Here are some great breakup movies if you feel like you just need to cry and let it all out.
Everyone needs a good cry here and there, especially after a breakup. These movies, while not all surrounding a breakup, are heart-wrenching and will make you sob. Just what you need, right?
Dear Old Friend,
I decided we aren’t friends anymore and you may not fully understand why.
I recently read To The Bestfriend Who Decided We Aren't Friends Anymore and it struck a chord with me. I realized that I was that friend who walked away, who gave up. I hurt you and that hurts me. But, the reality is, I decided we aren’t friends anymore because… we just weren’t.
I think about all of the memories we shared, too. I haven’t forgotten all of the years we were never without each other. And if we were apart, we were texting or counting down the minutes until we would be together again. I think about the times when it wasn’t even a question if you were going to celebrate my birthday with me, binge-watch Netflix and eat junk food, or hug me until I stopped crying and forgot his name. Because all that mattered was us. We were like Blair and Serena. Everything would be OK as long as we were together, right?
But we aren’t together.
My heart is broken when I see you post pictures with other friends tagged #bestfriend #rideordie #girlfriend, when I hear one of our songs and you’re not there to sing horribly with me when I am alone or scared and you aren’t there like you’re supposed to be.
You’re just not there anymore and you haven’t been for over a year.
I moved away. I will take responsibility for leaving, for transferring colleges, for making new friends, for growing up. I know I left you, but that didn’t change our friendship for me. I never stopped being your best friend. I know I had to go days at a time without texting you back.
I know I had to go months without visiting. I go to a new college, I have new friends and I don’t live 15 minutes away anymore, but when did that stop me from being there for you? When another jerk broke your heart, I was on the phone with you until you stopped crying. When you experienced loss, I got my shift covered and drove down to you as soon as I could. I never called anyone else my best friend, it was always you; my new friends even knew that. But it was never enough for you.
Maybe I am the one who officially decided we aren’t friends anymore, but you decided too.
You decided we weren’t friends anymore when you stopped being my best friend, but expected me to be yours. You decided we weren’t friends anymore when you intentionally tried to hurt me because you felt justified in doing so.
You decided we weren’t friends anymore when you chose a boy over our friendship — over and over and over again. You decided we weren’t friends anymore when you chose to be jealous instead of happy for me. You decided we weren’t friends anymore when you made our friendship a one-way street.
Friendship, like any relationship I have learned, can’t be a one-way street. It isn’t petty, it isn’t cruel. True friendship is supportive, accepting, understanding and is never less important than a boy. Best friends never, ever intentionally hurt their best friends , no matter what the reason may be. Once you do that, you just aren’t best friends anymore.
Now, I know that when you love someone, you fight. I know that there are going to be rough patches, but I stuck around for longer than I should have. You know this. I know you know this. I forgave you over and over and over again. I forgave you for things that I never in a million years could imagine myself doing to you, or anyone for that matter; because I love you. Even when you did the unspeakable, I still loved you. You were my best friend. That meant the commitment to me. That meant loyalty and unconditional love. Until it didn’t to you.
I kept choosing you when I should have been choosing me. Well, now, I choose me.
I stand by my decision in deciding we aren’t friends anymore, but it will hurt me every day. I just know that it will hurt less than it did desperately try to save our friendship, trying to save you. You have made it clear that to you, our friendship isn’t worth saving. You have made it clear that you don’t want to be saved. So, I have no choice but to let go. I have nothing to hold on to anymore.
Despite how it has ended, I still thank you. Thank you for our years of friendship. Thank you for all of the amazing memories — memories that I, to this day, can’t imagine being topped. Thank you for showing me what true friendship is and what it isn’t. Thank you for teaching me how to be selfless, how to be forgiving and how to be a loyal friend. Most of all, thank you for being the person who finally pushed me to choose myself.
Love,
The Best Friend You Pushed Away
An astrological approach to breakups.
Breakups suck, getting dumped sucks, and being the one who calls off a relationship also sucks. Really the entire situation isn't a walk in the park. It's a confrontation like no other because, this time, people's hearts are involved.
Some breakups include yelling, screaming, and slamming doors while others are paragraph text messages and tearful FaceTimes. Every Zodiac sign has unique qualities that influence how they approach breakups. No way is "right" or "wrong," they are all different in their own way.
If you have no clue how to go about calling it quits, connect to your zodiac sign and you'll find the exact way it was meant to be.
These fiery, energetic, and aggressive souls won't waste a minute with the wrong person. They will rip the relationship off like a Band-Aid, lay it all out on the line, and, yes, it will be done in public. Nevertheless, they won't be vague and they will make sure to be respectful and emphasize closure.
Taurus individuals are grounded and don't really like to compromise. Although loyal and committed, breakups happen and a Taurus will be very black and white in their actions. With a quick, "We're over," these signs will be able to swiftly move on and find someone that satisfies their expectations.
These creative creatures have phenomenal communication skills and will definitely choose to break another's heart with a sentimental poem that illustrates why they have to move on.
Cancers will cry in their soon-to-be-ex's arms and exclaim, "It's not you, it's me!" Cancers are awfully emotional and sensitive. I would know, I am one and, from personal experiences, initiating breakups are so hard – we would rather avoid confrontation at all costs. Cancers sympathize with all and it's almost impossible for us to willingly hurt others, which makes breaking up with a loved one heartbreaking.
Leos are confident and natural-born leaders; as such, they will take the breakup in their own, overly dramatic hands. Don't be surprised if they dress up in all black as though they are attending a funeral – the death of their relationship.
Virgos are super particular about details, so they will plan out the breakup and make sure everything is to a T. They are uber critical, so they are sure to search for perfection and be disappointed in their ex. A Virgo will write out all the reasons why their soon-to-be-ex doesn't meet their high standards and this behavior will for sure lead to a breakup.
A Libra will take a diplomatic, face-to-face approach with honesty, clarity, and they most definitely will take responsibility for their wrongdoings. A Libra will invite their soon-to-be-ex over, sit them down with their favorite drink, talk about the relationship, and swiftly divide assets like a responsible adult.
These lovers are known to be the most sexual of all the zodiac signs, and also most evil depending on who you ask. With this said, Scorpios will definitely have breakup sex with their ex a few times before finally ghosting them.
These impatient wanderers tend not to deliver on promises and do not do well if they feel trapped in a relationship. A Sagittarius will quickly realize that their relationship is just no fun anymore but there is a chance they will draw the relationship out and end up in and on again off again situation. All in all, they are known to disregard another's feelings and will do everything in their power to resist commitment. So, they will run away, move states, and their friends will share the bad news with their new ex.
Capricorns are known to be unemotional, pessimistic, and disciplined, but that doesn't mean breakups don't well break them. They have no time for B.S. or instability, so Capricorn breakups are quick and to the point. Que a breakup text along the lines of, "I don't see us going anywhere."
When it comes to breakups, these nontraditional souls will want to focus on their analytical logic. Here come the pros and cons lists that go over a relationship's successes and failures.
As one of the friendliest signs, these fishes are always willing to help and forgive others. Consequently, a Pisces can create a strong emotional bond with people, which makes breakups tough to go through. A Pisces will know deep down that their relationship is over but will hold on for dear life because maybe just maybe their partner will change. Their breakup style is vague as they will ask to remain friends and won't be able to set clear boundaries. But, don't worry, eventually, a Pisces will day by day create distance and drift away.
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I wish I had learned these sooner.
It can be extremely tempting to reach out to your old partner, whether you got dumped, did the dumping, or mutually ended a relationship. Maybe you simply want to check-in and make sure they're okay, or perhaps it's 2 a.m. and you've taken one too many shots of vodka, so now you're convinced that you can win them back (I get it, we've all been there), but whatever the case might be you should definitely not reach out and here are a few reasons why:
2Nd Chance Fah GIF by FoilArmsandHogGiphyAs someone who has given out her fair share of second chances, I can assure you that they don't end very well. As my mother likes to remind me: tigers can't change their stripes. If you were fortunate enough not to hear that while growing up, it really just means that people won't change. Think of it this way- a tiger change can't change the stripes on its body, and unfortunately, people are almost always the same way. If your ex claims they have changed, do yourself a favor and don't believe it, especially if it's been less than a year since you were together. Ending communication with an old S.O. blocks any possibility of a second chance, which I promise is a good thing.
Season 2 Breaking Up GIF by FriendsGiphyClosure is something that people think comes from their ex, but I think you need to find it within yourself, and you can't do that if you're busy texting your ex after six months. The minute that someone ends a relationship is when you should begin to work on finding closure within yourself because you can't depend on anyone but yourself for true peace and happiness. You might think that talking things out with your ex will help you heal, but it only serves to prolong your heartache. In some instances, it can be helpful to talk with an old flame years after a relationship has ended, but if it's been less than 18 months, I would highly suggest not reaching out to your ex.
Over It Reaction GIF by Shalita GrantGiphyIf you're out offering second chances or attempting to find closure through somebody else, then there's no way in hell that you'll be able to move on, and that's not fair to your or your old partner. If a relationship of yours ended, then it ended for a reason, so you should respect that and begin to work towards strengthening your current relationships and cultivating new ones. You owe it to yourself to move on, even if that means you're alone for a while. Don't hold yourself back by clinging to the past. Instead, focus on embracing the present and looking towards the future. Anyone who left you doesn't deserve to be a part of your future anyways.
Hey Siri...play Stay by Post Malone
"I don't want to be just a number to you."
"You're not. I promise. I see potential in you."
Yeah. Ok. I'm worth so much more than what you gave me. And all these goals you have for yourself, all these "settling down" goals you have, they are all lies. They will never happen if you keep treating girls the way you do. No girl deserves to be lead on and used in the way you do. Grow up.
I feel so stupid looking back at it now. So stupid. All the times I asked you to hang out and you could never make time for me. All the times I'd text you first because you made me believe you wanted something real with me. The moment you showed me I wasn't a priority, I should said whatever and left. You had me wrapped around your finger and you knew it. I even tried "ending things" with you in person and you couldn't even meet me for that. That's so immature. Up until my friends told you off, you still texted me and called me just the bare minimum so I couldn't get over you. You know the game that you play.
Even though I wasn't wanted by you in the way you made me believe, you still wanted me....and so do lots of other guys. I didn't need you to make me feel good about myself. There's plenty of other guys who would be happy to remind me of my worth every day. Luckily, my bad experience with you makes me look out for red flags and recognize them a lot sooner than before.
Long story short, stop treating girls like they're toys. You can't just use us then throw us away and act like we never happened. Not to mention, if all you want is sex, say that. Don't say, "I want to keep talking" "I really like you" "I see myself being really happy with you", then once we believe you and open up to you, you dip.
Grow up T.
You are wasting EVERYONE'S time.
"Find someone who eases your mind and occupies your soul."
At some point in our life, we'll all have to deal with one or two breakups. But always remember they are missing out, not you.
You had a bad break up. Now get up and keep walking because someone better is waiting for you. Don't believe me? Here are 10 poems to read post-breakup to help you realize your worth and take that step forward into healing.
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