Stop Living In "If/Then" Mode

Stop Living In "If/Then" Mode

The present moment is the greatest present of all.
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As humans, it seem as though we are more preoccupied with the past and future than the present moment. Whether we're wishing we had that old relationship, wondering if we will ever get that new relationship, or doing everything in our power to create a life that we used to have, we absolutely neglect the life that is staring us right in the face waiting to be lived. We're constantly asking "what if" and stressing over "if this would have happened then this could have been the outcome." Well, you know what? It didn't happen so the outcome wasn't even a possibility. Everything happens for a reason much bigger than us, for reasons we may never know, but we must have faith that the road we have chosen to take has led us to the right places, at the right times, to the right people, to transform us into the humans we are meant to be.

A wise birdie once told me, "I don't think about the past." Seems like such a simple statement, right? So why is it so damn difficult? It's like no matter what we do we can't escape our thoughts about what once was, or what could have, should have, or would have been. Of course, the past is full of beautiful memories that should be held onto ever so tightly, but living your life in the past is no way to truly delve head first into an incredible life.

When we stop living in "If/Then" mode, it's amazing how quickly our lives can begin to transform. We're happier. We smile more. We laugh more. We look forward to more. We're more optimistic. We are able to enjoy the present moment, fully and completely. If you met a new person that you really connect with and enjoy spending time with, don't ruin those feelings by getting stuck on the last person you really connected with, or the person next year you might really connect with. You have to take a step back and think, "Now, what would thinking about these things really do for me?" The answer is almost always going to be, "Oh, yeah ... Nothing!"

When we live in the present moment, we are able to thoroughly enjoy this life that we have been so graciously given. Not everyone gets the opportunity to live in a wonderful place full of wonderful people with a pretty decent life. When we stop stressing over the things, people, and experiences that we don't have or could have had, we start to see life in a whole new light and appreciate things more than we ever thought possible.

We're going to have a past and a future; every single day we live pushes one day further into the past and propels us one day further into the future. Our past and future are part of who we are, they have helped mold us in every way, however they do not have to control our present moment.

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I'm A Woman And You Can't Convince Me Breastfeeding In Public Is OK In 2019

Sorry, not sorry.

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Lately, I have seen so many people going off on social media about how people shouldn't be upset with mothers breastfeeding in public. You know what? I disagree.

There's a huge difference between being modest while breastfeeding and just being straight up careless, trashy and disrespectful to those around you. Why don't you try popping out a boob without a baby attached to it and see how long it takes for you to get arrested for public indecency? Strange how that works, right?

So many people talking about it bring up the point of how we shouldn't "sexualize" breastfeeding and seeing a woman's breasts while doing so. Actually, all of these people are missing the point. It's not sexual, it's just purely immodest and disrespectful.

If you see a girl in a shirt cut too low, you call her a slut. If you see a celebrity post a nude photo, you call them immodest and a terrible role model. What makes you think that pulling out a breast in the middle of public is different, regardless of what you're doing with it?

If I'm eating in a restaurant, I would be disgusted if the person at the table next to me had their bare feet out while they were eating. It's just not appropriate. Neither is pulling out your breast for the entire general public to see.

Nobody asked you to put a blanket over your kid's head to feed them. Nobody asked you to go feed them in a dirty bathroom. But you don't need to basically be topless to feed your kid. Growing up, I watched my mom feed my younger siblings in public. She never shied away from it, but the way she did it was always tasteful and never drew attention. She would cover herself up while doing it. She would make sure that nothing inappropriate could be seen. She was lowkey about it.

Mindblowing, right? Wait, you can actually breastfeed in public and not have to show everyone what you're doing? What a revolutionary idea!

There is nothing wrong with feeding your baby. It's something you need to do, it's a part of life. But there is definitely something wrong with thinking it's fine to expose yourself to the entire world while doing it. Nobody wants to see it. Nobody cares if you're feeding your kid. Nobody cares if you're trying to make some sort of weird "feminist" statement by showing them your boobs.

Cover up. Be modest. Be mindful. Be respectful. Don't want to see my boobs? Good, I don't want to see yours either. Hard to believe, I know.

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4 Common Dreams And Why You Might Be Having Them

From falling off a skyscraper to presenting your valedictorian speech naked.

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Do you ever wake up in cold sweats in the middle of the night and think to yourself, "OK brain what was that about?" You might think it was because you watched too many "Games of Thrones" before bed, or that you drank coffee too late in the day. However, it just might be your subconscious trying to tell you something.

Your subconscious literally has a mind of its own, and it likes to present itself while you're in a deep sleep.

1.  The one where you fall to your death.

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I feel like everyone has experienced this type of dream at least once in their life. The one where you are either pushed off or fall from a great height only to be jolted out of your sleep as soon as you hit the ground.

According to verywellmind.com, this highly common dream has a myth that is if you hit the ground in your dream, then you will die in real life, which isn't the case at all. Even better, this dream just means that your life isn't doing too hot right now, and you most likely need to contemplate a recent decision or change direction in your life somehow.

This dream symbolizes fear of some sort, and it is just your brain's way of letting you know while you sleep.

2. The one where you're naked in public.

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Ah, yes, you are the star of the show and everyone's eyes are on you and then an eruption of laughter starts to fill the auditorium and you look down to see that you are indeed not wearing your graduation gown, but your birthday suit instead

Ever have a dream similar to that? This could mean that you are feeling down on yourself and that you think that you have to live up to a certain standard without revealing any imperfections.

Well, newsflash, no one is perfect, so you can stop having the naked in public dreams now.

3. The one where you're getting chased.

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You're running and running and running, and it seems like a never-ending workout of getting away from whatever is trying to grab you in your dream. You wake up with a higher heart rate than usual to see that you are in fact, not being chased at all. This could mean that you are not taking action to a problem in your life, and you are taking the easy way out by just avoiding it.

4. The one where you lose all your teeth.

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I think this is the worst dream you can have. Have you ever had a dream where you lose your teeth one by one until all that is left is your pink gums? I get chills just thinking about this. This dream could mean that you have an insecurity about your appearance. This could also mean that you are worried about something that happened earlier that day, and you think you might've said something embarrassing

I have yet to experience some of these dreams, but I know that a lot of people have such vivid dreams to where they can remember each and every detail about it. I think dreams are an interesting way of your body and mind trying to tell you something that is buried inside of you.

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