs
GiphyNo matter how many fights you get into or how long time has passed since you have talked, but having brothers means you always have each other back. Having brothers gives you some of your best friends in life, and you know that they will cover your six and vice versa.
Having brothers aren't always the prettiest things in life, but I know I wouldn't want it any other way. My brothers push me to be a better person, laugh a little more, and inspire me every day. They are role models to their siblings, whether they know it or not. Brothers may pick on you and may not always show they love you, but they some of the best siblings you can have.
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Yes, I deleted My SnapChat, And No, I don't regret it
I still have other forms of social media, however, I no longer have Snapchat.
18 July 2018
227
Twitter
I made a Snapchat several years ago. I initially thought it was fun and I would occasionally post stories or snap my friends, however, there came a point where having a Snapchat became unproductive. First of all, I found myself wanting to post everything I did on my story, and that took up a lot of my time. Not only that, but I spent a lot of time taking selfies and sending them to friends and or crushes I had. I would have long "streaks" with friends that I did not want to break, and would, therefore, continue to snap them instead of doing other productive activities.
There came a point where I no longer saw the point of Snapchat, so I deleted it. Deleting my Snapchat has been one of the most liberating feelings in my life. Do not get me wrong, I still have other social media, like Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram, because it is where I promote these articles you are reading. Yes, you could "promote" things on Snapchat, but in reality, Snapchat is not really about promoting. It is more of a casual app where you tell people what you are up to.
I do not hate Snapchat and I won't penalize you for having a Snapchat, but personally, I am not a fan of the app. Now that I am in college, people often ask, "What is your snap?" because asking for someones Snapchat is less risky than asking for a phone number. I always have to give a speech about how I don't use Snapchat. It is awkward having to explain yourself, but in the end, you should never do things because everyone does them or because they are "trendy." You should only do things you like. Moral of the story, stay true to yourself and don't be embarrassed to take a break from social media or delete your account if it is taking over your life in a negative way.
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