As this article becomes published, April 13 will probably have passed. On that day, four years ago this year, I lost someone that I never would have thought I would have lost that early. Not a day goes by where I don’t think about her, and I always wonder how not just me, but how everyone who knew her could’ve done better.

Back in September, I wrote about how suicide prevention should go beyond that month, which happens to be Suicide Prevention Month. But moreover, in addition to knowing ways to prevent suicide, I think it should lead to a broader conversation about the importance of mental health, especially at a time that’s considered one to make “unwise” decisions.

Your mental health is something that you should prioritize above all things.

Unfortunately, we live in a society that props up expectations way too high beyond belief. We’re expected every weekend to do at least something productive, whether or not that means doing things that wouldn’t make your family proud. We’re always obsessed over how many people tap a superficial "like button" on our social media posts. We even created the acronym “FOMO”, Fear of Missing Out, to express our harrowing dread at seeing a Snapchat story without us in it or an Instagram post without us tagged.

And as the generation that pioneered the use of social media, we’re wired to use our so-called “FBI” skills to over-analyze these posts. When FOMO kicks in, not only do we turn into intelligence agents, but we also create these fictitious scenes in our head that we rationalize so much, we often mistake it for a reality.

Instead, I think we should all just take a deep breath.

We should take a deep breath and realize that not every event people go to without us does not translate into a secret hatred towards us. We should take a deep breath and realize the slightest abnormal mannerism people give does not mean that person is mad at us. We should take a deep breath realize that sometimes it’s ok to just stay in bed all day and watch whatever we’re binging on Netflix.

While I don’t think it’s a bad trait to speculate in general, I do think it’s bad to speculate on the wrong things. As an overtly social generation, we tend to speculate whether or not every social media post we see without us should be interpreted as a middle finger to us. Instead, we should speculate on whether or not this speculation is just our brains getting the best of us (#Speculate-ception). Because if we are no longer able to discern reality from fantasy, then that will lead to further mental problems that could potentially turn into something worse.