In this day and age, everyone is always talking about how it is "relationship goals" for you and your boyfriend to do bible studies together and go to church together and have the exact same faith blah blah blah. Here's the thing: it is not your boyfriend's responsibility to lead you in your faith.

That is a role reserved for the man that God chose for you to be with forever. The man should be the spiritual leader of your household, but not your entire relationship. Before marriage, you are responsible for your own faith. It is your relationship with God, and if you have found someone that pushes you to be better, great, but do not put the responsibility of YOUR faith in someone else’s hands until you know that you agree with that everything that person stands for, and you know that that man will be an amazing leader.

The definition of leader That someone is the man you are going to build a life with.

Too many times there are couples that only go to church if their boyfriend is going to church. They only read their bible with their significant other. They pray only that their significant other will be the one that they end up with. Basically, their faith is nothing without their boyfriend.

This is not the way it should be! Your relationship with God should be intimate and personal and individualized between you and Him. Do not put the pressure of that on another human.

Yes, it is important to find someone with similar morals and values as you, but until you are united as one in marriage, you should still have your own personal relationships with our Father. It is important to motivate each other in your faith walks, but if one is dragging the other who is struggling to keep up, that relationship is toxic.

Do not let someone hold you back, and do not rely on someone to drag you forward. You have to know who you are in Christ as an individual before you can trust someone else with your faith in their hands. That is why it is such a sacred testament when two get married. You are now running the race God laid out for you, together, as one. This should not be taken lightly. The dating relationship should be individual so that when you are married, you have double the strength when running towards God. Neither one should be dragging the other because that will affect BOTH of your relationships with God, and further that will affect your relationship with each other.

Figure out who you are in God as individuals, before you let someone take on the responsibility of leading you and your future family