Stop Feeling Ashamed About Your Body Because You're Perfect

Stop Feeling Ashamed About Your Body Because You're Perfect

When all is said and done, wear the things that make you feel confident and ignore the people who try telling you not to.

Summer is the worst season for women and men alike. I don't care who you are, the pressure of having the perfect summer body is crushing and painful. You go onto Facebook or Instagram and see these beautiful model like girls and guys that are super fit and skinny. You feel your insecurity rising. Sometimes insecurity doesn't rise first, but rather the need to get a bathing suit just like the on the model is wearing because you can rock it. Then you put it on and the insecurities rise. Either way, the shame of swimsuit season is endless and misunderstood. It's not people being vain or searching for compliments when they voice their insecurity, but rather it's them opening up about they feelings and letting you in. Don't turn them away. Make sure you are being positive and sincere with them and even yourself!

I see all these rude articles telling people what to wear, what not to wear and why you shouldn't wear (insert here) because of your body type or because it's "slutty." Ya'll need to back up and check yourself. No one, and I mean no one, should be telling you what to wear. If you are curvy and want to rock that bikini, gurl, you better. Because it makes you feel confident and comfortable. Shrug those haters off. I, personally, love to wear one pieces or monokini's because that's what I feel comfortable in. You wouldn't believe all the hate I get for it.

"You're so small, wear a bikini!"

"Why don't you wear a bikini? You're so tiny. Oh my gosh."

"Why do you cover up a body like that? There's nothing to be ashamed of. It's rude to the girl who can't!"

"I wish I was skinny like you!"

"I'm so fat and you're lucky you can wear a bikini. You should start wearing swim suits for your body type!"

I don't like bikini's. I don't feel comfortable showing that much skin, not because of my body type but because I'm shy. I also lack the amount of boobage needed to hold up a bikini and not look like a little boy. My final reason is because I have scars all over my body so I like to be covered up. My belly button scar bothers me the most. I didn't ask for these scars, not did I do them to myself.I have my reasons, don't question them. I don't feel like I should have to explain myself and why I don't like wearing what I don't, you know, like. It's silly and hurtful. I never comment on others clothing choices. The examples above are just some of the awkward comments I get. I never know what to say but then, I begin to feel uncomfortable in any swim suit I wear. So do me a favor and don't call anyone out on their swim suit choice because you never know why they wear what they wear.

Boys have the same issue as women. I know someone close to me who wears a shirt in the pool and all around, no matter how hot it is, because he feels he is "fat" or "unattractive." Both not true, but that's how he feels. Men feel insecure just as much as women and it would do us well not to shame them for body issues but rather, for us to encourage a healthier body image and say positive words to our S.O. Never say "Oh my god, you look so fat in that!" Yes, people have actually said that before, I heard it. Even if you are teasing about calling each other fat, don't. It hurts men just as much as it hurts women. Say positive words and leave little notes of encouragement around for them to find. A little goes a long way. Tell them everyday how attractive they are, even if they already know it, and be sure to say, "I love you for you. I fell for you as you are!"

When all is said and done, wear the things that make you feel confident and ignore the people who try telling you not to. I promise you, you'll look great because you feel great. You do you, ladies and gents.

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I Drank Lemon Water For A Week And Here's What Happened

It has already changed my life.


There are so many health crazes out there now, it's hard to tell what actually works and what doesn't; or more importantly what is healthy and what is making your body worse. I read about simply drinking lemon water and I figured that didn't sound gross or bad for me so I figured I would give it a try. I've been drinking it consistently for a week and a half and I already notice some results.

I've never been a fan of lemon in my water, I always refuse it at restaurants. You definitely have to find your sweet spot in lemon to water ratio, in what tastes good to you. I personally cut the lemon into quarters and use on quarter per day. I put the lemon quarter in the bottle and then continuously fill with water throughout the day. I still get the yummy lemon flavor all day because I do not squeeze the lemon. It took about a bottle or two to get used to the lemon flavor, and now I just crave it.

Lemon water is supposed to speed up your metabolism. Obviously, a week is not long enough to tell if this is fact or fiction but I have noticed a change in appetite. I feel like I do not get hungry as often as I did before. I saw this effect within 24-48 hours of starting the experiment. This seems opposite to a fast metabolism but we'll see.

I definitely feel more hydrated with lemon water. I drink a lot of water anyways, about 80 oz a day but for some reason with the lemon, it makes me feel better. I don't feel as sluggish, I'm not getting hot as easily, and my skin feels amazing. I am slightly skeptical though because the lemon almost makes my tongue dry requiring me to drink more water, so I have upped my intake by about 20oz. I'm unsure if the hydration is due to the extra water, the lemon, or both!

My face is clearing up and feels so much softer too, in only a week! I have not gotten a new pimple since I have started my lemon water kick, may be coincidence but I'm not going to argue with it.

I also feel skinnier as I feel like I'm not holding as much water weight. I only exercise lightly, for the most part, walking around a mile or two a day so we can eliminate exercise factor to the slender feeling.

I have a messy stomach. Everything upsets it, and even though lemons are very acidic, they have not affected me in a negative way at all. It almost seems like the lemon water is helping me digest the difficult foods that my stomach doesn't like. I'm nowhere near a doctor so don't trust my word but it seems to be working for me.

From the effects I've felt so far, it also seems like lemon water may be a great hangover cure! I haven't tried it but I don't see why it wouldn't work. I can't say a negative thing about drinking lemon water so far expect you have to buy the lemons! If you try this for yourself though just make sure you are using an enamel saving mouthwash or toothpaste since lemons aren't so great for your teeth.

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Learning How To Cope With Rejection

"We are stars wrapped in skin, the light you are seeking has always been within." - Rumi


"Life sneaks up on us every once in a while and gives us something we didn't even know we wanted, and lights within us a love we didn't even know existed." - Shauna Niequist, Cold Tangerines

I've never really been someone who needs other people to motivate me. Whether it was schoolwork, going to the gym, or trying new things, if I ever want to get something done, the motivation has to come from me. If I don't complete a task, I may try to pass the blame but deep down I know it's on me. However, knowing this about myself can sometimes be frustrating because often my eyes and dreams are bigger than I am willing to work for.

I can't count the number of times I have dreamt about a music career with stadium tours and platinum records or going to a top-tier university and getting the opportunity to create a successful start-up company. Sometimes the dreams will seem simple like planning every moment of my dream wedding or visualizing the day I have my first child. While all of those dreams would be amazing, I know they will not all come true. But that is not necessarily a bad thing.

I realize now that I can create my dream life out of what I do have, not out of what I wish I had. As Rumi said "the light is within" and I just need to find it. I know that good things don't just get handed to you, you have to work for them. But my brain works a little differently. When something doesn't go my way, it if anything makes me work even harder.

In December of 2016, I found out I got rejected Early Decision from my dream school. Sad, mad, and generally disappointed, I avoided this topic of conversation with everyone. It felt like a summer of essay-writing, test-taking, and four years of hard work had been thrown out the window. But it motivated me. It made me want to achieve something to prove them wrong.

Of course in the way that I deal with most emotions, I wrote a song about it and, with the help of my sister, posted it on my YouTube channel. It was a productive way of dealing with the rejection. Now that I am almost halfway through my second year at Emory, I truly believe it was for the best because it lit a light within me that I don't think could have come from anywhere else.

The university that I thought was my dream school told me they didn't want me. I built a thick skin (or thicker skin) with their rejection and gained a lot of strength because I had to. I'm sure I'm not the only person they have taught this lesson to and I'm sure I won't be the last. My heartbreak gave me more strength than I could have imagined and still motivates me to achieve greater things, things I thought were only a part of dreams.

"I am going to make you so proud" -Note to self.

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