It's always hard having to end a relationship. What's even harder is constantly wondering about where they're at, what they're doing, or if they think about you as much as you do them.

So what do we do? We hop right on Facebook, or Twitter, or Instagram and look them up. We almost always end up with hurt feelings.

Speaking from my own experience, I always used to look at my exes on Facebook and instantly felt heartache. Looking at his Facebook made it so much more difficult to just move on and forget about him. It also created a little bit of jealousy in me. I would see him living his life with a new girlfriend and I would almost be angry at the thought of him just going on living his life without a hitch.

For some people, looking at their exes profiles make it easier to get over them but that's not the case for many.

I've spoken with friends and family and the majority of them have looked at their exes social media accounts within the last year, and more than half of them all regretted it after doing so. For some people, stalking their exes Facebook can actually become addicting. It gives some a sense of control and releases dopamine. That's not always from happiness though, it can come from the relief of seeing that they are still single. Like I said earlier, I was one of those people that would rather see that he's still single but that isn't reality.

They're our exes for a reason.

No matter what reason, you parted ways so keep it that way. It doesn't help you to obsess over everything you see them doing. The same can be said for someone who just hops on their exes profile to make fun of them. I know you wouldn't feel good if you found out they were doing that to you so why would you do that to them? At that point, it's time to just let go and move on.

In doing so, stop stalking their pages, and focus on how great your life is without them.

If you're struggling to understand how to stop visiting their profile so much, just take it one step at a time. Slowly decrease the amount you look. Sometimes you may even have to block them. But now that they are out of your life it's time to start doing you. If they want to look, let them look, but don't go out of your way to see what they're doing.

It's not worth it.