When you tell a girl that if a boy is mean to her then that means that they like her, you’re setting her up for a twisted image of what attraction and love is supposed to be.
You put in her mind the false view that bullying should not only be tolerated, but accepted as interest. You make her feel like she doesn’t deserve anything more than harsh words, insults, and even violence.
Because of these thoughts, women, as they grow and mature, turn to methods of abuse, addiction, and harm because of the relationships they get themselves into. If you tell a girl that she is honored to receive abusive treatment because it means someone likes her, then she will flock to that kind of behavior in the future. That form of a relationship will appear more and more attractive and enticing and soon, a woman is hooked into that abusive relationship with no way to get out.
This is not the female’s fault. The girl carries no blame in the way she’s treated because she’s told that it’s right. Starting in the early years of crucial development, this idea has been tossed around like it’s nothing to be of concern when, in fact, this issue is more serious down the road.
We, as a society, need to stop telling girls how to feel and start telling boys how to act. There is a difference between boys and men and the way that we can differentiate this difference is how we expect boys to behave. Without simple discipline in this area of development, the pattern of inappropriate behavior in boys and men will never be broken. We need to stop shaming women for something they never did instead of congratulating boys for "getting some" because a girl clearly "asked for it" when they never did.