It takes a lot for me to get full blown angry. Usually, I just get emotional and have a good cry instead of releasing my feelings in fits of rage (contrary to popular redhead stereotypes). However, the other day I was on my phone, hopping around on various social media sites when I came across an article which I proceeded to read, and while I will not mention the source of the article, they are a very popular website for teenagers and twenty-somethings with tons of articles and videos. I knew they were very explicit in a lot of their articles, and I try to avoid those, but this article just stirred an anger inside of me I have rarely experienced.

It was about how horrible it is to date and not have sex.

Then, the day before there was an article basically talking about how pathetic this girl was because she waited until college to have her first kiss (they tried to make it seem inspirational like she "finally" had her first kiss, but it seemed more like satire to me).

So, basically what you're telling girls is that they can't date without having sex to have a fulfilling relationship and that they're pathetic if they don't kiss someone in high school. Wow, glad to know you have such high standards for us as women.

After reading the article, I felt this righteous anger inside me, much like I imagined Jesus had when he saw his Father's house was being used as a marketplace (Matthew 21:12). It's just in this case, these writers are teaching girls to degrade themselves, whom might I add, God says their bodies are like a temple and to be treated as such with holiness and purity (1 Corinthians 6:19).

All I can say is ladies, please, please, please, DO NOT listen to these messages that culture throws at you. You are worth so much more than the stupid high school boy's kiss or if a boy wants your body. No, I will not say they are men because they are boys. And until they treat you with respect and don't expect those things from you, they are boys.

As a lady in waiting, it frustrates me to think of the vulnerable girls that will come across those articles and read it and are trained to think that is normal for them. I mean, I know 12-year-olds who look at that social media site and if my twelve-year-old self was reading that, what message would that have sent to me? Yeah, that makes me angry. Really angry.

I mean if they are saying you're lame if you don't do those things then I'm the lamest of the lame because I've never kissed anyone (AND I'm in college) and I'm committed to a life of purity, waiting for marriage. If you think I'm lame for that, sorry, I don't care. God has so much more for me than trifling relationships based on sinful impulses and settling for less just so I can meet the culture's standards.

I can show you ladies that are anything but lame who waited to have their first kiss until they were engaged, or stayed pure until they were married. They're actually cooler for it. They're more respectable, their love for Christ overpowers lust, and they're gorgeous people because they are not defined by how a boy sees them. They're just plain awesome. And if you need to find a girl to be a role model like that, learn Rebecca St. James' story. Listen to Barlow Girl. Watch Bonnie Kate and Max Zoghbi's video below.

You have a choice. Will you be defined by culture's low standards for you or will you live in holiness, unashamedly defined by Christ's beauty?

It's up to you. Let Christ shatter the culture in your life.