Hey You, Remember These 3 Things Next Time You Go To Compare Yourself To Others

Hey You, Remember These 3 Things Next Time You Go To Compare Yourself To Others

From sitting there scrolling for hours saying "I wish that was me," we are wasting our time wishing and not living. We don't understand that social media is people just put on this facade that we call "their best lives."


Have you ever come home after a long day at work, school, or from just running errands and you hopped on social media to find so many people doing so many fun things? Have you ever said out loud "I wish I could be there...I wish that was me...must be nice to have all that money to spend with your family"?

Then you start to get this depressed mood and feel like your life is never good enough and right now it's just this overflowing circle of things that may never get better. And you just wish you were them. Hey you, stop comparing yourself.

Take a moment and just STOP and realize these 3 things:

1. Remember that your life matters too and it has great things in store.


Stop looking down at your life thinking that it is now the worst thing in the world cause nothing seems to be changing. That since nothing "good" is happening to you that it will never get better and it'll be like this until you die. NO... GIRL... JUST BREATHE. From sitting there scrolling for hours saying "I wish that was me", we are wasting our time wishing and not living. Wishing is an unfulfilled and never promising word. Wishing is a safe word for keeping that distance between actually doing something about it and staying in that mindset.

We don't understand that social media is made for people just put on this facade that we call "their best lives." We are blind to the other side of their lives, and we don't know what's really going on. Social Media wants us to think "wow we have such crappy lives because look at theirs." Comparison sets in to destroy that truth of "your life has meaning."Just because you see someone else's going "perfect" doesn't mean yours has less value. Things will shift into place, sometimes it takes time. And in time everything is made just the way it should be.

2. We fail ourselves if we try to please other people.


In these cases, we try to prove to other people how we are capable of everything, just as those other people are receiving that attention we want that too. So we find ways to get that exact same reaction we see. We try so hard to try to fit in, to try and be accepted by people who we see that have these lives. We just want to be them.

If we live our lives trying to please people and be someone we are not we are never going to really see ourselves, we will lose ourselves in the process. We will change for what... Just to post on social media and feel like we accomplished something? That we grew one step closer to becoming like them? Is that the new life goal nowadays? However, we miss finding the life that keeps you happy, confident, and worth saying to the world "I am happy with all of the things in my life...the good and the bad."

We tend to live in their world by being in the world they are in. To put yourself there and try to find you in that. When that sets us up to find failure because that's not truly us when we wish it is. As we try so hard to be like them we find that we really can't. And that shouldn't make us unhappy, that should let us know there is something better that is made just for us.

3. If you always compare, you will make loving yourself a battle everyday (-SG)


As we sit and stare and compare we end up looking at ourselves in the mirror saying all those things that are really not true. Let's be honest here, we start pointing out all the things we hate. Or we pull out that scale and look down to see that number. We then think if we were them we would be happy, if we had their body we would look that good in pictures, if we had their life we would finally be satisfied. If we were like her and lived so confidently we would do a,b, and c. Comparison stops you from ever living your full life story out.

It stops you from rolling that new deck of dice and makes you believe the last roll was forever and will be just the way it is. That mindset isn't the beauty of truth. You are who you are for a reason and you have such a gift that only you can offer this world. Love yourself, because you need it. Love yourself, and stop looking at what makes you hurt not only your mind but the strength you have left to remind yourself how beautiful you are.

Sometimes we just need a reminder, and I hope this reminded you that we can't keep living our lives looking at everyone else and wanting to be just like them so we can have the happy life we want. We will never reach anywhere if we do that, and the only way we can reach what we desire is if we come to a point where scrolling becomes what I like to call "throwing your phone out the window" and not depending on what to post so you can feel as if people can notice your cool life. Where scrolling becomes analyzing your thoughts and heart and working on them. If you are unhappy and questioning your life every time you see a friend on Facebook, a follower on Twitter, or Instagram and all the "fun" they are having it's not worth tapping on that app.

"It's all about the mindset." -SG


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I Hate That I Struggle To Love My 'Midsize' Body

I gained a few pounds, but that shouldn't be the end of the world, yet it is in a sense.


Junior year of college has been quite the wild ride. I've had the best academic year of my entire life, yet struggled, in the end, to even want to get anything done. I didn't care about a lot of the things that used to matter to me.

I gained weight at the beginning of my second semester and went up a jean size, so half of my summer wardrobe just doesn't fit me anymore, and it's made me feel embarrassed. I went from a size 6 to an 8/10, and while it doesn't seem like a big jump to the average person, it was to me. I don't like looking in the mirror and seeing a bigger pooch than usual, or how my thighs have gotten super irritated because they also got bigger. Chaffing I used to only have in the summer occurred in late January and even scared my inner thighs. It's not cute and it hurts when it flares up. I am terrified to wear my bikinis again because I know they won't fit, and the second I put on shorts my thighs are going to want to kill me if I don't kill them first.

I came to really love my body last summer after struggling through a rough breakup where I stopped caring about myself. I owned myself last summer and as much as I want to again this summer, I'm really struggling with the idea of it.

All I feel like I see on social media are skinny girls with zero hint of a pooch or thick thighs in sight. I've never been a skinny girl and I never want to be, but I can't help but envy the people I've seen online and in person. Of course, what I see on social media isn't really accurate, but it's still been tough to look at these girls who seem like they don't have a care in the world. They can eat whatever they want and still look flawless. They can throw on a bikini and not have to feel like they need to suck everything in so no one sees their pooch hanging over their bikini bottom. As a stress eater who is still too terrified to try on her bikinis, I'm not looking forward to showing my body off when all I want to do sometimes is hide it because I don't feel happy with what I see.

I will always love being a curvier girl and YouTubers like Sierra Schultzzie, Carrie Dayton, and Lucy Wood have given me a new boost of inspiration to embrace the body I have right now. I'm not skinny but I'm not plus sized either. I feel pressure from myself and certain people in my life to be skinnier and not "let myself go." I

'm so happy to have friends who have helped me through my struggles and support me, even when I don't want to support myself. These YouTuber's have opened my eyes to the fact that this body deserves to be loved just as much as my former, smaller body.

I want to love myself with 100% of my being and I hate how much hatred I've allowed to go on inside of me. There is only one me and I need to be proud of her. Maybe she gained some weight and isn't what society expects from a girl, but she's still amazing and has so much to offer.

I wish I could see more girls like me on YouTube or social media offering a representation of my body type, which I hardly ever see. Aerie and American Eagle have done a fantastic job of including different body types and it's been a great help in seeing that they really to make clothes for all types of women, not just a size zero to two. Added representation really does wonders for someone suffering from low body confidence like me.

While I hope to begin my journey into losing a few pounds this summer by jogging whenever I get the chance, I'm not going to put intense pressure on myself to look a certain way. I am single for the summer and exploring life with my best friends by my side. I'm here to be the best version of me that I can. I cannot let negative thoughts about myself to dictate how I feel every day. I am strong, I am beautiful, and I need to love myself and my body as I am.

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11 Things You NEVER Say To A College Girl Trying To Get Into Shape

Just never talk about a person's weight.


When my family and friends joked that I was going to gain 15 pounds in my freshman year of college as a result of the "Freshman 15," I thought it was what it was supposed to be: a joke. However, as the year has come to an end, I realized that I actually did put on a couple of pounds, albeit it wasn't the predicted 15.

As I told those that I wanted to get into an ideal shape for my body, I was met with some insensitive and ignorant remarks. Everyone thought that I mean just losing the weight I had put on.

1. "You walk to all of your classes, why aren't you losing weight that way?"

My legs are more toned than they ever have been before. However, most of the weight I have been gaining has gone directly to my gut (annoying!) and walking does not remedy that. Unfortunately, I have to stick to ab workouts.

2. "But you look fine to me!"

I don't feel healthy to myself. I'm not trying to stay in shape for anyone else, just myself, thanks. I appreciate you trying to make me feel better about my body image but I know something has to be done.

3. "I didn't gain any weight in college."

Good for you. I did. I'm trying to do something about it.

4. "Just stop drinking."

I don't drink. Really, the only liquid I consume is water or iced tea. I don't like soda and alcohol makes me nauseous way too easily.

5. "Isn't the gym free on campus for students?"

Yes, but some people don't like working out in front of others. I am one of those people. My friend lives in an apartment complex that has their own gym and almost no one is ever there but not everyone has that luxury. Also, some are busy and do not have time for a quick jog or to stretch.

6. "You should try this diet/pills/exercise routine."

I am thankful that you are trying to help but my diet is just eating healthy and having a few cheat days in between. I know what exercises work best for me and I am just not taking pills. Bodies adjust differently.

7. "Don't starve/force yourself to throw up."

Trust me, I know. I'm trying to lose the weight healthily. If you do find yourself practicing unhealthy eating habits or realizing your body image is deteriorating, the NEDA Hotline is (800) 931-2237. Please reach out if you are going through hardships.

8. "Won't you have to buy a whole new wardrobe?"

If I drop (or even add) a size or two. We grow out and grow tired of clothes on the regular, what's the difference if you have to buy some because of a weight change? Plus, who doesn't love buying new clothes?

9. "Just eat healthier."

Didn't think of it! Options are limited at college where the dining halls don't offer all that much that is actually good for your body. Now that I'm at home, it's easier. But I'm already trying to eat healthy.

10. "You've evened out since the last time I saw you!"

This is code for you've put on some weight. I hear it mostly from older relatives because my friends will flat out tell me if I've gotten a little chunky.

11. "You're just stressed."

Personally, this one gets me livid. I do admit that when I am stressed or anxious, I do turn to food for comfort but when I am delighted and genuinely happy, will my body magically revert into a fit state?

Sadly, no.

Honestly, I am just trying to get my body back into shape. For me, that means cutting back on greasy foods and kicking a bad habit of sitting on my butt all day. For others, it could mean more or less. As long as your body is in good physical condition and you are content, the number on the scale and others' thoughts shouldn't matter. Take care of yourself.

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