In recent news last week, NFL quarterback Tim Tebow and former Miss Universe Olivia Culpo called their relationship quits. I’ll admit that, like how I get most of my news these days, I saw this in my Facebook trending sidebar, clicked on it out of interest and quickly forgot about it. Still, my first instinct was to laugh at the headline:

"Tim Tebow and Olivia Culpo: NFL Quarterback and Former Miss USA Split Over 'Lack of Sex,' Reports say Culpo broke up with Tebow because of his abstinent lifestyle, New York Daily News reported. 'She just can't deal with the sex thing. He's pretty adamant about it, I guess,' a source reportedly said."

Perhaps in a different time I would have really believed that I liked Culpo less for knowing what she wanted and that I should pat Tebow on the back burner for not allowing a woman to bring about his “downfall” and break his vow of chastity. But, the more I thought about it, the weirder it made me feel. Naturally, I got back on Facebook and checked what people were saying about the whole thing. It was there when it struck me that too many people care too strongly about the lives of two adult people who had broken up for reasons all their own, whether it involved sex or not. I guess this includes me as well.

The things I read deeply saddened me. Random people labeled Culpo, as “one of those porno types” and essentially blamed her for dating Tebow in the first place, citing that “she knew what she was getting herself into," so, "she should have seen it coming.” These comments blurred a little too far into a territory reminiscent of victim blaming for my taste – but I won’t get into that. It’s well known that Tebow is a devout Christian and has vowed to save himself until marriage as part of his own personal relationship with God. But why should this matter to anyone except for him and his current and potential significant others?

Why should the public applaud him for keeping his virginity when they demean Culpo for wanting to have her definition of a fulfilling relationship? Or the reverse side for that matter, why should people shame him for breaking up with such a “hot super model” and tell him that he made a terrible mistake? The obvious and disgusting double standard that exists within the media coverage of such a trivial event speaks to a greater issue – shaming needs to stop.

I’m a Christian and I was raised in an environment where abstinence until marriage was the only acceptable path. Sex-ed in my high school taught the same thing, laying out the "abstinence is key but if you are going to have sex use a condom" line. However, in the “if you are going to have sex” spiel there was a fine print attached that meant you better not have sex if you wanted to remain a good person. This is wrong for the same reasons both Tebow and Culpo receiving criticism is wrong.

I applaud Tebow and Culpo for their actions because, like true adults, they realized that their relationship was not what either of them wanted, and so they ended it. That’s where it should end.

There should be no fine toothed comb picking through their bedrooms or personal communication. There should be no people calling any woman at all someone who thought she had a “magic coochie” and was sultry enough to ruin Tebow’s sacred vow. There should be no one holding Tebow higher than Culpo for wanting to remain a virgin. The bottom line is that they both followed what they wanted, and it just so happens that what they wanted wasn’t with each other.

Now, several rumor mills are saying the two weren’t even a couple, but the reactions people had were still genuinely troubling and the fact of the matter remains the same. The “fact” being that a lot of things shouldn’t have happened in the discussion of their break-up. This article I’m writing shouldn’t have happened because it should not be necessary to remind people that it’s no one’s business what responsible choices people make as adults in pursuit of their personal happiness. But, then again, a lot of things shouldn’t happen in this world, yet they do. Hopefully, we can learn to stop judging and shaming people for what they feel is best for them, and in the process of minding our own business maybe figure out what’s best for us and accept that it's perfectly okay.