Almost every female can say they've encountered at least one mean girl in their lifetime. If I ever came home upset over another girl being mean to me, my mom would tell me whoever was being mean, was just jealous. I didn't believe her at first, I thought that was ridiculous, there was no reason to be jealous. Years later, I see what she was saying, not only in situations involving myself, but other girls I'm around. Still, jealousy doesn't make any sense to me. I'm not saying I don't have my own insecurities, but I don't understand hating on another girl because she's looking good, is successful, etc.
Whether it's at school or work, sometimes I hear girls snickering, I look or listen to see what they're laughing at, and it's usually another female's appearance. "Wow look at how short her shorts are." "Why is she wearing so much makeup? Who's she trying to impress?" etc, etc. Even on social media, girls always have something to say about the things other girls post. But why? What does the length of her shorts, or if she beat her face just to go to class? She isn't hurting anyone with her appearance, and you never know what kind of confidence it took to leave the house like that, or post the picture. Are you lacking the confidence yourself to do something similar yourself?
Another thing, it's a faux pas if we wear something that could potentially "outshine" someone on their birthday/wedding/some sort of important event. It's nothing but unnecessary jealousy. Maren Morris said it best: "I don't want to wear your crown, there's enough to go around." Like, we literally can go out, look hot, and have a great time without feeling like Becky's makeup is making the rest of us look like a three-year-old who got into their mother's makeup.
What gets me the most though, is the silent competition when it comes to guys. LADIES, please. It is 2019, if you're still competing over men...what are you doing? Luckily, in my friend group, none of us have the same type, and even if we did, we know the boundaries. However, this doesn't mean I haven't seen it before. A lot of my girlfriends will stop hearing from their guy friends when the guys get into relationships. First of all...bold of you to assume I want your man. Second of all, if anything was going to happen, it would've probably happened already.
I've had the friend group where everyone secretly hates each other, people are left out, and everyone ended up hurt. I've also had the friend group where we all genuinely love each other, we all compliment each other, and it's always a good time. I can promise you, the latter is so much more fun and better for your health. Next time you find yourself judging the way another girl looks, go up and compliment her, or ask where she got her outfit. Take the negativity that comes from jealousy and turn it into kindness, then watch your own confidence skyrocket.