Please Stop Romanticizing Military Relationships

Please Stop Romanticizing Military Relationships

If you're in it for the ball or the homecoming pictures you're in it for the wrong reasons.
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Growing up I always swore I'd never date or marry into the Army. Coming from a military family I was honestly turned off too it. While I'm extremely thankful for those who serve I knew how hard it was constantly saying goodbye to those I love for deployments and watching my family move from base to base ever few years. But here I am dating a soldier stationed states away. While I'm extremely proud of my boyfriend I find myself constantly rolling my eyes at girls who gushing over servicemen and asking if he has any cute friends on base. I know most of them mean well but some people are living in a dream world.

"I wish I was dating someone military just to get pictures taken in uniform and make cute homecoming pictures."

"The only reason I'm talking to him is because I want him to take me to the ball with him."

I wish that I was kidding when I say that I've heard these things be said and seriously meant but I'm not.

Please, from someone in one and who grew up around them, stop romanticizing military relationships. They aren't always easy, they aren't always fun. They aren't all cute pictures and fancy dresses at the ball. Honestly, sometimes it sucks. I wouldn't trade my relationship for anything in the world but we'll both admit this sucks sometimes. Sometimes you have to say goodbye to your best friends for months at a time. While your peers are going out to dinner or movies your versions of dates are video chats and phone calls. Sometimes you might not even get a phone call, you might just get a letter every few weeks if you're lucky.

While my friends are saving for plane tickets to the beach for spring break, I'm saving up for a hotel room near base just to spend a few days with my favorite person. When they're going out on a Thursday, I'm laying in bed on Skype because it's one of the nights we're both free. To make a relationship like this work takes work and sacrafice from both sides, it doesn't just happen on its own. It's being there through thick and thin, good and bad, homecomings and deployments.

If you're going to involve yourself with someone in the service, know what you're getting yourself into. If you're just in it for the pictures or the ball you're in it for the wrong reasons. If you're in for the person then be ready to put in the work. While it may be hard, it may just end up being the start of the rest of your life.

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36 Reasons Why You Should Date a Harry Potter Fan

Dating a Potterhead's like catching the Golden Snitch
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Who are the best people in the entire world? Potterheads. They're passionate about the Wizarding World, and they're bound to be just as passionate about you. Falling in love with a Harry Potter fan is effortless, and there are simply countless reasons why.


1. You’ll always know what to get them for Christmas. Or their birthday. Or literally any holiday.


You can never have too many butterbeer mugs.




2. They won’t judge anyone based on a first impression.


Because we know everyone changes, for better or worse.




3. They’re super cheeky.



4. And also pretty sassy.


In a good way, of course.




5. They fully understand how powerful love is.




6. Because it can literally save lives.


7. They will be loyal to you until the very end.


8. They’ll always have that innocent, childlike wonder.



9. They’re probably a funny pick-up line expert.



10. They have no problem standing up for themselves, or for you.



11. They’re straightforward.


Because sometimes you need to hear something even if you don't want to.




12. They know you can have a family you’re born with and also a family that you choose, and they appreciate them both.



13. They're also very protective of said families.



14. They know that sometimes love requires immense sacrifice.



15. They read. A lot.


Odds are they might become your own personal library.




16. They’re courageous, smart, honest, and ambitious.


And they'll probably be able to sort you into a house, too.




17. They know what heartbreak feels like, and know how to bounce back stronger.



18. They laugh a whole lot.



19. They will go to the ends of the world and back to protect the people they love, and never give up on those people.



20. They will appreciate the love you show them and will not take your relationship for granted.




21. They know that the best things (and people) in life are worth waiting for.



22. They’re all for those cozy nights in.


Reading is great but if you want to watch a movie they'll have eight perfect viewing options at the ready.




23. They know that life is finite. So prepare for lots of spontaneous adventures.


24. It's not that hard to make them smile.



25. They're probably a great dancer.



26. They don’t do jealousy. Ever.


Every time jealousy came into play in Harry Potter, something crumbled. Believe me, we know better.




27. They're super passionate.



28. If you lose anything important, "those damn Nargles" is a legitimate excuse.


29. They're really patient.






30. They don't let anyone boss them around.




31. They're quite optimistic.


32. They're definitely not afraid to goof around.



33. If you’re getting serious, there’s no need to be worried about figuring out where and/or how they want to be proposed to.


And at your wedding you probably won't say "I do," you'll make the Unbreakable Vow.


34. They're probably a great kisser.


35. They'll always be there for you.


36. The most romantic thing you could say to them is literally one word.


Trust me on this one.

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"Thank you, next. I'm so f*******g grateful for my ex".

This song really makes a girl think. What have your exes brought into your life? How can you take away the best part of one relationship and bring it into the next one? Or take what you've learned about yourself from a relationship and use it to better yourself?

Does every girl have one great love? Or lots of little ones until one passes the test of time?

The looming relationship questions that come after heartbreak may never end, but here's something you can end:

Stop spending your days sulking over failed relationships, or constantly looking for a new one. This time in your life is for you! To build friendships, to discover yourself, to figure out what mistakes can make you stronger. Every girl's favorite, Carrie Bradshaw of Sex and the City once said,

"Maybe our mistakes are what make our fate. Without them, what would shape our lives?"

Let's take our mistakes and turn them into strength, love, and perseverance. At the end of the hit song, Grande realizes that she has one relationship to last and "her name is Ari."

Ariana knows that she has taught herself more love and more patience than any man has. The only person who will be with you through it all is yourself. The more love you put out into the world, the more love will find its way back to you.

So to all the boys, we've ever loved before: Thank you, next.

And once we're ready... We will have another great love to come as our next adventure.

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