We've all been there- in the high school cafeteria line or grocery store thinking about what to eat. At least for me, I've gotten looks from the lunch ladies or strangers in the aisles when I reject an item that would help me gain weight like an extra vegetable or package of protein powder. If I'm ever approached or someone comments on my behavior, I look at them with a straight face and say, "It's none of your business what I do because it's my body and not yours."
I live by this motto every day because I'm the one who sees my body in the mirror when I wake up. Your body shape naturally changes throughout the day, and society has placed an unbearable weight on each of our shoulders, screaming that we need to be "perfect."
There is no such thing as perfect because we are all beautiful in our own way. I am writing to you as the girl whose hip bones protrude from her skin and whose ribs you can feel with a brush of a fingertip. Of course, I feel insecure about those things sometimes, but then I have days where I feel so beautiful, and like nothing or no one can hurt me.
Skinny shaming is just as bad as fat-shaming, but fat-shaming is talked about more because society expects nothing but perfection. Calling someone a "skinny-mini" or just skinny isn't a compliment, and it has never been. I personally feel incredibly awkward and insecure when someone comments on my weight. It's like religion, politics, and mental health--- you just shouldn't comment on other people's lives. A lot of people argue that we're just "sensitive," but that simply isn't true.
Hearing "You need to eat a cheeseburger" isn't helpful whatsoever, and neither is it effective. Some people have really fast metabolisms, and I agree with this because I eat regularly throughout the day along with snacking, and my weight doesn't change. I receive a lot of backlash from this like, "You're so lucky" or "Ugh, I wish I had your figure." These comments used to make me feel good, but just being healthy should be the goal. You should want to be healthy and live a long, happy life instead of worrying about what your body looks like after a meal.
Another point I want to touch on is the recent flood on social media about how flat stomachs aren't actually flat stomachs in high-waisted jeans or other clothing items. News flash: Women have beautifully complex reproductive systems in their abdomen and gut area, and sometimes that area sticks out, but it doesn't necessarily mean they're unhealthy.
Speaking of clothes, as a "skinny" girl myself, there is quite a discrepancy in clothes in sizes 00 and 0. I know what you're all thinking, I'm lucky that I'm this little in the first place. Contrary to popular belief, I'm not because I see a lot more styles in sizes 4-14 then I do in 00-2. I know a lot of people in my life make excuses for their comments by saying they're doing it out of love or concern, but being insensitive doesn't create sensitivity toward my situation, it just makes it worse.