Slaying Confidence In Your 20's

Slaying Confidence In Your 20's

The trick about confidence is that we all wear it a little bit differently and give it our own definition.

Lets face it, confidence is not the easiest quality to wear for some people in this life when your facing all these complexities of the world. We need it though, so we can get through life as gracefully as possible. Don't stress too much with trying to figure out how to go about being confident because it's not something that happens over night. You're probably sitting here reading this and laughing but you know for some people this is hard on them. Some people embrace their confidence with no problem while others struggle because they aren't quiet ready to be noticed by everyone.

Confidence is the solution to feeling entrapped by societal expectations. The world would be so boring if we were all the same, am I right? The trick about confidence is that we all wear it a little bit differently and give it our own definition. Confidence is not being cocky, it's being 100% content with the awesome human being you have the potential to be every single day of your life. Here are 7 ways to slay that confidence in your 20's:

1. Experiment with different styles

Once again, confidence can be seen and has a lot to do with how you view yourself. Experimenting around with different styles and which one works for you is the first step for you to walk confidently anywhere you go. Also, your comfort should always be something that remains the same.

2. Add self love to your daily routine.

Establishing a dedicated love and respect for yourself will allow you to accept nothing less from the world. You love everything about yourself and go out there and let the world see it. You do you!

3. Be straight forward about your feelings.

Don't be shy about your feelings and how you feel. Confidence is all about expressing your feelings and addressing them if needed. Being direct makes you real.

4. Don't compare yourself to other people.

LITERALLY EVERYONE IS DIFFERENT! This is what makes life beautiful because every human out there is different from the next. BE YOU.

5. Accept things that you cannot change.

Accepting that there are times when you will not be able to control every situation is building your confidence. You letting the universe unfold what is supposed to happen and have faith you can handle whatever is handed in your life.

6. Enjoy your own company.

If you enjoy your own company than others will more likely will too. You know what you have to offer as a person when you're just down right comfortable with your own company. Clearly, you're awesome and kicking butt at this thing called life.

7. Establish your own definition of happiness.

Confidence + Happiness= walk hand in hand . If you have one you likely have the other. Once you've found your own definition of happiness and have cherished it you can confidently face anything in this world. Confidence really is something you have to build over time, but it's never too late.

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A list Of 15 Inspiring Words That Mean So Much

A single word can mean a lot.

Positivity is so important in life. A lot of times we always go to quotes for empowerment but I have realized that just one word can be just as powerful. Here is a list of inspiring words.

1. Worthy

Realizing your self-worth is important. Self-worth can really make or break a persons personality. Always know that you are worthy of respect. And also, never compare yourself to others.

2. Courage

Be courageous in life. Life has so many opportunities so do not be scared to grasp any opportunity that comes your way. You have the ability to do anything you have your heart and mind set to do, even the things that frighten you.

3. Enough

When you are feeling down and feeling that nothing you do is ever good enough, know that you are more than enough. And yes there is always room for improvement but when it comes to my self-worth I always have to remind myself that I am enough.

4. Blessed

Be thankful. A lot of times we forget how blessed we are. We focus so much on stress and the bad things that are going on in our lives that we tend to forget all of the beautiful things we have in life.

5. Focus

Focus on your goals, focus on positive things, and focus on the ones you love. Do not focus on things that will keep you from not reaching your goals and people that do not have good intentions for your life.

6. Laugh

Laughing is one of the best forms of medicine. Life is truly better with laughter.

7. Warrior

Through the good and the bad you are a warrior. Be strong, soldier.

8. Seek

Seek new things. Allow yourself to grow in life. Do not just be stuck.

9. Faith

During the bad times, no matter the circumstances, have faith that everything will be all right.

10. Live

Start living because life is honestly way too short. Live life the way you want to live. Do not let anyone try to control you.

11. Enjoy

Enjoy everything that life has to offer. Enjoy even the littlest of things because, as I said before, life is short. And plus, there is no time to live life with regrets.

12. Believe

Believe in yourself and never stop. Believing in yourself brings so many blessings and opportunities in your life.

13. Serendipity

A lot of times we look for things to fill an empty void that we have. Usually what we are looking for comes when we are not looking at all. Your serendipity will come.

14. Create

Share your ideas with the world. Creativity brings change to your life. However you chose to use your creativity do not be scared to show your intelligence, talent, and passion.

15. Love

The world is already full of so much hate, so love unconditionally with all your heart.

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Dear College Kids, Contact Your Legislators

Finding your political voice can seem daunting but it's important to realize that our legislators are just normal people who happen to work for us in government.


As we come to the end of another legislative session, it's important to reflect on all of the good that has happened but also the things that need work on. After entering college, my political voice and passion have only increased.

I definitely cared about politics in high school but after entering college and finding a group that helped me find a community gave me more courage to speak up about the things that I care about.

There is such power in a community. And that is something that I never realized that I was missing until I had it. I completely understand how daunting it can seem to start getting politically vocal.

Especially if you have unpopular or controversial opinions. As someone who grew up in an extremely conservative region, it took me a long time to feel comfortable and confident standing in my beliefs which largely align with the left. But the only thing that I can tell you is that your minor discomfort and fear is so worth it.

I remember being nervous to display that first planned parenthood pin, not to mention that first nerve-wracking call to a legislator. But I can tell you from first-hand experience that it is not nearly as scary as it appears. It is easy to see our legislators as people standing on pedestals that are so far detached from our reality.

But the reality is that our legislators are normal people. They are mothers, fathers, carpenters, activists, and from a million other walks of life. And it truly helps to change your perspective when you contact your representatives. It helps you to feel more comfortable around them and it helps to prove that our legislators are everyday people.

They are everyday people with power only granted to them by us. Our legislators work directly for their constituents. And so even if your legislators have polar opposite opinions to yours, it is still imperative that we voice our opinions.

How are our legislators supposed to know that their constituents care about reproductive healthcare, comprehensive sex education, LGBTQ+ protections, and so many other issues that directly affect our daily lives?

I cannot stress enough just how important these seemingly small steps of action are. Call your legislator. Email them about an issue you care about. If you have the chance, attend a lobby day about an issue that you feel passionately about.

In our society, it's easy to view people in power as distant and out of reach but we cannot forget that the United States was founded on the rule of the people by the people. So people, call your legislators.

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