I haven't heard his voice in weeks. He is too busy to call. I haven't seen him in weeks; he is always otherwise occupied. However, he likes my pictures on Instagram, and he always comments on my Facebook posts. That must mean something, right?
No. It means nothing.
He constantly Snapchats me. He must want to be with me, right?
No. It means nothing.
He is always posting pictures of us on Facebook. That means something, right?
Nope. Again, it all means nothing.
These things are all meaningless if there are no actions other than ones via social media.
In other words, a man who doesn't make the time to see you in person is not interested. I don't care how much he texts you, how many times he likes your social media posts, or how much you think he is interested. If a man is interested in you, he will be intentional. He will make time to see you.
What I don't understand is why so many women are settling for men who put no effort into a relationship. Why are we constantly staring at our phones waiting for a text?
Why don't we date anymore?
What happened to seeing each other in person instead of constantly snapchatting?
Why aren't we intentional anymore? Why have we become lazy?
I don't know, honestly, but I refuse to settle for this cheap imitation of love and relationships our society has bought into, and I encourage you to refuse to settle, as well.
You deserve more than someone who will swipe right because they want to hookup with you.
You deserve more than someone who texts you at 3 A.M. to hook up.
You deserve more than someone who tries to convince you to compromise your morals.
Ladies, we are not innocent in this. We must expect more than we currently expect. This is not all on the guys. We must not only hold the men in our lives to a higher standard, but ourselves. We must treat ourselves as more than just another hookup, as more than just another Instagram 'like' or another Snapchat.
You deserve more than a man that is only into you from his phone screen.