The Struggles Of Having A Best Friends Miles Away From You

10 Struggles Of A Long Distance Friendship

Distance, it sucks sometimes. Especially when the person you are closest to lives mile away from you.


We've all heard about the struggles of a long distance relationship, but what about the struggles of a long distance friendship? Sometimes, the people we are closest to live far away from us.

Here are 10 struggles of a long distance friendship.

1. Not being able to be there for their birthday

When it's your best friend's birthday you want to be there so bad, but distance, time and bank accounts may not allow that to happen.

2. Video chats are the only way to see their face

Video chats aren't so bad, but sometimes the connection gets cut off and it's just a disaster.

3. Both of you have busy schedules

Sometimes, both of you struggle with keeping up with what is going on in each other's lives because you are so caught up in your responsibilities. However, you always do have a way to fill each other in on the 411.

4. You get slightly jealous of the friends that do get to see them on the daily

Sometimes I feel like the people who see my best friend everyday do not appreciate that privilege.

5. Movie nights have to be done through apps, and sometimes not all movies work

What we want to watch a movie that's not available anywhere online?

6. You can't hug them when they're sad

There may be times when your best friend needs someone to hug them and let them know everything will be OK. It's so sad when you can't be there for them in person.

7. You can't have slumber parties

You can't braid each other's hair OR do silly face masks together.

8. Visiting each other costs so much money

You guys REALLY want to see each other, but you have to save up a ton and that takes time too.

9. You can't hug all the time

Instead, you just send each other a bunch of emojis.

10. Explaining your situation to other people takes a lot of time and energy

YES we live miles away and YES we are best friends. Friendships work that way!

But nothing can ruin the bond you share with them nor erase all the memories you have made. Having an online friendship can be tough sometimes, but it is so worth it.

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To My Best Friend Who Doesn’t Know How Strong She Is

Always better together.

To the one I know I will always have by my side,

First off, thank you. Thanks for dealing with all my shit: my mess, drama, tears, and weirdness. There are so many reasons why you are my best friend; you are funny, amazing, kind and unbelievably supportive. I am beyond lucky to have someone that gets me and has been there with me through the best of times and the worst of times.

You are strong.

Life is difficult; I think we have both realized that by now. Whether you believe me or not you are kicking everything being thrown at you in the ass. You have been through everything and more and have always come out of it a stronger, and better person. You are never alone and you know that; we have been there for each other for years and that will never end.

You are special.

I have never met anyone with a bigger heart than you; you sympathize with anyone that comes to you for advice. You take things to heart and look at the world in a unique and beautiful way. You appreciate the little things in life, watching Dance movies with your mom, a late night snack at Taco Bell, driving with the top down and dancing like no one is watching.

You are beautiful.

You are way more beautiful than you think. You've got softness to you that is calming, a smile that is contagious, and a gorgeous girl with so much to offer. You are filled with love and compassion, an amazing writer, dancer and overall an amazing and beautiful person.

You can get through anything.

I know you are going through a hard time right now, but look at how far you've come. You have gone through way worse and you will get through this just like you have in the past. You will become even more powerful than you already are. You are experienced and that's part of what makes me love you so much. We have gone through a lot together and we know that whatever life throws at us we can handle it.

I am always here.

Your hardship is my hardship, but keep your head up high just like I know you can. You have so much love in your life, from your family, your friends and me. I love you, I have never had a friend like you and I am so grateful every day because of it. You are going to get through this. You are going to get through it because you are, powerful, you are beautiful and you are strong.

~Written with love and appreciation for the most amazing friend I could ever ask for~

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Don't Feel Bad For Me When I Say I'm In A Long-Distance Relationship

There's no need for anyone to say, "oh, that sucks" or "that's annoying" or "I don't know how you do it" because I really do love my relationship.


When I first went out with my boyfriend, I wasn't expecting anything to come from it. He was in the Marines, stationed in South Carolina, and it was just a stupid Tinder date because I was bored and I thought he was funny and cute over Snapchat. Not only did he live an eight-hour drive away, but he was also heading out of the country for Christmas. I never thought I would ever hear from him again after I got into my car and drove back home.

But, I did, and a year and a half later, going on that coffee date was one of the best decisions I've ever made.

Right from the start, I knew if he and I were going to date, we would have to face a long-distance relationship for roughly two to three years- whether I finished school first or he got out of the military was up to fate. For us, being apart is normal. We're so used to talking through FaceTime rather than face to face and not seeing each other for weeks on end is more familiar than hugging. We've probably blown more kisses through the phone than having had real kisses.

Would I love to be just a minutes drive away from him?


Would I trade my relationship for anything else?


There's no reason for you to feel bad for me when I tell you I'm in a long distance relationship.

There's no need for anyone to say, "oh, that sucks' or "that's annoying" or "I don't know how you do it" because I really do love my relationship.

Being away from each other is just something we do. It lets us be independent, focus on work and school, but still allows us to support each other. Sure, long-distance relationships aren't for everyone, but couples make them work. No relationship is normal and like every other relationship, it takes patience, learning, and commitment. The only difference between a 'normal' relationship and a long-distance relationship is is that our 'date nights' consist of eating dinner together over FaceTime instead.

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