Sometimes You Just Have To Let Go

Sometimes You Just Have To Let Go

Keeping the balance is the key to a happy life.

I am an absolute pro at stressing over the smallest things. Lying in bed at night, I will stress about what shoes I will wear with my outfit and wondering if they will match. There’s no need to worry about that at 12 am, but that’s just what I do. I will also sit in class and stress about all the things I need to get done that day, when I can’t do anything about it right then.

Over the years I’ve learned that sometimes you just have to let go. This can be letting go of a class that is just too much, letting go of a task on your to-do list or letting go of a friend that isn’t much of a friend anymore. It’s important to learn this lesson before life gets to be too much.

My wise dad has always taught me to keep the balance. I’m grateful to have learned this lesson young, because it’s saved me from having extra stress in my life. Whenever I was stressing over all the homework I had to do, even though I’d been working on homework all day, he would come in my room and say, “Remember to keep the balance kid”. This can be taken in various ways. Sometimes it meant a five-minute break and other times it meant to go hang out with my friends for the night. It’s all about making sure your life is balanced and you’re not stressing yourself out too much.

Keeping the balance is just like letting go. Sometimes you have to let go of that homework assignment because you’re just so exhausted. There have been so many nights where I’m burnt out from school work that I wouldn’t do an assignment because I physically couldn’t do anymore. I was so worried that because of missing that one assignment, I would be a failure in life. Here I am, years later, and I’m doing just fine.

Letting go of a friend can be hard. You love them and don’t want to end a friendship, but some friendships are more bad than good. When a friendship becomes draining to you, it needs to end. There is no reason to hurt and be used in a friendship. Letting go of a friend can sometimes be the best thing you can do for yourself. It’s okay to be selfish sometimes because you need to take care of yourself.

The most important thing to remember is to take care of yourself. Being aware of the situations you’re in and how you react to these situations is the first step to being a better person. Letting go of that assignment that is stressing you out to the point that you want to cry or quitting the sports team because it’s more stress than fun is an important lesson to learn. Cutting out the things that are holding you back from being the best you can be will benefit you in the long run, and will make life easier.

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A Reminder to Enjoy the Silence

There is so much going on in the world; sometimes we have to be thankful for what’s not happening around us

Another day. Another schedule to follow. More meetings and classes to go to. More work and more things to get done. It seems as if there is an endless cycle of waking up, getting everything done that needs to be done, and struggling to make plans and fit everything in. By the end of the day, you just want to crash into bed and prepare yourself for the next day- a day that may consist of the same exact things you did the day before.

We all live in a world where there is always so much going on. Even during those times we’re alone, there is still something that seems to be happening. Maybe it’s the sound of those outside; screaming and yelling when a snowball fight breaks out. Maybe it’s coming from outside your door; the sound of people running up and down the hallway trying to get somewhere important. Maybe it’s the giggles you hear while trying to study at the next table over, wondering what could possibly be going on.

As people, I see that everyone is striving to be a part of something nearly all the time, regardless of how introverted or extroverted we are. We could be a part of a group, or we could be sitting all by ourselves, taking in everything that is going on around us and wondering what could possibly be happening in their lives at that exact moment.

The point here is that sometimes we need to take a break from all of this. Even if it’s brief. Everyone needs to find a time to get away from all that is happening and to simply enjoy the silence.

Yes, that may seem difficult to do, but to be completely honest, it could most likely be because you are always wanting to know ‘what’s happening’ or ‘what’s going on’.

Believe it or not, it is so much easier to find this break than you think.

When you find that chance- the chance to get away from others and the rest of society, go take a break and find a place where no sound can bother you, or at least as much as you can. Maybe it’s a room that no one uses. Maybe it’s a study spot that no one else knows about. Maybe it’s a simple, short walk outside somewhere.

But when you do this, don’t think about anything at all whatsoever. Clear your mind of everything; your thoughts, your struggles, your curiosity. For me, this would be focusing on noticing surroundings that would not typically appear in my mind throughout a typical day. Close your eyes, relax, and take in the sounds that you would normally overlook during your hectic day.

Is it the sound of a fan that keeps turning on and off? Is it the footsteps of a person walking by on the carpet in heels? Is it the birds chirping or the wind blowing by? If you’re walking, could it be the sound of the ground beneath your feet after every step? Maybe it’s the sound of windows opening and closing at a building you go by. Or, is it simply nothing at all?

This, my friends, is the sound of silence. It is the sound you hear when you finally take a break from reality. It is the sound of everything that doesn’t get any attention during the “typical day”.

This is the sound of what it’s like to clear your mind and not worry about the other aspects that are occurring in your life. It is what you hear when you finally get away and take a break from all that is happening around you. It’s the sound of everything that is overlooked by other “greater” things happening in life.

If you’re so into the world and what’s happening; If you’re worried about what everyone else around you is doing; If you feel the need to be where the rest of society is or have a wanting to “fit in”-- please remember that it’s ok to take a break from everything that is going on. It is ok to take a break from the madness known as everyday life.

It is ok to enjoy the silence- the kind that no one thinks about.

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