So this week I was trying to figure out what I wanted to talk about, and then it finally came to me, self care. I always find myself trying to make everybody else happy all of the time that sometimes I forget about making myself happy. It is nice to be a good and caring person always willing to come to the aid of others, but then again if you do it too much, it can be draining, and the thing you really don't want to do is burn yourself out. I was thinking about this throughout this past academic school year, but even more so the sooner finals started to approach. It is always nice to do good things and to help others, because I realized that the way the world works is that the more you give, the more you will receive in the long run. Now, I am not telling you to do things for others solely because you know that your going to get good karma, but I do think that a lot of times people tend to find themselves putting others first.

Now I just want to reiterate that to put yourself first is not a bad thing. Putting yourself first does not mean that you do not care about the needs of others and that you should turn down somebody asking you for help, it is just simply you taking time to practice self care and to take a second to breathe and to resettle your soul and mind.

I realized that I was doing this when it came to finals. I have a friend who always asks me to do math homework, and usually I will gladly make time to help him, because I took the class and did well last semester. however, when we got closer to finals I ended up getting really annoyed and frustrated when he wanted me to help him with his math, because I was overwhelmed with my full schedule myself, and was stressing studying for the finals I had to take.

I actually did end up helping my friend but just not to the capacity that I had been helping him all year. This was a sort of compromise for me, but in all reality I didn't need to help him at all, and that would have been okay. You have to remember what you want and where you want to be at the end of the day, and look at a decision you make in all aspects of it as well as the potential consequences that could arise from them.

I do not regret my decision, and I know that my grades definitely would have been affected poorly if I would have taken time I didn't have to help my friend. This is just an example, but you can apply this to any aspect of your life. This goes for anybody, any age, any situation. You need to make sure you are secure within yourself before you help somebody else, I promise you that you will feel better at the end of the day. If your a mom and you are always doing things for you kids have a me day, if you work every day take a day off, if you've been up studying all night for finals go to sleep for a little bit, do what you need to do to put your self and your health in its best position possible.