September is National Suicide Awareness Month. Suicide can be hard to talk about, but it is a conversation needs to be started. Taking one's own life is the 10th leading cause of death in the United States. That being said, it's completely preventable. Here's what you need to know about the myths, the signs, ways to get or find help and how to be proactive.

The Myths

Many myths exist about suicide. One of the most common is that talking or asking someone about it will plant the idea in his/her mind. This is false, as discussing it more often encourages someone to seek help and lets him/her know that someone cares.

This is quite the opposite of encouraging an attempt. Another myth is that people who threaten suicide are just seeking attention. Any threat should always be taken seriously. It isn't something to joke about.

You never want to wake up knowing you had a chance to save someone's life, but didn't because you thought they were exaggerating. Finally, one of the most prevailing myths is that only certain types of people are suicidal.

However, people of every race, gender, nationality, and religion fall victim to suicide. It doesn't discriminate. These myths are part of the problem. But knowing that they are myths can help make you part of the solution.

The Signs

To prevent suicide, one needs to heed the warning signs. One of the biggest indicators is that a person talks about feeling trapped, experiencing unbearable pain, being a burden to others or having no reason to live. It is an undeniable sign if a person outright talks about killing him/herself. All of these comments are red flags. Other signs can be behavioral, such as an increased use of and dependence on alcohol or drugs.

Sometimes a suicidal individual will withdraw from activities or from his/her family and friends. They may give away prized possessions or make reckless decisions. Their sleep patterns may change and they may even begin to directly or indirectly say goodbye to friends and family.

These changes in behavior can be subtle or more pronounced. Someone contemplating taking his/her own life may seem depressed, more aggressive than normal, irritable, anxious, even humiliated. If you begin to notice any of these indicators, it's time to start a conversation and find ways to help.

How To Help

When you think someone is at risk, the best thing you can do is talk to him/her and really listen to show you care. Don't be afraid to ask directly if the individual is contemplating taking his/her own life. If this is the case, encourage a visit to a doctor or therapist. Avoid debating the value of life or downplaying the problem. This won't help. You need to be supportive. If the person says they are considering suicide,

• Take the threat seriously
• Stay with the person
• Remove lethal means
• Call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255
• Text TALK to 741741 to text with a trained crisis counselor from the Crisis Text Line for free, 24/7
• Escort the person to mental health services or an emergency room

The goal is to keep the person safe and make him/her feel valued while seeking help. Suicide can be difficult and very emotional to talk about. Be understanding and careful not to say anything negative about the way he/she is feeling.

Ways To Be Proactive

There are so many ways to be proactive in your school and community. Find or organize a local walk through The American Foundation For Suicide Prevention (AFSP). Volunteer with a local AFSP Chapter to help create communities that are smart about suicide.

Bring prevention to your school, church or other group. Help start the conversation on your college campus or within your local youth group. The more educated people are about suicide, the more likely they are to notice the warning signs and help someone else in need.