10 Struggles Of A Long Distance Friendship

10 Struggles Of A Long Distance Friendship

Distance, it sucks sometimes. Especially when the person you are closest to lives mile away from you.

smerzel
smerzel
205
views

We've all heard about the struggles of a long distance relationship, but what about the struggles of a long distance friendship? Sometimes, the people we are closest to live far away from us.

Here are 10 struggles of a long distance friendship.

1. Not being able to be there for their birthday

When it's your best friend's birthday you want to be there so bad, but distance, time and bank accounts may not allow that to happen.

2. Video chats are the only way to see their face

Video chats aren't so bad, but sometimes the connection gets cut off and it's just a disaster.

3. Both of you have busy schedules

Sometimes, both of you struggle with keeping up with what is going on in each other's lives because you are so caught up in your responsibilities. However, you always do have a way to fill each other in on the 411.

4. You get slightly jealous of the friends that do get to see them on the daily

Sometimes I feel like the people who see my best friend everyday do not appreciate that privilege.

5. Movie nights have to be done through apps, and sometimes not all movies work

What we want to watch a movie that's not available anywhere online?

6. You can't hug them when they're sad

There may be times when your best friend needs someone to hug them and let them know everything will be OK. It's so sad when you can't be there for them in person.

7. You can't have slumber parties

You can't braid each other's hair OR do silly face masks together.

8. Visiting each other costs so much money

You guys REALLY want to see each other, but you have to save up a ton and that takes time too.

9. You can't hug all the time

Instead, you just send each other a bunch of emojis.

10. Explaining your situation to other people takes a lot of time and energy

YES we live miles away and YES we are best friends. Friendships work that way!

But nothing can ruin the bond you share with them nor erase all the memories you have made. Having an online friendship can be tough sometimes, but it is so worth it.

Popular Right Now

Why Nursing School Friends Are So Vital

Pun intended.

41577
views

When I started nursing school, I knew it would be difficult. I wasn't naive. I heard the stories. I knew what I was getting into…to a certain degree.

It was everything I thought it would be and more. The highs were higher and the lows were lower. The thing you realize quickly in nursing is that it's not something you can achieve on your own. You have to have a support system. It's how you survive. It can feel like you're on your own because you have to perform the skills and make the grades, but really, there are so many friends standing behind you pushing you through.

I've seen it over and over again. I've been a part of it, witnessed it and had help myself. The truth is, even the most intelligent students need help in some sort of way. It might be hard to realize it when you're so inwardly focused, but when you look around you, everyone is walking the same path. They just have different strengths and weaknesses. It's an incredible thing when others use their personal strengths to offset your weaknesses. Nursing friends see in you what you don't see in yourself. Nursing friends share your passions, sleepless nights, early mornings, stress, panic attacks, victories, and failures. Nursing friends are your own personal cheerleaders.

It's no secret that we deal with some pretty gross stuff. Who else can you count on when you're walking down the unit trying to find an extra pair of hands to help you change the clothes of a morbidly obese patient who's covered from shoulders to ankles in their stool? Your nursing buds.

What about when your patient goes into v-fib (ventricular fibrillation), and you need someone to relief on chest compressions? Your rock star nurse friends are there to lend a hand or two.

Or what about when you are scrubbing into a C-section for the first time and you're kind of, sort of, secretly concerned you might get queasy or faint? Your nursing squad will remind you how tough you are. They'll assist you as quickly as possible and when you are finished washing your hands a thousand times, they'll make you laugh or smile. They'll always be there to help you with dignity, support, love, and encouragement.

Your nursing friends know which supply closet you go hide in when you are about to lose it or when class is so long it's giving you a headache so they pass you some Tylenol. Nursing friends are the backbone of your nursing school experience. I always love it that whenever I need hand sanitizer, Tylenol/Advil/Motrin or even a Band-Aid, someone always has it.

Even if you don't talk every day, or you take different class times, there is always someone waving hello or asking how you're holding up. You are all so different, but at the same time, you feel like you're surrounded by so many who are just like you. They care as much as you do. They love as much as you do. And the best part? They just love you. Even on your worst days. There will be times when you trip up on the easy stuff you know that you know, but they'll be there with open arms telling you about when they were in the same place. They are the ones who “fight in the trenches" with you. They'll carry you when you can't keep going, and you'll do the same. No woman or man left behind.

Nursing friends are incredible lifelong blessings. So, remember to thank them every once in a while. Keep cheering each other on, keep fighting together and keep reminding each other that the end goal is closer than it seems.

Cover Image Credit: Maddy Cagle

Related Content

Connect with a generation
of new voices.

We are students, thinkers, influencers, and communities sharing our ideas with the world. Join our platform to create and discover content that actually matters to you.

Learn more Start Creating

How To Keep The Spark Alive In Your Long-Distance Relationship

Things I've learned and practice doing to keep my long distance relationship strong.

138
views

As I was talking to a friend the other night I thought I'd write about the most important things that have kept me strong in my long-distance relationship. It has been almost two years that I have been dating my high school boyfriend, Brandon. With the majority of time being in college, I figured I could give a little bit of insight on how we have stayed strong.

Communication

I believe this is the most important factor of any healthy relationship. You need to talk to your significant other. For long distance, you have to develop the same skill of talking and touching base with people even if they are not physically with you.

To do this you can use the phone, facetime, skype, texting, or even writing letters. The letters may be a little old fashion but, I still do this as an extra way to communicate because I feel that it is really personal. It makes me feel so loved to receive a note, so it inspires me to share that same love back with people in my life that are meaningful.

Staying Connected

This point is similar to communicating but, it's staying connected. For example, I want to know what Brandon is doing and I get excited for him to tell me about it. The same goes for him, he wants to know what's going on in my life too. I think that this is healthy if you care about people, you check in on them and support them (even though we are not physically together).

I've learned to make a priorities list. After leaving high school, it can sometimes be so hard to stay in contact with your significant other or just friends. If you are both on the same page knowing how much time and effort needs to be put in and are willing to adjust your schedules, you can do it. It isn't that we are always perfect at this, but you have to make this effort. For example, I typically always talk to B at night because he plays baseball in the morning and then has classes after, so while we're both at school I know and have in my schedule that we talk at night. For us, this works for us and is the easiest. So, I would recommend figuring out your schedule, discuss theirs, and from there making the time and effort to stay connected.

Friendship

To keep your long distance relationship going I would say you have to be pretty compatible friends. You will see pretty quick that since you aren't always together, that if it is just something physical or convenient that it will not work out. I know from friends experiences that your relationship will crumble if you're not well rooted in a friendship first and foremost.

Similar Values

All is easier when you have the same values as the person you are dating. How are things going to work out when you don't see eye to eye on important issues and value the same things? This doesn't mean that you will agree on everything, quite frankly I would hate that; it would be like we were the exact same person and would never have anything to talk about. So expect differing opinions, but don't ever compromise on your values. Definitely a good thing to discuss for a healthy relationship!
Ideas of different values / some of ours
- Honesty and authenticity - growth
- Work ethic - faith
- Laughter - happiness
- Kindness - being healthy and active
-Friendship - respect

Balance/Trust

Having a relationship can be hard whether you are near or far. As I said before, communication is important, however, you still need to find some balance and trust in your relationship. If you are going to be away from each other and not have to worry about what decisions they are going to make, trust must be the forerunner in the relationship.

Personally, B and I are both in college and while we are both figuring out life, I know that there is a piece of him also with me here and that we are growing in this new adventure together. This is the way that I like to look at the situation. It makes life easier being apart and makes me feel good. I have found that this has actually strengthened our relationship. While it may be hard at times, the distance has also let us focus on ourselves and built us into better, smarter people that in the end will be better for each other.

Support

I think this a key point: that you should be with someone who supports you. Someone that is going to lift you when you fall. I would say that it is essential to both have the mindset to help each other grow into better people. Every day, apart or together, it is a desire and goal of mine to become a better version of myself. I want to do this for my boyfriend and all my friends. I need someone who is going to support me and inspire me to reach that potential, especially when I don't see it in myself. I think this is important in any relationship, that it brings you up and makes you better... not the opposite.

In your relationship, you need for your partner to be encouraging and seek to help you.

Beware!!!

Side note: One of my fears is to actually just be comfortable with someone so long that your love dies and that you just have no care for each other. I know this happens to people and that nothing is changing or growing inside either of them... don't do this.

Work

Overall it is going to be hard work to keep a relationship going, but it is worth it if both people are dedicated. Just remember, it is very possible and a lot of people are in the same situation as you. Essentially, being apart for so much time makes your time together better. On breaks, it is so much more satisfying and enjoyable to see each other because it has been so long. I've realized from this experience that your relationship can actually become strengthened and that you are more grateful in the end.

Hope this helps + inspires!

xoxo

Ally

Related Content

Facebook Comments