Stop Making Snide Comments About My Relationship

Stop Making Snide Comments About My Relationship

Constantly putting down my relationship shows you don't respect it.

I am a 19 year old who’s dating a 17 year old. That’s a two year age difference, which, in the grand scheme of things, is not that big of a deal or that abnormal. But I still get negative comments about it from people in my life.

None of the comments are directly related to the two year age difference. I don’t get these comments because I am two years older than my boyfriend. I get these comments because he is 17. I have friends who anytime I talk about him make comments and jokes about how he’s a kid, he’s a baby, he’s just so young. He’s not young, he’s 17. He’s almost an adult, and your jokes about how he isn’t won’t keep me from dating him.

What these jokes boil down to is a disrespect for my relationship. It’s my friends not caring that this is someone who I love, who I could see myself spending my life with. They see him as someone who will eventually not be part of my life, because he’s still a high schooler. And I’m supposed to sit back and let them do this, because it’s just a joke and I’m being too sensitive. Maybe if the joke was made once, but if anytime I mention my boyfriend you find a way to comment on his age and make fun of me for dating him, I’m not being too sensitive.

I am not going to put up with subtle digs at my relationship anymore. It’s not fun, it’s not funny, and it’s not something an actual friend would do. I won’t be dealing with it anymore.

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Ladies, This You're Dating Jerks Because You Don't Know Your Worth

I have fallen down the same path of finding a guy who would rather text one-word responses than get to know me.

Attention all female sub-tweeters, broken heart club members, and everyone in between. As a fellow woman, I feel it is my obligation to give you the honest truth about our current relationship climate.

I know that most of you can tell me a story about a time a guy "ghosted" you, or played you like a fiddle before moving on to the next girl. I know that you have saved text messages from guys who turned out to be complete jerks when you thought they were the sweetest man alive.

We've suffered through many miscommunications and bad dates for the truth, so it is time for me to give you the non-sugarcoated truth about dating. You don't know your worth... that's the secret to your failed attempts at dating.

Guys and girls alike are tricky when it comes to dating, but why do you settle for a guy who doesn't want to return your messages, or wants to see another girl on the side?

Why do you want the guy who only Snapchats you and can barely carry a conversation with you in person? Why do you want the guy who would rather see your nude photos than one of you smiling?

See my point? I am not being hypocritical here, trust me. I have fallen down the same path of finding a guy who would rather text one-word responses than get to know me, but we are worth so much more.

You are worth flowers and good dates. You are worth thousands of smiling pictures and hand holding. You deserve a guy that is good to your family and also treats you like a princess.

When you start seeing that worth, relationships will change. You start finding guys with goals, morals, and immense love for you.You start giving yourself the benefit of the doubt and forgiving yourself for more things.

Dating will get better when you realize what you deserve. Take it from me. I was stuck in an emotionally abusive relationship where I thought I deserved that love. Now, I am head over heels for a man who chooses me and chooses to propel me towards my dreams.

It will change. You are worth the world. Don't forget that.

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Part Four: The Week of Love and Not So Bad Embarassment

As Week 4: The Week of Love comes to a close I have learned a couple things.

1. When you don't have a partner to share your love with you always have your girls to back you up

2. If fail to succeed, try try, and try again

Those are the two main goals I have learned this week.

I went into this week thinking I would be super depressed seeing a bunch of couplely things and what not but in actuality, I didn't. I saw very few of it. This left a pondering question in my head. Was being single the new norm? After all these years of PDA smothered in our faces was being alone and embracing our lonesomeness finally the move?

I;m not saying I was happy to see a lot of single people alone but it was comforting to know and understand that hey you aren't the only one.

If anything this week I have felt super happy. My friends have given me enormous amounts of laughter and enjoyment. Especially through my embarrassment.

So this week a set out to see Bubbalicious boy again and advance our un-official relationship. I had everything scripted out in my head and a backup backup plan in stone in case things went sour. I also had my girl with me to help me out.

Let me just say that social anxiety is a pain in the butt. While walking up to see said guy my friend coached me through it all. However once I physically stood in front of said guy I froze and panicked. I was completely disappointed in myself.

My friend ended up doing all the talking for me and instead of her being just the friend that was there, I ended up being the friend that was just there.

Thank God for the atmosphere being noisy because at least he couldn't hear the inaudible noises I was making because I was so nervous.

Later I saw him again outside, well my friend saw him. She urged me to wave but a thought it would be weird especially if he wasn't looking but the friends surrounding him happened to look. Unfortunately he did end up looking and I'm pretty sure all he saw was me scurrying away but at least my friend got to make the eye contact for me So hypothetically the eye contact was for me. Which means I'm the rose sooooo technically that means we are the rose. Yeah, for sure.

Long story short I blew that opportunity but on the bright side he followed my finsta that has no recollection that it is actually me.

So i.e. a win win situation.

But in a nutshell Week 4 left some good memories and laughable moments that my friends are going to hang over my head forever and also experience. Crushes will forever be the death of people but hey you always need a good laugh and baby steps. Plus as a reward to myself I'm going to see Black Panther.

Two times the charm am I right?

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