Hey, you.

Close your eyes. Take a deep breath.

I know being angry is the easiest thing to be sometimes, but it isn't worth it. I, myself, was that way for the longest time. One thing would upset me and from there, it was a long spiral down a bad slide. Anyone who crossed my path would run away screaming that they had just seen a demon. However, why would you want to continue to live that way when you can change it?

I remember when my grandma passed away. I was just 13-years-old and it hadn't hit me. After a few months, I started to realize she was gone. I was feeling low, and nothing crossed my mind except being angry. I was so mean to my mom all the time. She didn't deserve that, after all, it was her own mom that passed away. I pushed away so many people because of my own anger.

Now, looking back, I feel horrible for doing that. I couldn't prevent what happened, and being angry got me nowhere. Instead, I should have been looking back on the good times and being thankful for the people I do still have in my life.

My dad once gave me advice to stop being upset over things you can't change. To this day, I still go by this.

If you can't change something, there's less of a reason to be angry than if you can.

You're doing nothing but wasting your time and energy. It's equivalent to talking at a brick wall and expecting a response. In the end, you're nothing but exhausted and angrier! You could be spending that time doing other brand new things instead of dwelling on old ones that cannot be tampered with.

Being angry takes a lot of time. It's actually been proven that smiling is easier for humans than frowning. Right off the bat, you're using more energy being upset. After being angry for a while, negative effects begin to surface. It will cause you to snap at others, isolate yourself, or even push others away. Sometimes, you could even do something you instantly regret, like putting a hole through the wall, or saying something that really hurts someone. Why would you want to spread anger when you could prevent it all together?

Sometimes, the anger is a source of something you could have prevented. What then? You may not be able to change what happened at this point, but you can change the way you react to it.

For example, everyone goes through bad relationships. Some are worse than others. Sometimes, you stay with someone who abuses you in some way or even someone who cheats on you. You put the bad things aside and stay because you love them. Now, you've finally parted ways and you're angry at yourself for staying when clearly the other person overstayed their welcome in your life.

This is a common thing that people go through. I have done it too. I stayed with someone who was toxic for so long and hated myself for doing so when it was finally over.

What's the point?

I don't want to hate myself for something that I didn't know to do. It was a mistake, yes. However, I don't need to live a life of regret for isolating myself and being on edge constantly. Instead, it's best to change your perspective or even the way you think of/do things to keep yourself happier.

There are so many hobbies out there and things we all love to do. Find one of those things and commit to it to take your mind off of the anger. There is so much more out there for you in this world besides for being stuck on one emotion 24/7.

Take yourself away from a bad situation. Stop taking things out on people who had nothing to do with the actual problem. Change the mindset you have before it gets worse. Distract yourself from the problem until it completely vanishes from your mind.

You could be doing a million things besides being angry.

It's all up to you, the decision is yours...