Having A Little Is A lot Like Having A Kid

Having A Little Is A lot Like Having A Kid

I've become an actual stage mom.


Every year, our new members do serenades for the fraternities on campus. My little was participating of course and I wanted to be around to see her enjoy herself. I had a rehearsal of my own that night but made time to run to my sorority house before she departed to make sure she had water and a scarf. I reminded her not to scream as she had an important upcoming audition soon that was much more important that serenading fraternity men. It was at that moment that I knew I had reached full stage mom status.

If you haven't seen my little in every other one of my Instagram posts, then I'm telling you something stupid we did last week or I'm texting her to remind her about our lunch date. We're together all the time. We're always complimenting one another, whether it be harmonizing to songs in the car together or hyping one another up on the internet. She is my world, one of my best friends, my worst enemy, my boyfriend, my hype man, my mother, and my soulmate. I would do anything for her.

Now, I know it's like so cliche. Ya know, sorority girls and their littles, ugh it's so fake, whatever. And I get it. Not every little and big relationship is what it seems (or as good as mine). Some don't work out as planned. Some end respectfully because of parted ways. However, I've never been surer of a relationship in my entire life, and I am thankful for being one of the lucky ones.

I never thought I'd be one to have kids. After having endured one big dysfunctional childhood, I was never sure I wanted kids. I figured I had only ever experienced divorce and that I didn't know what it was like to really raise a kid the right way. I was terrified. Until I received my little in my sorority. I have suddenly and without warning become a real-life stage mom to one of the coolest girls I've ever met.

Being a big is more than buying matching t-shirts and making sure she gets to formal on time. It's being a real mentor. I'm there when she cries and when she celebrates. I'm constantly pushing and helping her strive to be better all while I learn from her at the same time. We're constantly hyping one another up, encouraging one another to pursue what makes us happy, and there to catch each other when we fall. We even argue like mom and daughter. I love her like she's one of my own.

So, while little season is fast approaching and you may be thinking about taking a new little sister or brother in your sorority or fraternity, make sure you evaluate whether or not you are truly willing to put in the effort. New members are scared, often confused, and genuinely need someone in what is one of the biggest traditional periods of their lives. If you can't put in the time to try to make positive, constant change, try re-evaluating before seeking a little. The bond is unbreakable and can change your life if you do it the right way.

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7 Reasons You Should Order A Vodka/Water/Lime When You're Out

There’s a reason the Vodka/Water/Lime is the number one drink at The Strip every weekend.

We’ve all been through it. Whether it was sometime in high school, out freshman year of college or the day we turned 21, at some point you have or will tried to order a drink while you’re out on the town. I’m here to end all the experimentation, and give you a go-to drink that is sweeping across college campuses everywhere, the Vodka-Water-Lime, and the reasons why, are clear to see.

1. It will keep you hydrated

It may seem trivial but hydration is key if you’re planning on drinking any amount any time, or so I have been told. But let’s face it, biology grants us the ability to chug concoctions called 4-Lokos with ease while drinking the recommended amount of water per day almost impossible. The drink that solves both issues—Vodka-Water-Lime.

2. It doesn't taste that bad

I’ll admit I was a little skeptical at first, but this drink isn’t that bad to swallow, especially when you think about some of the other things you could be drinking. There’s a reason why the only way people can drink tequila is in shot from or in a lime slushy. As the old saying goes: if you drink enough everything just tastes like water, and this one already has water in it!

3. It gets you drunk

That’s right. It does the job. Isn’t that really all we want in a drink anyway, everything else is just trivial.

4. It establishes immediate common-ground

What is that girl next to you at the bar about to order? You guessed it. Now imagine that you are about to order the same thing, she is practically begging to dance on you at this point, it’s that easy.

5. Easy, Quick, Universal

There are just three simple ingredients, and the amounts of which are subject to your personal preference and tolerance levels. It doesn’t require the aid of Chet the self-proclaimed mixologist to make—it’s so easy a baby could do it! And it’s known virtually everywhere, if you’re ever in a place that doesn’t have either vodka, water, or limes, you’re probably there against your will anyway.

6. Health Benefits

Since most people don’t drink liquor straight, the use of a chaser or mixer is required, but we all know the problems that causes. Sugar and alcohol don’t mix well, not to mention the calories in soda. Vodka-Water-Lime has not calories and no sugar added. On top of that, the presence of water and lack of soda is almost a guarantee that you won’t be hungover the next day.

7. It's shameless

With all of the numerous benefits, it’s impossible to give someone a hard time for ordering this, yet it happens. Becky’s friends may tell her that she looks great and shouldn’t be concerned about her calories. WELL MAYBE BECKY JUST LIKES THE TASTE. Still, Bradley may get bold and order one out with the boys, but since there’s nothing to crack open, he may be the butt of their jokes, but Bradley knows that he made the right choice.

NOTE: limes can be substituted for other in-season citrus fruits.

There’s a reason the Vodka-Water-Lime is the number one drink at The Strip every week. The facts are there; it’s not fake news. Vodka-Water-Lime should be your new drink. It’s not just something you adopt in college or for a few nights out, it’s a lifestyle. The Vodka-Water-Lime is classy and sophisticated, it is a drink that you can order somewhere fancy like a restaurant or a Carnival cruise ship, or even on your wedding night.

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I'm A Sorority Girl And A ROTC Member, It's The Best Of Both Worlds

Instead of only being in ROTC or only being involved in Greek life, why not be part of both?


I feel like I live a double life. Some weekends I spend going to date parties and sports games. Other weekends, I am stuck in a field doing land navigation and eating MREs (Meals Ready to Eat). A friend once described this lifestyle as having "multiple hats." She explained it as you have a hat for each different part of your life. For example, my main difference is my ROTC and sorority hat.

ROTC stands for Reserve Officer Training Corps. In the short term, this means that I am training to be an Officer in the United States Army. When I graduate college, I will then start my career in the Army. The way I present my "ROTC hat" now is going to determine my career later on. My hat shows me I have to be motivated and strict. My obligations include dedicating my mornings, class time, and extra volunteer hours to ROTC. Being up at 5 a.m. three days a week and taking 21 credit hours my second semester of college is a perfect example of why I have to stay motivated and strict on my self.

Being in a sorority, however, is the perfect breath of fresh air that helps me stay sane. It is a support system and friendship. My sorority helps me realize that college is supposed to be a fun life experience, not just a step in life. My "sorority hat" is carefree and fun. Although I am very busy with my other obligations, my sorority makes it easy to stay involved with date parties and philanthropy events.

In my position, I have been very overwhelmed trying to be successful with every hat I put on. Coming into college, I was very skeptical about sorority recruitment because I was worried about not being able to juggle it all. I am here now finishing up my freshman year of college, so thankful I pushed myself to be completely submerged in involvement. Being as involved as I am has helped me gain best friends as well as great memories.

I have been pushed to the limit these past two semesters, but it shows me what I am capable of. Finishing my freshman year, I am more confident in myself and what I want in life. Having these obligations has helped me develop time management skills. With the help of my two hats, I stay level headed and they have helped me realize that I can be who I want to be. Just because I am in ROTC does not mean I have to fit in a cookie cutter shape of being a cadet, just like being in a sorority does not mean I am a reflection of the stereotype of sorority girls. Just in my first year of college, I have already learned so much from both of these organizations and they have helped me develop into who I am today.

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