Stop Feeling Ashamed About Your Body Because You're Perfect

Stop Feeling Ashamed About Your Body Because You're Perfect

When all is said and done, wear the things that make you feel confident and ignore the people who try telling you not to.

Summer is the worst season for women and men alike. I don't care who you are, the pressure of having the perfect summer body is crushing and painful. You go onto Facebook or Instagram and see these beautiful model like girls and guys that are super fit and skinny. You feel your insecurity rising. Sometimes insecurity doesn't rise first, but rather the need to get a bathing suit just like the on the model is wearing because you can rock it. Then you put it on and the insecurities rise. Either way, the shame of swimsuit season is endless and misunderstood. It's not people being vain or searching for compliments when they voice their insecurity, but rather it's them opening up about they feelings and letting you in. Don't turn them away. Make sure you are being positive and sincere with them and even yourself!

I see all these rude articles telling people what to wear, what not to wear and why you shouldn't wear (insert here) because of your body type or because it's "slutty." Ya'll need to back up and check yourself. No one, and I mean no one, should be telling you what to wear. If you are curvy and want to rock that bikini, gurl, you better. Because it makes you feel confident and comfortable. Shrug those haters off. I, personally, love to wear one pieces or monokini's because that's what I feel comfortable in. You wouldn't believe all the hate I get for it.

"You're so small, wear a bikini!"

"Why don't you wear a bikini? You're so tiny. Oh my gosh."

"Why do you cover up a body like that? There's nothing to be ashamed of. It's rude to the girl who can't!"

"I wish I was skinny like you!"

"I'm so fat and you're lucky you can wear a bikini. You should start wearing swim suits for your body type!"

I don't like bikini's. I don't feel comfortable showing that much skin, not because of my body type but because I'm shy. I also lack the amount of boobage needed to hold up a bikini and not look like a little boy. My final reason is because I have scars all over my body so I like to be covered up. My belly button scar bothers me the most. I didn't ask for these scars, not did I do them to myself.I have my reasons, don't question them. I don't feel like I should have to explain myself and why I don't like wearing what I don't, you know, like. It's silly and hurtful. I never comment on others clothing choices. The examples above are just some of the awkward comments I get. I never know what to say but then, I begin to feel uncomfortable in any swim suit I wear. So do me a favor and don't call anyone out on their swim suit choice because you never know why they wear what they wear.

Boys have the same issue as women. I know someone close to me who wears a shirt in the pool and all around, no matter how hot it is, because he feels he is "fat" or "unattractive." Both not true, but that's how he feels. Men feel insecure just as much as women and it would do us well not to shame them for body issues but rather, for us to encourage a healthier body image and say positive words to our S.O. Never say "Oh my god, you look so fat in that!" Yes, people have actually said that before, I heard it. Even if you are teasing about calling each other fat, don't. It hurts men just as much as it hurts women. Say positive words and leave little notes of encouragement around for them to find. A little goes a long way. Tell them everyday how attractive they are, even if they already know it, and be sure to say, "I love you for you. I fell for you as you are!"

When all is said and done, wear the things that make you feel confident and ignore the people who try telling you not to. I promise you, you'll look great because you feel great. You do you, ladies and gents.

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I Woke up In The Middle Of The Night To Write About My Fears, They're Worse Than The Dark

One minute I'm thinking about what I want to do after college next thing I know I'm remembering the time I tried talking to a boy and choked on my spit.


It is one of those nights when I am tired, but for some reason, I can't seem to fall asleep. So, what do I do? I pull out my laptop, and I begin to write. Who knows where it will lead. It could lead to a killer article or something that does not make sense. I mean it is almost 2 A.M. In my mind, that's pretty late.

Anyways, let's do this thing.

Like many people, thoughts seem to pile up in my head at this time. It could be anything from a time when I was younger to embarrassing stories to wondering why I am "wasting" my time somewhere to thoughts about the future. All of these things come at me like a wildfire. One minute I'm thinking about what I want to do after college next thing I know I'm remembering the time I tried talking to a boy and choked on my spit.

The thought that is going through my mind as I write this is about the future. It's about the future of my fears. Let me explain. I have multiple fears. Some of my fears I can hide pretty well, others I am terrible at hiding. My fears may seem silly to some. While others might have the same fears. Shall we start?

1. My career

I don't know where to begin with this one. For as long as I can remember, my consistent dream job has been working in the world of sports, specifically hockey. A career in sports can be and is a challenging thing. The public eye is on you constantly. A poor trade choice? Fans are angry. Your team sucks? "Fans" are threatening to cheer for someone else if you can't get your sh*t together. You can be blamed for anything and everything. Whether you are the coach, general manager, owner, it does not matter. That's terrifying to me, but for some reason, I want to work for a team.

2. My family

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Failing with my family, whether that be the family I was born into or my future family, it terrifies me. I have watched families around me fall apart and I have seen how it has affected them. Relationships have fallen apart because of it. I have heard people talk about how much they hate one of their parents because of what happened. I don't want that.

3. Time

This could be a dumb fear. I'm not sure, but I fear time. With every minute that passes, I am just another minute closer to the end. With every day that passes that I am not accomplishing goals or dreams I have, I am losing precious time. It scares me to think of something horrible like "What if I die tomorrow because of something horrific?" or even worse, "What if I don't make it through today?" It's terrible, I know.

4. Forgetting precious memories

When I was younger, I had brain surgery. It is now much harder for me to remember things. I am truly terrified that I am going to forget things I will want to hold close to me forever, but I won't be able to. I am scared I'll forget about the little things that mean a lot. I'm afraid of forgetting about old memories that may disappear. I'm worried that I'll forget about something like my wedding day. That might seem out of this world, but it's a reality for me.

5. Saying "goodbye"

I hate saying bye. It is one of my least favorite things. Saying bye, especially to people I don't know when I'll see again, is a stab in the heart for me. I love my people so much. I love being around them. I love laughing with them. Thought of never having a hello with them again scares me beyond belief.

6. Leaving places that I love

Alright, let me start off by saying this- it takes a lot for me to love a place. It has to feel like home. It has to make me feel comfortable. It has to be a place I can go to and be myself. Thankfully, I have had and still have multiple places that are like that. I have also had places I could not wait to leave. I think that's why leaving places I love is so hard and something I fear so much. I am afraid I'll never get that place "back", for lack of a better term. I guess, I'm trying to say, it's like a piece of me is leaving as well.

These six things are just the start of my fears. Some of these might seem "dumb" or "ridiculous" to you, but for me, it's my life. These are the things that I think about the most. These are the things that feel like a pit in my stomach. These six things are parts of my life that mean a lot to me.

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An Open Letter to Soda

You're both good and bad, but you never fail to satisfy me.


Dear soda,

How do I even begin to describe my connection to you? I have shared countless moments with you that we're both my best and my worst. Above all, you fill me up better than water, milk and juice ever do. And even though you're as equally unhealthy as alcohol is (no offense), you're always the safer, if not the most refreshing choice. But even so, you give me more calories than I want in one meal, although burning off that kind of energy is second nature to me.

Before I lavish you with compliments and thank you for cooling me down on hot summer days, it's time to get the unpalatable truth about you and nutrition, soda. You're a primary reason why I'm not in the best shape of my life. Every time I try to have that extra little bit of muscle, you end up setting me back. It's so easy for me to crave for you, because of how delicious you are, and the sugar high you give me is absolutely amazing compared to what I get eating candy and all those other sweets.

I know it's really puzzling for a writer like me to be writing an open letter to a beverage, but you're actually a pretty big part of my life. Why? Because you don't just quench my thirst on hot days, or affect my upset stomach for better or worse, you give me just a smidgen more energy than coffee and tea do. The caffeine in you isn't good for me in the long run, but I need it on a regular basis so I don't zone out during my classes. Honestly, without you, I don't feel as uninhibited as I like to be.

What I love the most about you is that you come in numerous flavors, and even though it's scientifically proven to be ineffective and also tastes worse than gruel, you come in diet form. In every restaurant and cafeteria, you get your own fountain, and students like myself prefer to go there instead of the coffee machines. The hiss of fizz when I open you up makes my mouth water, chills go up my spine and I never resist that first taste of your sugary carbon. Out of all the flavors you offer, I love root beer, cream soda, grape, orange, ginger ale and Dr. Pepper the most. The possibilities with you are so endless.

Soda, the best thing you've ever done for is satisfy me when I didn't feel satisfied.

From one of your many friends,

Konner Donté Watson

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