Sometimes it Doesn't Quite Feel Like Christmas

We've All Been There: Sometimes, It Just Doesn't Quite Feel Like Christmas

OK, guys, it's finally here. The turkey is gone, December has arrived, and it's finally the Christmas season.


Every year once Christmas rolls around, it seems to me that it was only a few months ago. Ironically, though, I've been anxiously awaiting it all year. Regardless, here I am. In the midst of post-Thanksgiving final projects and exams (the sad reality that awaits every college student), I'm shopping for my family and friends.

It didn't quite register with me that this Christmas season had begun until I heard my the first after-Thanksgiving Christmas carol while grocery shopping once the leftovers were gone. There I was at the register, scoffing at the music because we hadn't even eaten our turkey... until I realized that we had. It was, in fact, finally appropriate to be playing those tunes. So, I began to embrace the Christmas spirit, hum along, and I went back to buy myself some cutesy decorations… until I stepped outside.

Now, Florida is a state notorious for throwing its residents for a loop when the Winter season begins, and as a former resident of Ohio, I can say that I still haven't quite adapted to the 50+ degree temperature gap between the states during Winter. Don't get me wrong, I am overly thankful for the Florida weather on a nearly daily basis every other week of the year, but I will never lose my love for a good old-fashioned cold Christmas.

Because it's been engrained in my mind since a young age that a "White Christmas" is a real Christmas, I haven't quite felt the same around this season since I moved.

Now, not everyone experiences weather-driven setbacks when it comes to embracing the Christmas spirit, but I know I'm not alone in fighting the familiar with the feeling that it "just doesn't feel like Christmas," so let's face the facts together:

When we're growing up, the Christmas season is simply unmatchable. It's filled with cheer, candy, cookies, presents, our favorite movies, extra time with our family, and more. At a point in life when we know so little about the responsibilities and work that goes behind creating such a spirit-filled atmosphere, Christmas truly feels like the best time of year.

Once adulthood begins to set in, it's normal to feel like the magical feeling of the Christmas season is dulling down. Whether you're in school, working to make your own money, living away from home, or all of the above, you likely have a reason that's contributing to these types of feelings. You can buy a Christmas tree, bake cookies, hang lights, and listen to Christmas carols all month long, but sometimes that feeling that it just doesn't feel like Christmas still lingers in the background.

We can commiserate together, but there can still be excitement in your changing feelings toward Christmas. You're growing, and your life is progressing constantly. So, this Christmas season, embrace how far you've come since your days of the ultimate bliss of innocence. Most importantly, try to remember what the Christmas season is really about. Focus less on the "magic" you used to know, and more on embracing the holiday and all it brings. Spend time with your family, enjoy that old and familiar music playing all around you, gawk at the Christmas colors and warm lights, and enjoy the opportunity to give to the people you love.

Hang those lights, bake those cookies, and blast those tunes. When you start to remember the magic, feel the magic. When it doesn't quite feel like Christmas, look around and appreciate the season for all it brings. Enjoy it.

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To High School Seniors In Their Last Semester

Senior year moves pretty fast, if you don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.


Dammit, you made it. The final semester of your senior year. You're at the top of the food chain of high school, and it feels so good. You're probably praying this last semester flies by, that you get out of town as soon as possible.

At this point, you're calling teachers by their first names, the entire staff knows you by name, and you're walking around school standing tall, owning those hallways. You're convinced you're ready to leave and move on to the next chapter in your life.

You've already experienced your last football game, standing in the cold in the front row of the student section all season long, decked out in your school colors and cheering loud and proud. That is, until they lost, and you realized you will never have that experience again. Never again.

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You already had your last winter break. Preparing and celebrating the holidays with your family, ice skating and sledding with your best friends. Those quiet nights alone in your room watching Netflix, taking for granted your loved ones just a few rooms away. Never again.

If you're an athlete, you may have already played in your last game or ran your last race. The crowd cheering, proudly wearing your school's name across your chest, giving it your all. For some, it may be the end of your athletic career. Before you knew it, you were standing in an empty gym, staring up at the banners and thinking about the mark you left on your school, wondering where on earth the time went. Never again.

I'm telling you right now, you're going to miss it all. Everything you've ever known. Those early mornings when you debate going to first hour because you really need those McDonald's hash browns. The late nights driving home from practice, stopping for ice cream of course, ready for a late night of homework. Getting food on a whim with your friends. Endless fights with your siblings. Your favorite chips in the pantry. A fridge full of food. Coming home to and getting tackled by your dog. Driving around your hometown, passing the same sights you've seen every day for as long as you can remember. Hugs from your mom after a long day. Laughs with your dad. And that best friend of yours? You're going to miss them more than anything. I'm telling you right now, nothing will ever be the same. Never again.

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Before you start packing your bags, slow down, take a deep breath, and look around. You've got it pretty good here. The end of your senior year can be the time of your life, it's truly amazing. So go to the winter dance, go to Prom, spend Senior Skip Day with your classmates, go to every sporting event you can, while you still can. College is pretty great, but it's the little things you're gonna miss the most. Don't take it for granted because soon, you'll be standing in a packed gym in your cap and gown, wondering where the heck the time went. You've got a long, beautiful life ahead of you, full of joy but also full of challenges. You're going to meet so many wonderful people, people who will treat you right and people who won't.

So, take it all in. Be excited for the future and look forward to it, but be mindful of the present. You've got this.
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Christmas Of Remembrance Series: My Last Letter

Christmas time is not about the gifts... It is about something far, far more special.


Dear Reader,

Thank you for your time.

This is a series that I have dedicated to those I have loved and lost. It was merely a thought, then an idea, and now a realized creation. Christmas time… all winter really is a hard time for me. It holds this duality in my life of being both my favorite and also my least favorite and difficult time of year. It has been that way for years now.

In a way, this series aids my closure and healing further, and it allows me to tell my story in a way that, to me, is less scary (one of the many great facets of this platform). It was never my intention to write this in order to reach people, or encourage people, or serve as an inspiration to anyone. This was for me and only me. No one else. But, if these pieces of writing do impact someone, somewhere, or make them feel encouraged or inspired in some way or another, or just simply make them feel, then I hope you have enjoyed them. If I can make someone feel, then I guess I have done my job.

The life of an artist is often an uncertain one. The life of a human is a trying one. But life is a journey, and all journeys have their trials. Their tests. Their triumphs and rewards. And they all have their losses. What matters most is what you make of all of it. What lessons you learn. What changes you make. What life you create for yourself. What art you create because of it all. It can be very, very hard. But it can all be glorious at the same time.

At the heart of this series, my words, there is this deep and valuable belief of mine: Christmas (or the Winter Holiday that you may celebrate) is so much more about presents and cooking and shopping and all that other bullshit… it is about family.

The family that is related by blood. The family that surrounds your heart. Your Mom. Your brother. Your dearest friends. The bonds that make life valuable. Worth living. These bonds are soulful bonds, ones that are far more special than any mere trivial object. So… be with them. Forgive. Forget. Heal. Mend what is broken. Reassemble what has been shattered. And stop worrying so much. Laugh together. Cry together. Heal on another. Heal together. And may your new days be better, brighter, and full of love.

Happy Holidays.


A song for you...

"Sense of Home" — Harrison Storm / YouTube

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To My Fellow 孤, The Sons Without Fathers On Father’s Day

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