Everyone has heard it once in their life, or if you're like me, multiple times:

"It's not you it's me."

"I need to work on me."

"Lemme deal with my problems first."

"I just don't want this."

The concept took me a long time to wrap my head around. From watching TV and movies and always seeing relationships eventually work out, that ever living silver lining was engrained in my mind. If I worked a little harder, prayed a little longer, or spent a little more money, the person would eventually come around. I could change them by actions I was doing to make myself feel better about the situation, it's a mindset we all hold.

This could not be further from the truth, because the harsh reality is if someone does not want you, not a single thing can be done to change it. It's no fault of your own, but not everyone is meant to be. Eventually looking at the situation, you will see the negative tones made it unhealthy. While you were making yourself happy, you failed to look at the fact both parties need to be happy, both need to be getting what they want out of the relationship.

We live in a social media driven society in which we are told everything can be fixed. We are super woman (or super man) and if we try hard enough, it can be fixed. Some things are not meant to be fixed, and that's the harsh reality. We have to constantly be wanted, to be liked, to be loved, to be approved of. We forget the opinions of others are just that– opinions from others.

Sitting back and realizing you can't fix everything is a revolutionary feeling. Everyone does not need to be fixed. The world does not need to fall on your back. Being content in yourself is more important than making someone else content with something you are not happy with.

When you come to terms with being happy with who and what you are, the need for someone to need you disappears.