To the author of “To The Girl Who Hooks Up With Everyone” or anyone else who feels the need to bash other women for living their life: listen up because you’re about to get a wake up call.

Let me start off by saying, who do you think you are? Not only did you preface your article with “I’m not shaming you because I’ve been in your shoes” and then proceed to do the exact opposite, but you’re part of the reason why other people feel like it’s OK to slut shame. It’s not OK.

You went through a wild phase due to a bad breakup, but that isn’t why all of us girls do what we do. I know it’s an odd concept, but not everything we do is the direct result of some lame guy. And let’s face it, we girls have needs, too, you know?

Maybe not all of us are looking for our “perfect prince” as you like to call it. Maybe, just maybe, we are okay with doing things how we want, when we want and with whomever we want. Nothing is sexier to you than “going home alone,” but to me nothing is sexier than having the time of my life. That doesn’t decrease my value as a woman.

Let me be the one to tell you that I respect the hell out of myself—and others respect me too—despite my bedroom (or backseat of a vintage mustang) habits. I can be a smart, strong, empowered woman while still hooking up with whoever I want! Girl power!

And if someone has a particular “name” for me that may not be in my favor, I really couldn’t care less. Let them talk. I’ll be out doing my own thing and having a blast while I’m at it.

Last but not least, you say that girls like us don’t want to be embarrassed about our past when the right guy comes along, but who’s to say I’m embarrassed? Lord knows men are doing whatever they want, so I’m not going to deny myself a hell of a time just because the “right man” won’t like it! If he has a problem with my past, then he isn’t my perfect prince anyway.

Next time you want to bash other women because of their life choices, don’t pretend to be saying it “girl to girl;” just say what you mean without the fake front. We can see right through it; I promise.