My Sorority Is The Best Thing I Never Wanted

My Sorority Is The Best Thing I Never Wanted

It feels good to be home.

I once giggled and smirked at the idea of ordering a T-shirt with stylish, stitched Greek letters to be displayed across my chest. I also used to think it was rather peculiar that the girls on my floor would come back from recruitment so stressed, which partially contributed to my initial distaste for Greek life. Who in their right mind would want to cry and lose sleep over a school organization?

Now that I'm on the other side, the concept is no longer "Greek" to me. I am learning to understand the quirks and qualities unique to Greek communities as a whole.

Why do girls who join sororities invest their time and money into these organizations? Why do they place so much emphasis on recruitment?

Girls who are in sororities are looking to find their home away from home in the big, scary world of college life.

I came home a little later than some of the others. I accepted a COB from my sorority about a week after Spring Bid Day 2016, and I couldn't have been happier with my decision. The beginning of my second semester was a time of mixed emotions for me; I had finally felt fully adapted to campus life and how to handle college coursework. I was involved with a few other organizations on campus with the expectation to join more. I had a group of friends with whom I felt comfortable, but I still felt as if something was lacking in my life.

I just didn't realize I was looking for a place to call home until it was right there in front of me.

The negative stereotypes associated with social Greek organizations held me back and continue to hold others back from venturing out of their comfort zone into the realm of sororities. However, now that I have spent lots of quality time with my sisters, I have come to realize that these stereotypes are glorified by the media and Hollywood. Girls in sororities are not the assumed promiscuous and less-than-bright party girls who just wear letters and pearls all the time; we are women of service, grace, brains and faith. We take pride in our letters, our philanthropies, our grades and most importantly, our sisterly bond.

It is the responsibility of current members of Greek organizations to disprove such negative and untrue assumptions regarding our larger community. It is time to take the media focus off of the negative instances reported across the country and to take a closer look at what is done right. We can't keep dwelling on the negative occurrences taking center stage, but we should learn and grow from them.

While Greek life may not be for everyone, and that is perfectly OK, I firmly believe that it can be a saving grace for girls at schools nationwide. It all seems so corny and cliché, but my sorority has made me into a better woman over the last few months, and I know it will continue to benefit me in a plethora of ways. I have people to help me study, to listen to what's on my mind and to offer advice when needed (don't forget the practically never-ending closet or the fact that you always have a Starbucks buddy). I no longer feel lost, or as if I won't find my place here on campus. I have found a home away from home, and an overwhelmingly loving second family that supports me in times of need and celebration.

Greek life is so much more than the photos you see on Instagram, or the various letters worn proudly across campus. If you look past the social media and the personalized apparel, you will observe an authentic embodiment of motivation, empowerment and love.

My sorority is the best thing that I never wanted, but I am forever thankful for being welcomed home with such open arms.

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Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

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Dear teacher that I used to love,

I used to love going to your classes in elementary school.

I used to love the after school activities that you would have.

I used to love coming over spending the night (since I became friends with your daughter).

I loved all the new things everyone introduced me to.

I loved how you would let me stay for a week because the snow wouldn't stop.

But somehow that all began to change...due to one little incident.

It was a misunderstanding, but how it was dealt with at the beginning was not right.

Calling out a high schooler when your the adult also is not the right way

Calling them out on social media is never the right way to deal with things, no matter the situation.

It hurt me that you felt that way about me, and the things that were said on that post hurt.

So when you apologized to me one day about it, and then asking me to come and join an activity like nothing ever happened.

At that time I couldn't forgive because I was still hurt and angry by everything that happened.

From that post it told me how you felt about me, over something that was miscommunicated. But because we had slightly different views on things that worsened things in my opinion.

Sure did I comment on somethings saying my opinion on things? Yes. But it was just to bring in information that most people didn't fully understand, not to bring you down.

Now today if I see you in public sometimes we say hi, but not so much anymore.

I see on social media that you comment on other students accomplishments in school or in life.

But whenever I post something about my life, or an article I get nothing. And honestly, it hurts a lot.

I would think I would at least get a like, but honestly I feel that anything I post doesn't even get looked at.

I have moved passed that post. The hurt is still there though.


Your former elementary school student

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