The 10 Stages Of Reuniting With Your Long-Distance Best Friend

The 10 Stages Of Reuniting With Your Long-Distance Best Friend

From planning it out to hugging it out.

Being separated from your best friend sucks, and long-distance friendships aren't always easy. But what makes the distance tolerable is the light at the end of the tunnel, which is reuniting with your BFF. Whether it's every few months or every few years you get to see each other, it doesn't make your reunion any less exciting. Welcome to quite the emotional rollercoaster.

1. When you finally figure out a date for your reunion with your BFF, you tell everyone you know.

Literally everyone, including the cashier at the grocery store. Anyone who will listen will be informed of your pending reunion, whether they like it or not.

2. Planning all the fun things you're going to do together.

You two make a collective list of places you want to go, people you want to see, your favorite restaurants you want to eat at, movies you want to watch, and things you want to do just for old time's sake. This only increases your excitement.

3. Creating a countdown.

And texting each other every day, "only x number of days until I see you again!"

4. Waking up the day of your long-anticipated reunion, and putting on waterproof mascara because you know you're gonna cry.

They're happy tears, OK? Sometimes I can't handle my emotions.

5. Seeing them again for the first time.

You've dreamed about this moment for so long, and it's finally here! It's always more emotional than expected. Good thing you put on that waterproof mascara. Here come the waterworks.

6. Running into each other's arms dramatically like a solider returning from war to his wife.

Is it really a reunion without the all the drama? People are probably staring, and may even assume you're a lesbian couple. But hey, it wouldn't be the first time, since you two have been asked on multiple occasions whether you are dating, and whether you are sisters. And at this point in your lifelong friendship, might as well be.

7. Hugging for like, an hour.

You have to make up for all the lost time! Hugs and cuddles all day!

8. Having the time of your lives together.

And making everyone around you secretly jealous... and/or nauseous over your gushy Instagram posts.

9. Planning how you're going to move in together so your friendship doesn't have to be long distance anymore.

"Just quit your job and come live with me!"

Even though you talk about it all the time, it never seems to work out. So you cherish the time you have together, because you both know how crazy and in the way life can get. But that doesn't mean you're not tempted to just pick up and move across the country.

10. Separating once again.

It's always sad to go your separate ways, but you take comfort in the face that you know you will see her again soon. Separated maybe in distance, but never in heart.

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An Open Letter to the Best Friend I Didn't See Coming

Some people come into your life and change you forever—thanks, bestie.

Dear best friend,

I wasn't expecting you when God placed you in my life. I had my friends. I had my people. I wasn't exactly open to the idea of new meaningful friendships because I had the ones I needed, and it didn't seem like I really needed anybody new.

Thank God that was false. Sometimes you meet people and you just know that you're going to be good friends with. Sometimes you meet people and you realize that there is no such thing as chance. I think God has a funny way of making it seem as if the things that happen to us are by chance, but honestly, that’s a load of crap. If the biggest moments of our lives were left up to chance, then I believe that would make God out to seem as if he didn’t care. It would make it seem as if He was truly abandoning me and making me face some of my most important seasons fully isolated. But you, best friend, are a true testament to the fact that God doesn’t just leave such important aspects up to chance. Thank you for taking a chance on our friendship, and thank you for allowing me to take a chance on what I didn’t realize would be the most impactful friendship in my entire life.

Thank you for being real with me. Thank you for not sugar coating things. Thank you for telling me when I have a bad attitude. Thank you for loving me through my mistakes. Thank you for supporting me in my decisions, even if it isn’t always the decision you would make. Thank you for wanting the best for me, and for making that your true intent behind the words that you say to me, whether they be constructive criticism or encouragement.

Thank you for being a goof with me. Thank you for putting me first. Thank you for seeing the importance of our friendship. Thank you for making time in your schedule for us to just sit and do homework, eat Mexican food, or sit on the porch and listen to music that emotionally wrecks you.

You’re one of a kind. You’re a shoulder to lean on. You’re a safe place. You’re a free spirit. You’re rough and tough, but your heart melts for the people you love and it’s obvious. You’re more than meets the eye. You are worth getting to know. You are worth loving. You pursue people. You are passionate about your future. You are everything that a person needs, and I really thank God that for some reason you continue to choose to be in my life. Thank you for literally dragging me up my mountains of fear when I want to stay exactly where I am at and wallow in the sadness. You bring joy—true joy—wherever you go. You are my best friend, confidant, and biggest fan. You will be the Maid of Honor, Godmother, and fun Aunt.

I used to think lifelong friendships weren’t really a thing. It just seemed like people always grew apart and forever was never a point that was attainable. Best friends forever is a cliché phrase that is continuously overused nowadays (sometimes, I even used to make light of it), but thanks for making that a reality. You are truly the best friend I could have asked for. So thank you for it all. You make life more fun, and I couldn’t thank God more for making an incredible human, friends with me.

I love you, pal!


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The Best Kind Of A Love Is The Connection That Happens Without You Realizing It

You gradually develop a need for this other person, and you have no idea until the moment comes when you need them and they're not there.


What about not doing it the typical way? What about never going on a date together, never discussing feelings for one another, maybe even seeing other people, happily. Why do we not talk about the situations that scare us the most? The best kind of love to find yourself in is the kind of love you didn't know you even fell into.

Have you ever talked to someone often, never crossed a boundary or experienced any moment of awkwardness between the two of you, yet one day passes where you don't speak, and you feel so off?

The feeling like when you're driving your car, and you suddenly freak out because you think you left your keys at home. Well, how is that possible? It's a quick realization, but it always feels like the quickest stab in the gut.

When you notice someone's absence, it makes you question their presence. "We're just friends. Why do I miss them? They're with somebody else. I'm not even attracted to them like that."

There are endless comebacks that pop into our head every once in awhile when it comes to analyzing a relationship in your life. Sometimes, with any situation in my life, I question why I feel what I feel, in the same situation. How can two people do the exact same thing, but I only get mad at one of them? How do I laugh when one person cries, but shake when a different person cries? Why do I mistakenly always say that name, every time I go to say the actual name? Why did I miss that person when they were busy if they were not even mine, to begin with?

Reality hits like a ton of bricks regardless of what it is that's becoming clear to you. I know this idea sounds wild, but how do you fall in love with someone you don't even have a crush on? And it turns out, for once, I don't even have an answer to that.

But, I do know it's possible. I don't know how, but I know it is, and I'm amazed by it, too. I can't help but perceive it as some spiritual, soul-matching, feel-like-i'm-in-space type of thing, that connects two people without them even knowing. You gradually develop a need for this other person, and you have no idea until the moment comes when you need them and they're not there. It's terrifying because there are emotions from every angle possible coming at you full speed with a loaded gun of questions, but it's beautifully scary, and it's something to be so proud of.

It is always going to be worth the risk if it means potentially finding the person who makes you feel whole, but isn't it just absolutely mind-boggling to think the universe took it upon itself to do the hard work for you by putting your other half right in front of your eyes, and just sits back and waits for you to wake up and realize it?

I hope it's not too late when you realize it.

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