"I'm single for the summer, I won't rebound. One lover to another, or be tied down. 'Til I'm sleeping like a queen in a California king I made (I made, I made)I think it's time to take a heart break" - Lady Antebellum (Heart Break)

Summer is seen as the time for sleeping in, getting tan and summer flings. It seems like everywhere you turn you see couples together on the beach or enjoying the summer days. As for me, I am perfectly content with being single for the summer. But I wasn't always this way.

Dating has turned into this "game" if you will. Tinder and other apps create an endless cycle that treats your emotions like a rollercoaster. There is that instant validation with a notification saying "It's A Match!" Then you get all giddy and excited as the roller coaster climbs higher and higher. You'll start talking and get his number or Snapchat. You're starting to feel really good about yourself and make plans to meet up and go on a date. You're feeling confident at the top of the rollercoaster, you're on top of the world. Nothing can tear you down.

Then is comes crashing down - fast. They either ghost you or the date is a flop. Or you thought the date went really well but then never hear anything from them again. You're just left sitting there at the bottom of the rollercoaster confused and hurt. And then the cycle starts back over the rollercoaster keeps moving. Its a trap that can easily suck you in.

And if I'm being honest, it can do a number on your self esteem. Your worth suddenly gets tied down to an app and other people's opinions of you. It can leave your emotions in a tangle and you feeling very vulnerable. Now I'm not saying this is what it is always like- I have some friends who have met their serious boyfriends this way. But for a lot of us, we get trapped in the game.

And I am tired of playing it.

I realized that I was sucked in and that it was time to break free and just enjoy myself this summer. Deleting those apps was one of the best decisions I have made. It felt freeing. It also made me realize just how terrible it made me feel about myself. It is crazy the power that those apps can have. But I knew that I was worth more than any stupid app could say.

Being single for the summer is often surrounded by social negativity. But for me it has been a positive thing. It has allowed me to appreciate the world around me and grow at peace within myself. And sure, summer flings and cute beach dates sound fun and all, it is more important to be happy with myself. And I am! So like Lady Antebellum said, take a heart break and enjoy the summer for you.