Valentine's Day is becoming completely ridiculous and full of expectations. Let's remember people, it's just a holiday.

Like any holiday it is not supposed to be about the gifts! All I see on social media during the month of February is people hinting towards all the things they would like their significant other to get them. And usually, everything is crazy expensive! Why are you making your loved one feel obligated to buy you some ridiculous thing that you WANT not need but WANT. Then if you don't get it usually there is some underlying guilt on your part towards your "loved one".

How you celebrate it should be about you and your person not about the societal expectations of what you should be doing. You should be bringing out the things that are relevant and meaningful to you as a couple, not about what is currently the best restaurant or a popular destination. No matter where you are it should be special because you are together!

Question: Why do we put so much emphasis on Valentine's Day?

Really ask yourself that question. Are you just getting in the spirit (possibly going a little overboard) but just want to enjoy the magic of what it could be and have fun? OR are you trying to make your relationship seem happier than it is and think a holiday will fix it? Either way, a holiday is only one day and putting so much pressure on one day will only lead to a lot of expectations that may or may not be reached.

If you love someone, you love someone. You should be proving to each other year round that you love each other and appreciate one another not just on one day. Gifts do not define how I feel about you. Are they nice, yes but they should not be expected. They should be a pleasant surprise when they are given.

We are also letting ourselves fall into the trap that if we do not have a great Valentine's day then our lives suck. If you do not have a "Valentine" you are not a loser or missing out. A holiday does not define the type of person that you are. It should be about love not wishing that you were fitting in with what everyone else may be doing.

But all in all, Valentine's Day should be about spending the day with someone or multiple people that you love. Regardless if that's in a relationship sense or just with people that are meaningful to you in your life. Not worrying about planning the perfect day or gift but just in the presence of people you love.

I'm not trying to say do not celebrate and hate Valentine's Day, but I am saying that we need to be more conscious on what we are trying to portray and why we are celebrating it in the first place. Are you celebrating it for the gifts or the person that you are with?

Try not to be superficial about a holiday, and try not to over think it. We always say around Christmas time that it isn't the gifts or the money spent that matters, it's about the thought. Why is this holiday any different?