Students Asked About Relationship Advice - The Results

I Asked Students About Relationship Advice & This Is What I Got

Coming from the biggest booty call school in the nation

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As cuffing season is quickly approaching it seems like everyone is talking about how much they love or hate the entire concept of relationships. As I got talking to students around campus, I started asking what the best relationship advice they would give for a healthy and successful relationship.

Personally, I was actually surprised by the answered I received, and maybe Syracuse is more than just a booty call school after all.

Keep in mind these answers come from all genders, relationship status', religion, and sexuality.

1. "Be honest about everything. It's not worth the cover-ups and lies, as with everything honesty is the best policy." 

2. "Most strong relationships don't evolve from a hookup (NOT A RULE, just an observation from my personal life). I like fooling around as much as the next person, but it's definitely a lot less complicated if you didn't meet the person through a drunken hookup." 

3. "Be understanding and don't try to make them fit your mold of a perfect partner because everyone is human and will make mistakes. Placing expectations on someone is unrealistic and will always leave you unhappy. Love someone for who they are, not who you wish they were."

4. "Respect each other and learn to admit when you're wrong. Say you're sorry and never go to bed angry. Say I love you every time you leave or hang up the phone."

5. "Keep your distance while still being together sometimes."

6. "Have a relationship with Jesus. This makes all the difference in the world. Without him, I wouldn't be with my fiance. Jesus is the glue that holds us together, and he gives me strength every day to avoid impatience." 

7. "Communicate and don't be afraid to show your true feelings. Trust is key." 

8. "Be open minded and patient. Love may be a feeling, but it's also a choice. It is so important to be willing to accept your partners flaws and adapt to them. If you truly love each other, you work though the difficult circumstances." 

9. Communication. You have to communicate your feelings at all times. If you don't then things get complicated and you and your partner will become unhappy, especially in a long distance relationship which tends to happen a lot when people go to college. Always be open and communicate!"

10. "Communication and trust."

11. "Be honest with each other."

12. "One piece of advice someone gave me was 'you should remember the first and last time someone hurts you. After that there shouldn't be any more to remember.' I think there's more to it, but it's somethings that has alwasy stuck with me."

13. "It's all about trust and compromise. If you don't have trust, nor can compromise and understand and respect your differences; that will elad you to have issues." 

14. "Communication, mutual effort and same intentions." 

15. "Make sure you aren't the only one putting effort in the relationship. Both people in the relationship should be putting in the same amount of effort to keep each other happy." 

16. "Trust is everything!"

17. "Communication, it's the key to trust."

18. "I am a really anxious person and I have difficulty trusting others. I find that I often will look for and create problems that do not even exist to protect myself from getting hurt. This only resulted in more unnecessary fighting and stress. I learned that in order to have a healthy relationship, we need to allow ourselves to be emotionally vulnerable. Trust your gut, but do not go searching for what is not there out of fear."

19. "It isn't about what you receive. Keep giving. That's what unconditional love is. I'm not saying never break up with someone, just don't let your partner's actions or feeling for the day affect how you love them that day." 

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To The Teacher Who Was So Much More

Thank you for everything
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I think it's fair to say that most people remember at least one teacher who had a lasting impact on them. I have been incredibly lucky to have several teachers who I will never forget, but one individual takes the cake. So here's to you: thank you for all you have done.

Thank you for teaching me lessons not just in the textbook.

Although you taught a great lecture, class was never just limited to the contents of the course. Debates and somewhat heated conversations would arise between classmates over politics and course material, and you always encouraged open discussion. You embraced the idea of always having an opinion, and always making it be heard, because why waste your voice? You taught me to fight for things I believed in, and to hold my ground in an argument. You taught me to always think of others before doing and speaking. You showed me the power of kindness. Thank you for all the important lessons that may not have been included in the curriculum.

Thank you for believing in me.

Especially in my senior year, you believed in me when other teachers didn't. You showed me just what I could accomplish with a positive and strong attitude. Your unwavering support kept me going, especially when I melted into a puddle of tears weekly in your office. You listened to my stupid complaints, understood my overwhelming stress-induced breakdowns, and told me it was going to be okay. Thank you for always being there for me.

Thank you for inspiring me.

You are the epitome of a role model. Not only are you intelligent and respected, but you have a heart of gold and emit beautiful light where ever you go. You showed me that service to others should not be looked at as a chore, but something to enjoy and find yourself in. And I have found myself in giving back to people, thanks to your spark. Thank you for showing me, and so many students, just how incredible one person can be.

Thank you for changing my life.

Without you, I truly would not be where I am today. As cliche as it sounds, you had such a remarkable impact on me and my outlook on life. Just about a year has passed since my graduation, and I'm grateful to still keep in touch. I hope you understand the impact you have made on me, and on so many other students. You are amazing, and I thank you for all you have done.

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It's Time For You High Schoolers To Invest Your Time Into Your Careers

It may seem too early to specialize, but there will be a point where it's too late.

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If you're in high school, odds are you're approached by friends, family and more family about your plans after. For many of us, this can mean college. From convincing a college to admit you to convincing them to foot your entire tuition bill, you need to be marketable.

You should start with writing out your resume. Write it specifically oriented towards your career path. My resume, for example, is music themed. If you are anything like younger me, you might have a couple things that fit. I had marching band, concert band, honor band. But the majority might be things you signed up for to round yourself out.

A candidate too well rounded is directionless.

My participation in science club was fun, I will admit. But it didn't do much for me. It didn't teach me leadership, nor cooperation nor did it help with my career path.

High school is a lot more limited a time to both express and market yourself than you might think. Before I knew it, I was sitting in my junior year without much to my musical name.

If you have an extra curricular that you participate in because you enjoy it, you don't have to drop it. If you have developed as a person or as a leader, then it might even be something you can include in your list.

I just want to caution people from getting into the same situation I was in. I spent the first three years essentially of high school to feel out different areas, and this was too much time.

Productive uses of your after school time should be things you talk about when you say what sets you apart from other students in your field. And yes, this means you have to utilize tools outside of your school offerings most of the time.

When I go to apply for college and for musical internships, I plan on listing my participation in Atlanta CV (professional drum corps in DCA), high school marching band and marching band leadership, MAYWE (Metropolitan Atlanta Youth Wind Ensemble, an auditioned honor band), GYSO (Georgia Youth Symphony Orchestra), AYWS (Atlanta Youth Wind Symphony), Youth Bands of Atlanta, county honor band, jazz band, twice state applicant for Governor's Honors Program Music, JanFest music at UGA, the Academy of Science, Research and Medicine (Biotechnology certification and science fair), math bowl and HOSA - Future Health Professionals.

When I go to apply for college and for musical internships, I plan on listing the most relevant activities as well as the ones I've chosen to regardless stick with. Relevant activities in regard to my music major include honor ensembles and marching activities.

My most applicable activities for music include marching bands. I am a contracted baritone marcher of Atlanta CV Drum and Bugle Corps as well as trombone marcher and two year Trombone/Baritone Section Leader for the Pride of Paulding marching band. These show relevancy because these organizations provide rapport as well as the marching activity in itself shows another level of musical capability.

My honor ensembles are relevant likewise because they show higher musical skill and provide some legitimacy to your path. I have been involved in Metropolitan Atlanta Youth Wind Ensemble, county honor band, jazz band and I was also a Two-Time State Applicant to the Governor's Honors Program.

I plan to also be with the Symphony of the Georgia Youth Symphony Orchestra, Atlanta Youth Wind Ensemble, Youth Bands of Atlanta and JanFest at UGA. Auditions are coming up for each of these and I hope to be considered for membership. These would round out my music application by showing versatility (via orchestra along with wind ensembles) and more time dedication. Both universities and employers value this level of hard work.

Of course, even I on my soapbox have some activities I've stuck with despite it not being directly related to music. Despite this, you can make them relevant by touting your experience with it. I've been an officer and competitor for our chapter of HOSA - Future Health Professionals despite not going into healthcare and I've been certified in Biotechnology through my school The Academy of Science, Research and Medicine despite not going into STEM.

My experiences in biotechnology and healthcare have provided me a round academic experience, more high rigor classes and leadership opportunities. I was co-treasurer of our HOSA chapter and my Magnet school gave me access to more AP classes and the biotechnology classes. Anything can be useful, but the extent is determined by its relevancy.

The vast majority of my activities are both outside of the school and directly related to my career path. Activities such as these can make any student automatically more competitive than an equally academically-standing student.

Finding these activities involve a combination of involving teachers and mentors in your career field as well as self research. Luckily for me, I was able to fairly quickly compile a list of Honor Bands to audition for due to the abundance in the area. My directors also named a few. Most areas should have something at least tangentially-related to your specialization.

Some opportunities require knowing the right people and being in the right place at the right time. For example, my involvement in one of my most valuable activity assets, Atlanta CV, was a result of knowing a guy that knew a guy that knew about an opening for the right instrument halfway through spring training.

What I hope readers gain from my story is to start early. I've found myself struggling to meet the market's standards in the last year of high school immediately before applying for college. Specializing would have been more effective a tad bit longer term and I hope others take my heed.

Moving on from high school can be an intimidating process. It's hard to find the right college, and even harder to convince them they want you. Harder still is convincing them to pay for your education. But all this can be made easier by specializing and becoming marketable.

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