Dear PNM,

Recruitment is just a week away, and it is probably going to be one of the most stressful experiences so far this year. On top of school work, you are going to be attending endless parties for 10 days straight and it can get draining. School work starts to pile up and you feel like this will never end. The nonstop questions of "what's your major, are you a freshman, where do you live, do you love going to football games too?" get old fast. Being dropped from your favorite sorority or others, in general, is hard and saddening. It almost seems like recruitment sounds like hell— I couldn't even finish it. But just know, it's worth it.

In all honesty, recruitment took a toll on me. It was draining and I couldn't handle it and decided to drop. Little did I know that something good would come out of it. Little did I know that my current sorority was still looking for girls and wanted me. Regardless of the situation, you will find your people. It may seem like that would never happen or it's all a lie, but from experience, I can tell you that it's true. Being dropped from one of my favorite sororities was probably the best thing that ever happened to me because it led me to all of my best friends. If I was never dropped, I would be living a different life without amazing girls I would have never met. Don't get down on yourself and just keep reminding yourself why you're here. Believe me when I say it's worth it.

All I cared about during recruitment was one sorority and I turned a blind eye to all the others. DON'T DO THAT. Keep an open mind. Don't listen to Greek rank or focus on tiers. Greek rank is not accurate, and it's just frats and sororities writing bad things about each other. Instead, focus on the girls you're talking to and the other PNM's in the room with you because who knows--they could be your sisters in just 10 days. Trust the process. Everything happens for a reason and you end up where you are truly meant to be. The process is long, draining, not always fun, but it's worth it.

Pref night is special. Really take it in and value that night. Bid day will be one of the best days of your college experience. You get in your sorority and celebrate with your new best friends after the draining process. You finally get to meet everyone and start making your forever friends. You won't have to go to the gym alone anymore, you'll always have dinner plans, and someone to pick you up when you are down. 60 other girls will always be by your side-- it's almost impossible to feel alone. I am beyond grateful for how everything turned out for me and if you listen to my advice, you will too. Always remember why you are doing it and don't lose hope. Once you are in one, the love is unconditional. In the end, you'll know what I mean when I say it's worth it.