It's true when people say time heals. There is no exact time when the pain you feel disappears because everyone heals differently, but with time it does go away.
I believe that there are three stages to one's healing. The suffering does not just go away all at once. You must face the storm to get to the rainbow. Without even knowing, you will experience all your emotions, and that is when you will end up where you are meant to be.
The first stage of healing is sorrow.
This will be the hardest and most painful stage you will go through. I cannot sugar coat this because it is impossible to take the easy way out for this stage. At some points, you will feel as if there are no more tears left to cry and that's okay.
Emptiness fills you and your heart, and there is no one or nothing that can help make that feeling go away. Every day that goes by is a blur to you because the only thing on your mind is the hurt you are dealing with.
This is the stage where you need to get all that sadness out of you so you can keep moving forward. It is so important to do this because if you try holding it all in, you will get nowhere. Time does heal, but you must help that healing process along the way.
The second stage is madness.
You will know when you have reached this stage because you start to feel less sorry for yourself and more angry at the situation. You know yourself better than anyone in the world and how strong of a person you are, and no one can take that away from you. When you realize this, anger takes over you and you begin to prove yourself to the world of how amazing you truly are.
Whoever or whatever has caused you pain, prove to them what kind of person you are, and make it known to them how big of a mistake they made. This anger built up inside you must be released, and that is what makes you into a stronger person than you already are.
The third stage is love.
Love can mean many different things. It does not always have to mean loving someone else or something, but it can mean loving yourself and the person you have become. It is crazy how you can be lying on the floor feeling sorry for yourself to be the person you have always dreamt to be. This is the stage when you stop worrying about what others think and start worrying about yourself.
Thinking for yourself is not always a selfish thing to do. It is a healthy decision you make when you are tired of impressing others. You learn to be alright when you are alone. You don't always need someone there with you to make you happy. Make yourself happy. When you learn to do this, you are healed.