Relationships can sometimes be difficult to maintain and/or confusing as to how you’re “supposed” to behave. Although I have never been in a romantic relationship, I have developed certain traits that are vital in any type of relationships from the friendships that I have made and lost throughout my life.

In order to withstand a romantic relationship, one must first learn to be a good friend and develop a strong relationship with others, especially the person you are interested in pursuing. That being said, one thing may lead to another rather quickly. In this case, you should still be a friend to him or her and get to know one another.

Here are 12 things I find to be vital in sustaining a strong and healthy relationship.

1.Communication is key.

Let each other know upfront what you’re comfortable doing and reiterate that as needed. Also, be each other’s best friend. If and when something happens, whether good or bad, you should be one of the first people you each turn to.

2. Set boundaries.

Tell each other what is acceptable in your relationship and what is not. Manage your time so that you can be together and still be able to spend time alone or with friends and family.

3 Be yourself.

Let him or her get to know the real you and don’t pretend to be something you’re not. If you’re insecure about something, or if your SO has a habit you disapprove of, talk to them about it and come up with a solution together.

4. Never settle.

If you feel that you need more than you’re getting, don’t feel obligated to leave things as is. Express your feelings with your partner in a calm manner and talk (don’t yell) it out. But if you feel it’s a deal breaker, move on.

5. Keep an open mind.

You might not feel strongly towards them at first, but (s)he may grow on you. If little things bother you, remember that sometimes people cope with things differently than others. Do not shut someone out without trying to get to know them first.

6. Don’t rush.

Go at a pace that’s comfortable for the two of you & only do things because you BOTH want to. NEVER feel pressured to do anything you’re not ready for.

7. Treat each other like royalty.

Make him feel like a prince or her like a princess. Just remember that mom’s the Queen.

8. ...But don’t smother.

There are other ways to show your appreciation besides rubbing it in their face every minute. Actions speak louder than words.

9. Encourage one another.

Be each other’s cheerleaders and bring out the best in one another. One way to do this is by acting in a graceful way so that (s)he would want to emulate you.

10. ...But speak up if you feel they are wrong.

Whether it be dangerous or something that doesn’t resonate well with you, tell them that straight away. After you hear them out, and you’re still not completely sold, tell them you will think about it. If you choose to do this, ACTUALLY think about it.

11. Speak your mind.

Share your opinions with your sweetie and have a constructive conversation about it. Listen to what they have to say and do not be alarmed if your opinions differ.

12. ...But don’t preach.

Have a meaningful conversation rather than harping on a topic for an extended period of time. If you’re on the opposite end of it, try to subtly change the subject and/or let your partner know you’re uncomfortable.

Relationships can be stressful, but they can also be beautiful. In order to keep things running more smoothly, BOTH parties ought to put in the initiative to ensure they feel loved and supported.

Although there are other guidelines to keep in mind, they don’t mean shit if you’re not happy. Don’t worry, be happy you have someone in your life who loves you in a way no one else can.