I Asked Students About Relationship Advice & This Is What I Got

I Asked Students About Relationship Advice & This Is What I Got

Coming from the biggest booty call school in the nation

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As cuffing season is quickly approaching it seems like everyone is talking about how much they love or hate the entire concept of relationships. As I got talking to students around campus, I started asking what the best relationship advice they would give for a healthy and successful relationship.

Personally, I was actually surprised by the answered I received, and maybe Syracuse is more than just a booty call school after all.

Keep in mind these answers come from all genders, relationship status', religion, and sexuality.

1. "Be honest about everything. It's not worth the cover-ups and lies, as with everything honesty is the best policy." 

2. "Most strong relationships don't evolve from a hookup (NOT A RULE, just an observation from my personal life). I like fooling around as much as the next person, but it's definitely a lot less complicated if you didn't meet the person through a drunken hookup." 

3. "Be understanding and don't try to make them fit your mold of a perfect partner because everyone is human and will make mistakes. Placing expectations on someone is unrealistic and will always leave you unhappy. Love someone for who they are, not who you wish they were."

4. "Respect each other and learn to admit when you're wrong. Say you're sorry and never go to bed angry. Say I love you every time you leave or hang up the phone."

5. "Keep your distance while still being together sometimes."

6. "Have a relationship with Jesus. This makes all the difference in the world. Without him, I wouldn't be with my fiance. Jesus is the glue that holds us together, and he gives me strength every day to avoid impatience." 

7. "Communicate and don't be afraid to show your true feelings. Trust is key." 

8. "Be open minded and patient. Love may be a feeling, but it's also a choice. It is so important to be willing to accept your partners flaws and adapt to them. If you truly love each other, you work though the difficult circumstances." 

9. Communication. You have to communicate your feelings at all times. If you don't then things get complicated and you and your partner will become unhappy, especially in a long distance relationship which tends to happen a lot when people go to college. Always be open and communicate!"

10. "Communication and trust."

11. "Be honest with each other."

12. "One piece of advice someone gave me was 'you should remember the first and last time someone hurts you. After that there shouldn't be any more to remember.' I think there's more to it, but it's somethings that has alwasy stuck with me."

13. "It's all about trust and compromise. If you don't have trust, nor can compromise and understand and respect your differences; that will elad you to have issues." 

14. "Communication, mutual effort and same intentions." 

15. "Make sure you aren't the only one putting effort in the relationship. Both people in the relationship should be putting in the same amount of effort to keep each other happy." 

16. "Trust is everything!"

17. "Communication, it's the key to trust."

18. "I am a really anxious person and I have difficulty trusting others. I find that I often will look for and create problems that do not even exist to protect myself from getting hurt. This only resulted in more unnecessary fighting and stress. I learned that in order to have a healthy relationship, we need to allow ourselves to be emotionally vulnerable. Trust your gut, but do not go searching for what is not there out of fear."

19. "It isn't about what you receive. Keep giving. That's what unconditional love is. I'm not saying never break up with someone, just don't let your partner's actions or feeling for the day affect how you love them that day." 

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"Is your homework just a bunch of coloring?"
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Yes, I'm an Education major, and yes, I love it. Your opinion of the field won't change my mind about my future. If you ever happen to come across an Education major, make sure you steer clear of saying these things, or they might hold you in from recess.

1. "Is your homework just a bunch of coloring?"

Um, no, it's not. We write countless lesson plans and units, match standards and objectives, organize activities, differentiate for our students, study educational theories and principles, and write an insane amount of papers on top of all of that. Sometimes we do get to color though and I won't complain about that.

2. "Your major is so easy."

See above. Also, does anyone else pay tuition to have a full-time job during their last semester of college?

3. "It's not fair that you get summers off."

Are you jealous? Honestly though, we won't really get summers off. We'll probably have to find a second job during the summer, we'll need to keep planning, prepping our classroom, and organizing to get ready for the new school year.

4. “That's a good starter job."

Are you serious..? I'm not in this temporarily. This is my career choice and I intend to stick with it and make a difference.

5. “That must be a lot of fun."

Yes, it definitely is fun, but it's also a lot of hard work. We don't play games all day.

6. “Those who can't, teach."

Just ugh. Where would you be without your teachers who taught you everything you know?

7. “So, you're basically a babysitter."

I don't just monitor students, I teach them.

8. “You won't make a lot of money."

Ah yes, I'm well aware, thanks for reminding me. Teachers don't teach because of the salary, they teach because they enjoy working with students and making a positive impact in their lives.

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3 Struggles Of Attending A Pre-Med Dominated University — No Matter What Your Major Is

It's a hard knock life for the many pre-med students out there.

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Even though we as college students are technically considered adults, we are still burdened by stress at a young age. Especially in a pre-med oriented school, we feel pressured to keep up with or even surpass the achievements of others as we struggle to maintain our busy schedules while attempting to balance what little time we have left for ourselves. It's a sad reality.

1. The competition

Coming from a very pre-med oriented university, I can't help but feel the competitive vibes around me. During the lecture, I can hear the students around me ask their peers what score they received on the most recent midterm while others boast about how busy they are during the week because of all of the things that they are doing outside of the classroom.

It's this dog eat dog environment and constant comparison that makes students and myself included feel as if we are somehow lagging behind or not doing as much as we should be doing so we push ourselves even harder to keep up. As much as we don't want to, we have the tendency to measure our success in terms of others' success, and this, in turn, makes it more difficult for us to focus on ourselves. Now, I'm sure that you've been told not to compare yourself to others, but in the end, isn't that how you gain admission into medical school? By being compared to others? It's all relative.

2. The authenticity

It's not rare to see a pre-med student taking 18 or more credits while trying to squeeze in some volunteer work, a campus job, and even some research hours all into one day. At times, however, I question whether or not they truly want to do all of these things, but at the same time, I understand that they feel pressured to embody the "ideal" medical school applicant.

One of my friends once said to me, "I need to beef up my resume", and it's sad to see how she now feels constantly pressured to apply for a volunteer position or a job because of this. I also see others dread the work that they do, but they continue to stick with it and overload themselves because they believe that is what admissions officers want to see. I am a firm believer of doing something because you genuinely want to and not because you feel like you have to, yet this mentality gets lost as one becomes so immersed in meeting the requirements of the medical school.

3. The balance

While doing well in your classes is important, so is eating, showering, and sleeping. In fact, I think that one's physical and mental health triumphs all else. I recall the hectic week that one of my friends recently pushed through. She had a weekend class and an exam as part of something she pursues on the side, and that same week, we had a chemistry midterm followed by a biology one and not to mention all of the other assignments we had due in between. My friend already felt tired and burnt out from the weekend, and this led her to miss a lecture and some homework assignments. She even went a day without eating an actual meal.

With only a bag of popcorn for dinner one night, she stayed up until FOUR in the morning to catch up on what she had missed during the day. Many of my other friends who are pre-med struggle to balance academics, extracurriculars, leisure time, and maintenance of their overall health because there is always a trade-off. There are only 24 hours in a day, and one thing has to be sacrificed in order to obtain the other, and I wish it wasn't this way.

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