Whenever I hear the phrase, "well, at least you look straight," I can't help but get annoyed that society still uses stereotypes to define a person's sexuality. It's the 21st century and we're still checking boxes for others based on appearance.
Someone can wear dresses, have long hair and be a lesbian.
Someone can wear joggers, have short hair and be straight.
How a person presents themselves has nothing to do with who they are or what they've been through.
Saying someone "looks straight" is not comforting or encouraging.
Saying someone "looks straight" is devaluing their identity and experiences living as a queer person in today's society.
"Straight passing" does not make someone's life any easier than if they were to fit the stereotypes.
Stop automatically checking a box for someone based on how they present themself.
It's not fair to an entire community to be represented based on a set collection of stereotypes.
It's not fair to say, "it could be worse" to an oppressed LGBTQ member because at least they "look straight."
LGBTQ people need to speak up against oppression because it definitely doesn't just happen to those who fit the stereotypes.