We need to stop looking online For the approval We Need to feel "normal"

We need to stop looking online For the approval We Need to feel "normal"

"No one realizes the impact of these social platforms and how we are actually looking at ourselves differently based on our depiction of others and what we "should" be."

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I know it's 2018 and times have changed but let's take a second and focus on the person that you are versus the one you see online. Everyone is so intrigued by the people that lead or generation by style, presence, and materialistic items that don't really mean anything.

It's time for us millennials to support one another and stop judging by appearance and style because there are so many other important aspects of a person to look at. We are so caught up in the future and what we should be versus what we are today, which is a major issue within itself.

No one realizes the impact of these social platforms and how we are actually looking at ourselves differently based on our depiction of others and what we "should" be. This stigma has raised so many eyebrows to the point that people are actually changing their appearances to fit the social "norms" of our decade. Even starting at the age of 8 or 9, kids are starting to look to those online for the ways that they should be looking and speaking.

It's really odd hearing it back and realizing that we are actually going out of our way and changing our lives to do things that other people say is "normal". We need to stop doing this, but saying that is so much easier than actually going through the process. But let's say a video goes viral, people are listening and following up with the continuous thread immediately. Everyone is so fascinated by trends, and what if the trend was to stop and just smell the flowers.. I think if all of us just stopped and smelled flowers for a few minutes, our perception of things could actually change a little.

We don't think about things enough in this generation, we just jump to conclusions and irritate each other about perspectives that we don't necessarily agree with. If anything, just take a moment and listen to yourself and hear the things that you've never let yourself digest. As millennials, we are all too scared to even think about our present and our future when we are just sulking on the past.

Times are always changing and everyday there is something new occurring within the world around us. Just keep in mind that you're such a major part of life itself and your views my change by the actions of others, but always remember to stay true to yourself.

That's the major thing that our generation is having issues with, we don't even know who we are because everyday we are seeking the approval of others. Whether it's the social media influencers that we check up on everyday, or the one's that stream online for a a few minutes every week, someone is influencing us. The things we wear, the way we talk, and how we reach out to other people is all impacted by others.

So yes, watching people online is perfectly fine and amazing because it's entertaining and interesting to see people in all different walks of the earth sharing their stories. But make sure to stay true to yourself and keep finding out who you are and don't let anything change your process.

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The Negative Effects Of Working As A CNA

You know you are a CNA if you are undermined, understaffed, and emotionally and physically drained.
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I write this not as a way to deter people from wanting to be a CNA or to demean the job, but in order to outline the negatives, since some only outline the positives. With a job comes responsibility, and it is like that in any area or field. We have the good and we also have the bad. I am in a field where not many people like their job and they don't care who knows it. Others enjoy it and make the best of it. It is like that with any career. There are always both sides.

I write this after coming home from a meeting that we have to attend every week for 13 weeks straight. These meetings are preparing us for a new unit in our building, and they offer education so that we have the knowledge to communicate and take care of our residents. I like these meetings because I enjoy learning more in my field, however, others see it as a burden and a waste of their time. There are people who will bring in workplace drama, those that will do the bare minimum, and those that just don't care and will call in when they know their shift is short.

As a Certified Nurse Assistant, you help your residents, and you try to give them the best care that you can provide. That is the number one rule. If anything, that is the golden rule in nursing. When you step in on that floor, you are expected to give your full effort in giving the residents the care they need. Meanwhile, others step in and couldn't give a damn.

What upset me the most after the meeting was that we had to talk about abuse. We had to discuss what abuse was and why we need to treat our patients with dignity, respect, and kindness. As a CNA that is my work. I was saddened that something like this occurred, and that someone would demean a resident in a way that no one should be treated.

I'm furious, upset, and confused. The people that work in this field are there because they care, and they want to help those that cannot help themselves. So, why would they do such a thing?

It made me think of all the other negatives that I encounter in my field. The lack of appreciation from other staff and the constant undermining is tough. Nurses telling you that you are not doing your job right, or management becoming picky when you cannot chart between your residents is difficult. There is always something that you are doing wrong in someone else's eyes, and there is never a thank you when you leave your shift and everyone is clean and taken care of. There is no one to pat your back other than yourself, and you have to be your own cheerleader for a place that only looks at you as the lowest of the totem pole.

There are never enough of you. I say that because there is always a demand for CNAs, and no matter how many you have in a facility, there will never be enough. You will be short one shift or another, and you will have to scramble to reach everyone to make sure they are taken care of properly.

You come home and you have to go right back to bed because you took extra shifts. You are exhausted, and yet you still come in and put all your energy into work because you think of the residents. You consider what it would be like to not have anyone to care for you. You put them before yourself.

No one tells you any negatives as you are getting trained and go through clinicals. They only tell you that you are going into a profession that will help those that cannot help themselves, and that you should be proud of your job. It is not incorrect, but it is not fully true.

You will get called names, cursed at, abused, and you will get over-worked. No one will tell you thank you, and no one will baby you through your shift. You are a CNA. You take care of those that cannot take care of themselves. You are there to help and give care. Yes, there are negatives and you will want to quit like I've wanted to do multiple times. I will admit it. You will get upset and frustrated. This is not an easy job, and it was not intended to be, but you will get through it if you keep your heart open and honest. Do your work diligently, and do what you can to make others' lives better. That is the only reward you need to overcome the negatives.

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5 Reasons I'd Rather Stay In On A Friday Night

It's okay to not want to party over the weekend.

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In college, so many people look forward to the weekend all week long. And by so many people, I mean probably almost everyone. The weekend is a time to catch up on some much-needed rest, relaxation, homework, and you time. The weekend in college also means going out for a lot of people. While yes, going out can be a really good time, I also think that it's important to note that you don't have to go out if you don't want to. There are a ton of good reasons why you should stay home for the weekend instead of partying all night long. I have compiled a list of five solid reasons why staying in is so much better than going out, especially in the middle of winter.

1. My room is so much warmer than it is outside 

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Let's face it, in the dead of winter, no one wants to go outside in a mini skirt and crop top. I'll take my pillow and blanket any day over freezing outside.

2. I can go to sleep at a reasonable hour 

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After a long week of class, the last thing I want to do is stay up until 2 am partying. I would so much rather be wrapped up reading a book at 10 pm.

3. I'm always available if a friend needs saving 

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Staying home, sober, I'm always available to rescue a friend in need if they drink a little too much. This is so important to me to be keeping my friends safe and getting them back home at the end of the night.

4. It's the perfect time to binge watch Netflix 

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Staying home on a Friday night gives me uninterrupted hours of binge-watching my favorite shows. There's no better feeling than finally catching up on a new season of Netflix.

5. Self-care is more important than getting drunk 

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Staying home, relaxing, doing a face mask or even reading a book allows for much needed relaxation. No one wants to stress about their hair and makeup on a Friday after you've finished 5 days of classes.

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