Summer Realities Vs. Expectations We Definitely Didn't Meet

Summer Realities Vs. Expectations We Definitely Didn't Meet

Because sometimes all the things you say you'll do this summer, don't actually happen.

Summer -- the perfect time to finally do all of those things you keep pushing off or can't do because you are “too busy." When I say finally do them, I actually mean that you’ll say you are going to do them but end up still pushing them to the side. This includes working out, saving money, tanning or any other projects or hobbies you said you would do this summer. Here is a list of things I am guilty of saying I would do this summer and ended up not doing at all:

1. Expectation: I’m going to get in shape this summer.

Reality: Never sets foot in a gym once and eats McDonald’s every night at 2 a.m.

2. Expectation: I’m going to work a lot and save up my money.

Reality: Ends up working a ton but never saving a cent and spending all of my money the day after payday because I have no self-control.

3. Expectation: I’m going to go to the pool every single day and get super tan.

Reality: Visited the pool once, sat there for 10 minutes and then left because I couldn’t withstand the Oklahoma heat.

4. Expectation: I’m going to sleep in until noon every single day.

Reality: Work. Need I say more?

5. Expectation: I’m going to hang out with my friends a ton and make lots of memories.

Reality: We all had jobs and trying to plan anything was impossible.

6. Expectation: Taking a 9:30 a.m. summer class won't be THAT bad.

Reality: I hate my life and would never wish a summer class on my worst enemy.

7. Expectation: I'm going to go on a bunch of epic adventures this summer.

Reality: The only "epic adventure" I could actually afford was driving myself to my local park.

Whatever you spent your summer doing, I hope it was enjoyable, and maybe you completed something off of your “summer bucket list" -- unlike me. Oh well, better luck next year, right?

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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it


Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

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Why Doesn't Summer Really Feel Like Summer?

It's been a month since finals ended... so where's summer?


Northern Michigan is at it again with the crazy weather. One day it's 75 degrees without a cloud in the sky, and the next three days are 55 and rainy. So far for me, this summer has been nothing but work and baseball games. My bank account is starting to show how much I've been working, but even on my days off, I do nothing.

Don't get me wrong, I am not complaining about not having school and being home. However, it would be nice to be on the lake for more than one day this summer. I have a summer bucket list that I want to complete, but the weather has to agree with me in order to start it.

I was looking forward to summer vacation all spring semester and now that it is here, I low-key want to be in East Lansing again to see my college friends and be back in my normal schedule. I think the most difficult thing about summer is the fact that I don't have a "normal" schedule like I do when I am away at school.

I hope this summer gets a little better. I have done a lot of thinking and reflecting this last month about my schoolwork and my personal life and I believe this time off has been beneficial- even if I am not as tan as I would like to be. Who knows what's going to happen in the next 10 weeks? I hope I get to spend time with my friends and family and also work hard so that I can treat myself this school year!

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